After reading the thread about the jokes by Jay Leno and the comments. We do need to gain some thicker skin I agree but it reminded me of this dissertation "morificecript" this PHD is/was trying to sell I found on another board. This guy is actually writing a novel about sexism in nursing atleast from his point of view. I thought it was crazy , I wanted to post it here and get your reactions, this is part of the reason why we need to be aware of what is going on, people like this guy, next thing you know we will have a new diagnosis called Nursing sexual adversion disorder or post traumatic spousal nurse reactions...Lord what these people do for attention. Here is a small excert you can find the whole 4 chapters over at another bb here: http://discussion.aboutnursing.net/read.php?f=2&i=132&t=132
This is for real....
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Husbands of Nurses
The Great Untold Story of Suppressed Sexual Frustration in Modern
Society
Patricia Gail Smith, R.N.
Damon Smith, Ph.D.
Introduction:This is a book unlike any that you have ever read or probably will ever read again. It violates a social "taboo" and discusses an aspect of our society that all of us have wondered about at one time or another in our lives: "how can a man married to a pretty young nurse feel comfortable about what she does in the hospital, taking care of all those male patients?". We all realize that this has to be a strange situation for the husband and his wife, but we accept it as a necessary aspect of taking care of society’s needs.
If you are the husband of a nurse, you know that society tells you that you have no right to feel uncomfortable about your wife’s attentive care-giving to other men in the clinical setting. Because she is a medical professional and only "doing her job", you are supposed to deny and suppress any feelings of jealousy and discomfort, even in your realization that the men she cares for sometimes enjoy her attentions as a sexual experience. Our society is not perfect and nobody ever said that life is fair. Society does what it has to do, in matching its resources with its needs. It needs young married women to work as nurses, so it dictates that you will "look the other way" and accept her interactions with these men, regardless of how extreme the exposure and contact, and feel only pride that your wife is caring for those in need.
Today’s woman is an independent human being living in a free society, and she has the right to do whatever job she wants to do. But there was a time in our society when no self-respecting husband would even consider allowing his wife to see, much less touch, the naked body of another man. Nursing in those days was performed by Catholic nuns and other unmarried women. But now a woman can pursue nursing as a career without asking for anybody’s permission. That’s the way it is in today’s social and political setting, and that’s great. The only problem is that men have basic instinctual feelings about their wives and their interactions with other men that have been programmed into their genetic makeup over millions of years. The social and political changes that have occurred over the last thousand years have done nothing to alter the gut response of the human male animal. Basic human nature hasn’t changed, but our society has. Therein lies the basic conflict and the reason for this book.
As the husband of a nurse, after you read this book, you may feel better about what your wife does in the clinical setting. But our real hope is that you will feel better about yourself, and that you will have an understanding of what is real and what is artificial about the nursing profession. And hopefully, you will understand that you have a right to "think like a man", and "think like a husband", because that’s what you are, and you don’t have to apologize to anyone for feeling that way, especially to your wife.
After reading this book, you may for the first time in your marriage, be able to "get real" with your wife about what she does. You may be able to understand what she feels about your role as the husband of a nurse and why she feels that way. And you may come to understand why she believes that it is reasonable and fair to conceal from you what she sees and does with her male patients, behind closed doors where you are forbidden to go.
And most importantly, you may bring to the surface and openly discuss feelings of sexual frustration that you have been programmed by society to deny and suppress, which affect the quality of your relationship with the person you love.
And if you are a nurse, after reading this book, you may come to realize that society has used you for its purposes and programmed you to believe, quite remarkably, that you can go beyond social sexual norms as a part of your job and have a comfortable and stress-free relationship with your husband. You may think back over the years of your training in nursing school and find it somewhat curious that no one ever discussed with you, even once, the rather obvious fact that what nurses do can produce frustration in a husband and cause problems for your marriage. There’s a reason for this. Society doesn’t want you to think about that, it just wants you to go and take care of those patients.
We have written this book together, as a nurse and her husband, to put some reality into the artificial concepts surrounding the nursing profession, and to help nurses and their husbands to understand the forces at work which put them in a frustrating and difficult situation. Gail is a Registered Nurse and Damon is a scientist working in the space program. We are not experts in psychology, but we feel that we have insight into the problem, because we have experienced it first hand. And perhaps more importantly, we have the commitment to be "real" and "tell it like it is", at least within the limits of our perception and understanding of the problem and its causes.
