Are married women bullied less at work?

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Are women who are married less likely to be bullied than a single woman with no kids??

Specializes in Pediatrics, Emergency, Trauma.
You have completely missed the point. Aren't you tired of feeling like you aren't in control of your circumstances and the events of your life? Isn't it frustrating feeling like a victim all the time? Honestly! Even if you were legitimately being bullied and all of these people really were doing all of the horrible things you say - you have a CHOICE in this. Who is calling the shots in your life? Them? Or you?! Y

You are in for a long life of frustration and powerlessness allowing people t manipulate you if this is the attitude you choose to have in your life. Girl, I could tell you horrible stories of abuse, violence, victimization and straight up tragedy, and I'd only be summarizing my life from ages 10-15. The difference? I can be victimized, or I can be empowered. I choose empowerment over victimization and day of the week. Empowerment gives me choices. Empowerment gives me victory. Empowerment gives me accomplishment. Empowerment gives me strength. You want to bully me? You want to hold me down? You can't, because I won't give you that power over me. If you try to anyway, I change MY life, MY actions. The ONLY person you can change is yourself. You can point your finger at the world, but in the end, what does that actually do for YOU?

Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent, because you have to choose to feel inferior. Emotions, status, these things are things you CHOOSE to feel. And another tidbit so I can go ahead and climb off my soap box - people tend to treat you in the way you expect them to. If you expect people to treat you like crap and to victimize you, they will. Mostly because that's what you CHOOSE to see them doing, but also because when you cry "bully" over and over again, it gets irritating, especially to those of us who have ACTUALLY been bullied in life and have experienced the terror that exists in those situations. That frustration WILL get projected toward you, further making you believe you're being bullied. Isn't that cycle tiresome? Aren't you tired of it?

THIS a MILLION times over!!!

It does get irritating for people to NOT face the issues that they deal with; I think OP needs to step back and realize she had more power than she realizes...

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Specializes in Pediatrics, Emergency, Trauma.
You clearly don't know anything about the inside life of Eleanor Roosevelt. She was the "ugly" wife and it was rumored that her husband had a mistress. She was awkward and insecure by nature.

Which makes her quote TRULY genuine and appropriate...spoken from a place of truth...how empowering! :yes:

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Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
So, the lady was right when she told me men don't date girls like me? I guess I deserved that insult amongst others

For pity's sake. Just let that one go. It was rude, inappropriate and none of her business, but it wasn't bullying.

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Specializes in Critical Care.
Because I feel that my marital status plays a part in getting bullied. I had a older woman in the nursing program approach me and say "men don't date girls like you"…this was out of the blue. I was minding my own business when she said that. And then the other girls in the program talk about their boyfriends/husbands/kids a lot and well…I don't. Not in a relationship nor do I have kids. This makes me easy prey. I thought if I was married or had kids I would fit in a lot more & not get bullied or ostracized.

The next time she makes a rude comment say something! "How rude! Were you born in a barn?" or even "Whatever" or "I date girls". You can always pretend you have a boyfriend how will they know if you don't discuss your personal life? It really is none of their business, but don't think you are singled out because you're single, because I'm sure they make comments about the deadbeat boyfriend/husband of their coworkers. For some odd reason, many nurses hook up with deadbeat losers or even abusers so count yourself lucky that you are not in that situation! When I see my coworkers in these toxic relationships I count myself lucky to be happy and single! I would never put up with the crap some people are willing to just to not be alone.

Look at the bright side as a single nurse you make good money, have your freedom, independence can do anything you want to do with your time and money. Enjoy your freedom, take a nice vacation, reward yourself with a massage or new outfit. You can pamper yourself without someone questioning the cost or telling you what to do or wear. I know a lot of unhappy, miserable married women and most stay over the lack of money because they can't get by on their own financially.

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It's sad, but I believe so....

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Specializes in Leadership, Psych, HomeCare, Amb. Care.
Because I feel that my marital status plays a part in getting bullied. I had a older woman in the nursing program approach me and say "men don't date girls like you"…this was out of the blue. I was minding my own business when she said that.

And then the other girls in the program talk about their boyfriends/husbands/kids a lot and well…I don't. Not in a relationship nor do I have kids.

This makes me easy prey.

I thought if I was married or had kids I would fit in a lot more

& not get bullied or ostracized.

Although the rude statement by itself isn't bullying, perhaps she is indeed a bully. I don't know either of you, can't say.

But, perhaps the highlighted portion is the most relevant. You are single, yet surrounded by people in relationships, many with their own families. Not fitting in, feels of alienation, can all be painful. Is there an EAP program you can contact. Might be more useful to you than an anonymous forum.

I hope you work this out.

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Although the rude statement by itself isn't bullying, perhaps she is indeed a bully. I don't know either of you, can't say.

But, perhaps the highlighted portion is the most relevant. You are single, yet surrounded by people in relationships, many with their own families. Not fitting in, feels of alienation, can all be painful. Is there an EAP program you can contact. Might be more useful to you than an anonymous forum.

I hope you work this out.

It's nice to see a calm compassionate answer from you and brandy1017 amongst all the piling on from a certain sector of this forum.

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Specializes in SICU, trauma, neuro.

Asking you to pick up isn't bullying. If you don't want the hours, decline the request to work and stop expending energy over it.

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Specializes in MDS/ UR.
It's nice to see a calm compassionate answer from you and brandy1017 amongst all the piling on from a certain sector of this forum.

You think perhaps you are doing the same thing here you are saying others do?

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Specializes in Nurse Leader specializing in Labor & Delivery.
You think perhaps you are doing the same thing here you are saying others do?

I don't think so. I don't think chastising people about being mean is the same as being mean. I do think Kungpoo could have done it in a less passive-aggressive way, but I don't think she's being mean or unkind by calling us out on what she perceives as unkindness.

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Specializes in MDS/ UR.
I don't think so. I don't think chastising people about being mean is the same as being mean. I do think Kungpoo could have done it in a less passive-aggressive way, but I don't think she's being mean or unkind by calling us out on what she perceives as unkindness.

She can certainly have her say. No arguments there, I do however take her wording as a slap against a group. I see that perpetuating the very thing she is rallying about.

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The Princess Bride came out about 30 years ago. :)

Funsucker.

Never saw it. In fact, I've never even heard of it until now.

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