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Anyone else regret becoming a nurse?

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VivaLasViejas has 20 years experience as a ASN, RN and works as a Retired/Disabled Nurse and Blogger.

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Just now, Workitinurfava said:

Hi, can you share what happened?

It was a matter of a mental health condition I have that was latent for years, but when it appeared it just got worse and worse until I had a major breakdown six years ago. I lost a job I loved, then tried to start over and lost my (brown word) again. After a number of "come to Jesus" talks with my family and psychiatrists, I realized that I couldn't do it anymore and went on Social Security Disability. I put my license in Retired status last month because I had no practice hours in the past five years.

If I could change it, I would; I don't like living on a quarter of my former wages. But it is what it is, and I do my best to be thankful for what I have---family and friends who love me, a place to live (I was almost homeless four years ago), food to eat and a nice fireplace to sit beside. It's not a bad life.

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6 minutes ago, VivaLasViejas said:

It was a matter of a mental health condition I have that was latent for years, but when it appeared it just got worse and worse until I had a major breakdown six years ago. I lost a job I loved, then tried to start over and lost my (brown word) again. After a number of "come to Jesus" talks with my family and psychiatrists, I realized that I couldn't do it anymore and went on Social Security Disability. I put my license in Retired status last month because I had no practice hours in the past five years.

If I could change it, I would; I don't like living on a quarter of my former wages. But it is what it is, and I do my best to be thankful for what I have---family and friends who love me, a place to live (I was almost homeless four years ago), food to eat and a nice fireplace to sit beside. It's not a bad life.

I am sorry to hear that all of that happened to you and I am glad you chose your life as it is more important in the end. Anything can change but you need your mental health to be intact first and foremost. Having support makes a huge difference. Best wishes in the future.

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River&MountainRN has 3 years experience.

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I regret the effects that the nursing profession has had on my health, namely a 40 lb weight gain in three years and a back injury that has left me with a dubious future in the profession (most jobs don't like to hear that my well-managed back pain has flared to the point where I can't walk, let alone lift patients). 

I regret moving to a resort area where pretentiousness and entitlement affect every aspect of life. As nurses, we are the punching bags for the "have nots" and the "hired help" (little better than dirt on their shoes) for the "haves". I listen to my former classmates who either stayed put in our school's vicinity or moved elsewhere to "Regular Town, USA" and they haven't had it as rough. It also doesn't help that there is, essentially, only one healthcare system in a 50 mile radius that is quickly buying up every specialty of healthcare and no one wants to work for them or the local dump LTCs (so the non-corporation, non-LTCs jobs are quickly filled).

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Leader25 has 35 years experience.

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Never regretted becoming a nurse ,but  often a 💩 start is due to 💩 jobs.Heartless thankless profession.

You seem very unfocused,counseling might help.

 

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I absolutely hate nursing!! I’ve been here for 20 years now stuck. When I first graduated I felt I could take on the world and do everything. The first 10 years of job hopping knocked me down, stamped on me, then chewed me up and spit me back out. I now work in a jail. I love my job, however I really do minamal nursing now. I pass meds pretty much simple easy non fatal ones at that. I feel safe so I have stayed at this low paying, non skill using place, simply because it doesn’t suck the life out of me.

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Before I go to work I feel that way. Then when I start interacting with my patients they make me remember why I do it. I love patient care and taking care of people. I hate feeling like a commodity. Some of these jobs making you feel like they just need a warm body to take care of their patients. I'm looking for jobs outside of bedside because I hate feeling rushed when giving patient care.

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holisticallyminded has 7 years experience.

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I regret it every day, it takes a toll on your body. But I’m easily employed and I won’t complain there. 

My main gripe is that nurses promote the Florence Nightengale story to guilt trip us into giving our own rights away “for the patients.” Last time I checked my position was paid and not coded as “volunteer.” I can do what is required but you can’t make me put anyone above my own life, health, wellbeing. No double shifts, no flu shots, no skipping breaks. 

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I think it would be a waste of money and time to get an MA certificate. There is nothing they do that you don't already know as a nurse.

Nursing is a very broad field. You just got your bsn. You can't possibly have worked in every environment in just 5 years. Have you tried home health? Working for an insurance company? Case management? Telephone triage? Utilization review? Occupational health? School nursing? Public health clinic? 

There's  more to explore before you throw in the towel.

 

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Nope. I love nursing. The only thing that makes it hard is the bridging over of administrators into supervisory positions and all they're worried about is money and filling beds, never staff satisfaction or, more importantly, patients actually receiving the best nursing care possible. It's all about money and not patient care. That's why we see frequent fliers and poor patient outcomes. Quality of care is better than quantity of dollars but upper admin doesn't care.

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Oh sweet lady, I sooo support you...Get out now!!! Find some out of the way small clinic that is a cash only or just cut your losses and do something else..legal nursing (but thats more costs also)just anything to get peace of mind..It is not worth it. 
If I could do it all over again after what I know now, I would work as a farm hand instead of this  very expensive to get, even more expensive to keep license I am burdened with. I was stupid enough and must love punishment enough that I went further and got my masters and FNP at a fabulous university. Now I find that just the cost of keeping up with licenses, CEUs, credentialing, certifications is enough that it has actually impaired our ability to get a mortgage. Mortgage lenders will deduct the twelve month average costs of business expenses from income. And the student loan to finance my additional education is also being counted against us as outstanding debt, even with immaculate credit, no other debt, lenders count that as a negative. So what did I gain by furthering my education to provide higher level care?? Debt, and loss of hope for a house any time soon. 
In addition, the liability is enormous!!!  Any nurse or NP that thinks their employer is going to stand behind them in a "situation" is insanely ignorant. Vanderbilt threw that nurse under the bus and refuse to acknowledge their own responsibility in that fiasco. I, myself, as an RN  supervisor several years ago, was asked many times to pull a pediatric nurse to ICU. I refused of course. I also refused to leave my floors understaffed and faced a lot of flack for it. That nurse will probably serve prison time, and for what? Vanderbilt has power and pull in Nashville and is protecting it's bottom line. I can remember when we begged pharm companies to please change the label on potassium from being identical to the label on normal saline except the letters. I can remember hurriedly handing a vial of digoxin to an intern thinking it was another drug used for a GI test( he caught it, thank God) . 
Nurses are being pushed to take on heavier and heavier more complex patient loads and  and working longer hours( better clock out and then finish charting). NPs are being asked to do a complete assessment, diagnose, reconcile meds, prescribe appropriately in 15-20 minutes. This may also include collecting insurance info, ID, call in the prescription and discharge with education materials. And God help you if you make a mistake! There is always that angry, bully nurse to tell you how incredibly stupid you are! Always administration to threaten/chastise you! The rare times a patient thanks you for your help is some balm to the wounds inflicted by nursing, but as soon as a scar begins to form...another one complains because you didnt "lay hands on and heal them". 
I would NEVER recommend to anyone to pursue nursing as a career. Nor would I encourage medicine in general as a choice. We dont practice medicine anymore, we just try to get the right box checked, right code checked, make sure our patient is still breathing, treatments done ( outcome? Who can stop long enough to check?) We must make sure we have followed QA, QI, CMS, HCQIA, HRRP, HIPAA, PSQIA, CDC, JCAHO, 5 rights, clinical standards and guidelines, preventive guidelines, treatment guidelines and just maybe we make it to void once during our twelve hour shift without a patient(or colleague) glaring at us for not bringing his juice within 2 minutes of request. 
No, I am not a fan of nursing/medicine today as a career choice. At one time maybe, not in 2019. I wish I had my tuition money back, my holidays back, my sanity back, my children's childhood back( I can remember every facility I worked at but have difficulty remembering  fun days with my children) 
I am sure there are nurses whose mantra is "I cant believe they actually pay me to be a nurse!" Love em! Go for it! They are holding the profession together. But for so very many, nursing is a nightmare and a curse during waking hours. 
 

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DVB has 20 years experience as a BSN, RN.

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You definitely should quit if you are that miserable. After finishing my preceptorship my preceptor said "Nursing is the worst job ever, I don't know why anyone would want to become a nurse, it doesn't pay, it's horrible, the people are horrible." I just spent 10 K to go to school to have this woman say this to me.  After this nurse told me all this, she finished signing my papers and I asked if I  had to do anything else. She told me no.  I then said "I will never be a nurse like you, I will always teach, I will always be interested in what I do, I will always try to be helpful. If I decide I don't like what I do, then I will quit." I believed that then, I believe it now. If you don't like what you do, quit. Why you would keep going on with the education when you hated it, I don't understand. If you liked a primary job, do that. If you don't, quit. However; in my state you cannot work below your license so you might see if you can work as an MA before your license expires. We did once hire an RN to work as a MA at a MA wage in a clinic I worked at without additional training required. Good luck, hope you find something you like. But if you hate it, you should not do it.

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Some days I hate it. Some days are sublime. But I still wish I could have followed my dream of being an architect doing historic preservations. 

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