Are married women bullied less at work?

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Are women who are married less likely to be bullied than a single woman with no kids??

*Okay, I laughed at this. I know it's serious; I couldn't help myself.

**OP, I took a moment to look over your previous posts at this website. The overwhelming theme is that you are a victim. Things are happening to you, and are never your fault or responsibility. As long as you have that attitude in life, you will be "bullied" everywhere you go.

*This is not gaslighting

**Neither is this

I don't need your validation about my situation. I KNOW I was bullied. You were not there

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I think no matter what your marital status, you are going to perceive yourself as being bullied.

Your posts are overwhelmingly about being victimized. You need to take a hard look at YOU instead of whining about the world not being fair to you, people being mean to you, circumstances being out of your control.

Wherever you go, there you'll be.

This approach does nothing but let the bullies off the hook. BS advice.

"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent" Eleanor Roosevelt

I absolutely hate this quote. Pure BS and it lets the bullies/victimizers off the hook. This woman was born wealthy and married to a President; she lived a privileged life. she was never in a position to be inferior to anyone

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Stop deflecting. Leave the past in the past. If you want to contribute to the topic of this thread do so, but dragging up old posts that happened months ago is highly inappropriate

Goes to pattern. You state that you "know" when you are being bullied. I simply pointed out that you accused us all of bullying you before when NO ONE was. We were just telling you a truth that you didn't want to hear. Kind of like on this thread.

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Goes to pattern. You state that you "know" when you are being bullied. I simply pointed out that you accused us all of bullying you before when NO ONE was. We were just telling you a truth that you didn't want to hear. Kind of like on this thread.

So, the lady was right when she told me men don't date girls like me? I guess I deserved that insult amongst others

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and yes, I am being bullied in this thread. People bringing up past posts, invalidating my experiences yep all bullying. Say what you want.

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So, the lady was right when she told me men don't date girls like me? I guess I deserved that insult amongst others

Not one poster in this thread has said ANYTHING about what that woman said being true. We don't know you save for what you post on this forum, clearly we are not in a position to judge your dating life. If you would like to discuss dating, I believe there is a forum for that in the Break Room. That woman made an insensitive comment and evidently has no filter. That does not mean she was bullying you.

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This approach does nothing but let the bullies off the hook. BS advice.

And what exactly is your approach doing for you other than allowing you to wallow in self-pity?

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Telling someone that "men don't date girls like you" is not considered bullying? What do you call it then?

You call it rude, intrusive and none of their business. And then you forget it.

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I only named one circumstance but this person repeatedly made nasty comments towards me. I was bullied. It hurt my feelings. And she was wrong.

Neither hurting your feelings nor being wrong is bullying.

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This approach does nothing but let the bullies off the hook. BS advice.

I absolutely hate this quote. Pure BS and it lets the bullies/victimizers off the hook. This woman was born wealthy and married to a President; she lived a privileged life. she was never in a position to be inferior to anyone]

You have completely missed the point. Aren't you tired of feeling like you aren't in control of your circumstances and the events of your life? Isn't it frustrating feeling like a victim all the time? Honestly! Even if you were legitimately being bullied and all of these people really were doing all of the horrible things you say - you have a CHOICE in this. Who is calling the shots in your life? Them? Or you?! Y

You are in for a long life of frustration and powerlessness allowing people t manipulate you if this is the attitude you choose to have in your life. Girl, I could tell you horrible stories of abuse, violence, victimization and straight up tragedy, and I'd only be summarizing my life from ages 10-15. The difference? I can be victimized, or I can be empowered. I choose empowerment over victimization and day of the week. Empowerment gives me choices. Empowerment gives me victory. Empowerment gives me accomplishment. Empowerment gives me strength. You want to bully me? You want to hold me down? You can't, because I won't give you that power over me. If you try to anyway, I change MY life, MY actions. The ONLY person you can change is yourself. You can point your finger at the world, but in the end, what does that actually do for YOU?

Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent, because you have to choose to feel inferior. Emotions, status, these things are things you CHOOSE to feel. And another tidbit so I can go ahead and climb off my soap box - people tend to treat you in the way you expect them to. If you expect people to treat you like crap and to victimize you, they will. Mostly because that's what you CHOOSE to see them doing, but also because when you cry "bully" over and over again, it gets irritating, especially to those of us who have ACTUALLY been bullied in life and have experienced the terror that exists in those situations. That frustration WILL get projected toward you, further making you believe you're being bullied. Isn't that cycle tiresome? Aren't you tired of it?

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As someone who has been gas-lighted, she was NOT gas lighting you. :no:

It is not unexpected that someone who misinterprets awkward and uncomfortable social interactions as "bullying" would also not understand the meaning of "gaslighting."

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and yes, I am being bullied in this thread. People bringing up past posts, invalidating my experiences yep all bullying. Say what you want.

How on earth is "bringing up past posts" bullying?

I guess I was being bullied when a past post I made was brought up in this thread? https://allnurses.com/pediatric-nursing/pediatric-nursing-904064-page2.html

:sarcastic:

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