Are married women bullied less at work?

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Are women who are married less likely to be bullied than a single woman with no kids??

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Sorry for the typos. Apparently I'm consenting to feeling incredible frustration. ? I need to go cuddle grumpy cat in the angry corner. Feel free to join us. We'll be telling tasteless jokes and rejoicing over crusty old batness.

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Funsucker.

My newest, favoritest word!

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Telling someone that "men don't date girls like you" is not considered bullying? What do you call it then?

I call it a statement by a raging ***** who probably hasn't been laid in years.

See, I just realized that my reaction to that statement and your reaction is based on confidence in oneself. You let absolutely ridiculous statements like that roll off your back!

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I call it a statement by a raging ***** who probably hasn't been laid in years.

See, I just realized that my reaction to that statement and your reaction is based on confidence in oneself. You let absolutely ridiculous statements like that roll off your back!

When someone says "Men don't want to date girls like you" I'd have trouble choosing my response. 1. "Really? I don't seem to be hurting for dates so far." 2. "Oh, good. Then I trust you won't be trying to fix me up with your loser relatives." 3. "Well, obviously your phone is ringing off the hook. You'll have to give me some pointers." If you put your mind to it, you could probably think up some better ones. The one thing bullies HATE is to be not taken seriously. That's where your power comes in.

Develop some self-confidence (that doesn't hinge on validation from others) and a sense of humour and the bullies look for other targets. Get a copy of Albert Ellis's "How to Stubbornly Refuse to Disturb Yourself About Anything, Yes, Anything."

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Emily, please find a professional to explore this with.

It's obvious that you are hurt and struggling with this.

It sounds like it is impacting your life on all levels.

I really hope you find some answers and eventual resolution with all this.

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Good luck to you.

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I don't think so. I think anyone can be a target of bullying no matter what. All it takes is a clash of personalities.

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Because I feel that my marital status plays a part in getting bullied. I had a older woman in the nursing program approach me and say "men don't date girls like you"...this was out of the blue. I was minding my own business when she said that. And then the other girls in the program talk about their boyfriends/husbands/kids a lot and well...I don't. Not in a relationship nor do I have kids. This makes me easy prey. I thought if I was married or had kids I would fit in a lot more & not get bullied or ostracized.

The older woman sounds...jealous? Not really sure what the intentions behind her comments were. I don't think they are talking about their kids/husbands/boyfriends to spite you. They're talking about it because it's a commonality between them. Do you have any nieces or nephews you can talk about? I don't think you are being ostracized...you just don't have this in common with them. The comment the woman made sounds mean...ignore her. Work to improve your confidence..find some book or something. One day you'll be married and have kids, but for now enjoy your single-hood and freedom!

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This approach does nothing but let the bullies off the hook. BS advice.

I absolutely hate this quote. Pure BS and it lets the bullies/victimizers off the hook. This woman was born wealthy and married to a President; she lived a privileged life. she was never in a position to be inferior to anyone[/b][/i]

You clearly don't know anything about the inside life of Eleanor Roosevelt. She was the "ugly" wife and it was rumored that her husband had a mistress. She was awkward and insecure by nature.

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This thread is making me think...am I being bullied at work? They ALWAYS bring up how I'm single and I don't have a family so I should stay an extra 4 hours to help staff night shift...and they ask me to do EXTRA work like join committees and do auditing...I KNOW it's because I'm single...And there's this plastic surgeon who was SO rude to me the other day...totally doubting my abilities and in front of the PATIENT too! Does anyone have any advice for me?? This is a LATERAL VIOLENCE! jk ;)

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Bullying is entrenched in the education and socialisation of nurses. It is passed down from generation to generation of nurses. You only have to look at the power of the self titled "crusty old bats" and the future "crusty old bats" to see this.

If that's what you think bullying is all about, you have a lot to learn.

The "Crusty Old Bat" society started when an ageist younger nursing student started a thread insulting older nurses and calling names such as "dried up old hags," "aging biter nurses" and "crusty old bats." Instead of crying that we were being bullied and demanding that the thread be closed, we adopted the title for ourselves, on our own terms.

What is NOT entrenched in the education and socialization of nurses is the "everyone gets a trophy just for showing up" mentality or being nicey-nice at the expense of being honest. Maybe you call that bullying, but as mentioned before, you have a lot to learn.

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Yes, it was a repeated occurrence. I know when I'm being bullied and I don't need people telling me any different. Stop gas lighting

Evidently you DON'T know when you're being bullied -- or gaslighted!

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This is more what I meant.

If my married with kids coworker tells our boss "oh I'm sorry I can't pick up Friday, I have Timmy's soccer game that night" it's understandable to them. If I say "oh sorry I just want the night off" or "I'm going to the bar" or "you know, I already have planned a marathon on netflix and lying around in sweats" nobody seems to understand. What I do with my free time is mine. I shouldn't feel the need to justify it. People at my work tend to give you flak. I wouldn't call it bullying by management but it's not exactly being nice either.

All you have to say is "Sorry, I have plans." You don't have to go into details about those plans. Neither do the parents in the group.

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