Are married women bullied less at work?

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Are women who are married less likely to be bullied than a single woman with no kids??

Specializes in critical care.
You previously accused all of us of bullying you because we told you it's not an expectation that your professors spoon feed you Power Point slides and study guides. What you have described thus far on this thread is not bullying. Just because someone says something you don't like doesn't make it bullying.

Oh my.... I thought this screen name sounded familiar.

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I've never seen the movie (and many others that popular phrases come from), but I knew about the quote because of how prevalent it is.

not where I live.

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No, marital status or kids don't make you less of a target. I'm married with two kids and was bullied (yes, actual bullying; the sole target of the individual, progressively worse actions/comments, physically sick about the thought of going to work, all reported by myself and other staff with no assistance from the manager so I quit) by a divorced MA who's 35 years older than I am. My current manager is single with no kids, no desire to get married or have kids, and while she has never bullied me, I don't think she understands when my family commitments overshadow my work sometimes. I feel guilty calling out for a sick kid, or if my husband calls me for something at work. In my interview, she even asked if I'd be reliable having two kids now instead of just one since it's twice as likely to have a sick child. (I'm a rehire, I left when I had my baby and came back a year later).

This is awful. ? I'm sorry for this experience.

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Would you understand if a single woman has "single commitments" and wants to hang out in a bar on Saturday .

This is more what I meant.

If my married with kids coworker tells our boss "oh I'm sorry I can't pick up Friday, I have Timmy's soccer game that night" it's understandable to them. If I say "oh sorry I just want the night off" or "I'm going to the bar" or "you know, I already have planned a marathon on netflix and lying around in sweats" nobody seems to understand. What I do with my free time is mine. I shouldn't feel the need to justify it. People at my work tend to give you flak. I wouldn't call it bullying by management but it's not exactly being nice either.

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"Let me never fall into the vulgar mistake of dreaming that I am persecuted whenever I am contradicted" Ralph Waldo Emerson

This is my personal favorite quote. I've run into far too many a person as of late that takes my disagreement personally.

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Specializes in OB-Gyn/Primary Care/Ambulatory Leadership.
I am a crusty old bat.

I am crusty because my philosophy/presentation is direct, to the point and no nonsense. I am not unkind, cut throat or unfeeling. I am just pass the fluffy stage.

I am old because I have aged into it with my earthly yearsand professional experience. G-d willing, so will all the rest of the nurses coming up.

Bat comes with the club name here I guess.

I am everything you describe a "crusty old bat" to be. But I don't call myself one. I just call myself blunt. I am not a fan of "clubs" or cliques.

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Specializes in Emergency, Telemetry, Transplant.
Jiminy Christmas I just had to google "gas lighting" because never in my life have I heard someone use that term before.

FWIW, I had to look it up too. I started reading about it and wondering what in the world gaslighting has to do with the thread. From what I see, gaslighting is usually used by sociopaths and the like...it does not apply when one gets a few replies on anonymous forum that he/she does not want to hear. Someone said something rude to you (the OP), you felt bad about it...that is your right. That does not change the fact the you were not bullied, even if, deep down in your heart, you believe that you were.

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Specializes in OB-Gyn/Primary Care/Ambulatory Leadership.
Yes, it was a repeated occurrence. I know when I'm being bullied and I don't need people telling me any different. Stop gas lighting

*Okay, I laughed at this. I know it's serious; I couldn't help myself.

**OP, I took a moment to look over your previous posts at this website. The overwhelming theme is that you are a victim. Things are happening to you, and are never your fault or responsibility. As long as you have that attitude in life, you will be "bullied" everywhere you go.

*This is not gaslighting

**Neither is this

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Yes, I was bullied severely in nursing school. I was too afraid to speak out against it because I feared for my safety. One was by a guy who hated that I was in the program, and he would try to push me out the way every day after class.

everyone seems to get great gratification out of blaming and judging me with their superiority complex. have fun. this is nothing but bullying

You're gas lighting. She was bullying me.

I think no matter what your marital status, you are going to perceive yourself as being bullied.

Your posts are overwhelmingly about being victimized. You need to take a hard look at YOU instead of whining about the world not being fair to you, people being mean to you, circumstances being out of your control.

Wherever you go, there you'll be.

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Specializes in Emergency, Telemetry, Transplant.
This is more what I meant.

If my married with kids coworker tells our boss "oh I'm sorry I can't pick up Friday, I have Timmy's soccer game that night" it's understandable to them. If I say "oh sorry I just want the night off" or "I'm going to the bar" or "you know, I already have planned a marathon on netflix and lying around in sweats" nobody seems to understand. What I do with my free time is mine. I shouldn't feel the need to justify it. People at my work tend to give you flak. I wouldn't call it bullying by management but it's not exactly being nice either.

I just say, "no, I am unable to work on that day." I am not going to elaborate more than that.

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This is more what I meant.

If my married with kids coworker tells our boss "oh I'm sorry I can't pick up Friday, I have Timmy's soccer game that night" it's understandable to them. If I say "oh sorry I just want the night off" or "I'm going to the bar" or "you know, I already have planned a marathon on netflix and lying around in sweats" nobody seems to understand. What I do with my free time is mine. I shouldn't feel the need to justify it. People at my work tend to give you flak. I wouldn't call it bullying by management but it's not exactly being nice either.

This definitely happens but it's not bullying. And if you live close to the hospital AND are single, they definitely will act like you should be able to drop everything and be there in 15 minutes. Just don't answer the phone on your day off. Problem solved.

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You previously accused all of us of bullying you because we told you it's not an expectation that your professors spoon feed you Power Point slides and study guides. What you have described thus far on this thread is not bullying. Just because someone says something you don't like doesn't make it bullying.
Stop deflecting. Leave the past in the past. If you want to contribute to the topic of this thread do so, but dragging up old posts that happened months ago is highly inappropriate
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