Am I overstepping my boundaries? WWYD?

[Velarey]

Hi all! I've been lurking for sometime and I have enjoyed reading a lot of useful information from informative to entertainment on here -I need my giggles and this place is the way to go, oh and FB! Anyway, I'm on here to ask if you think I'm overstepping myself to help someone out. Few years ago an acquatiance and I played soccer togerher for an adult league, we became friends and when I had a really crappy birthday--they (her husband and her) took me out on their own and gave me a big celebration. They've been so generous and supporive and they are fun to hangout with,miss our hangouts. One time I had my dog stay at their house while we all went out. My dog got anxiety and chewed on their bathroom wood. Due to this never received their deposit back which was 1,000. Life happened and we don't hangout as much but support each other via FB and have made future plans to! I've always wanted to make it up them. She's a NICU nurse who had applied to be a FNP and unfortunately was not accepted. They have a baby now and I don't know if she plans to try again. In case she does, would it be fine if as a favor for her and her husbands generosity, I encouraged a friend's friend who is the director of the FNP to look at her resume closely and highly consider her? My friend who's good friends with the director is an NP and they both went to NP school together. My friend who's the Np was even invited by her friend (FNP director) to give lecture about child abuse as my friend is a highly trained child abuse cases. Anyways, I'm suppoE to hangout with S sometime in the summer. If she mentions shes planning on pursing her FNP (without her knowledge) should I ask my NP friend for a favor? We consider each other really good friends, but this is out of the ball park and I've never met her friend who's the director of the FNP program. Just know they are very close. What do you think?

[kakamegamama]

No. There are reasons people are not accepted to NP school...usually grade related or a program that is above capacity or about to be. What purpose do you have in doing this? it seems to me that offering to help pay for damages your dog did would have been a better choice.

[Emergent, RN]

My friend watched my young dog. He damaged a leather couch. I paid an upholster to repair, was grateful that my friend graciously found a skilled person who was able to do an excellent patch job for a very reasonable price.

You were very wrong not to offer to pay to repair the damage done by your dog. Don't try to assuage your guilt by trying to pull strings. If you were my friend asking for that favor, I would feel very put out by that request.

[loriangel14, RN]

Yes I would offer to pay back the money they lost. Meddling in their nursing education is not appropriate

[elkpark]

I agree that it would be a lot more appropriate (and better "friend" behavior) to reimburse them for the $1000 your dog cost them (which is what you should have done back at the time). If a friend's dog had cost me that much and the individual hadn't at least offered to reimburse me for the damages, I sure wouldn't be "hanging out as much" with that person any more, either.

[klone, MSN, RN]

Not so much as overstepping your bounds, but I don't see what the point would be in talking to someone about hiring someone who is likely YEARS away from being in a position to be hired.

[pixiestudent2]

Wow.... Why didn't you pay her for the damage your dog caused again?

"Life happened?"

No I think your friend intentionally put some distance between you two.

[KelRN215, BSN, RN]

That's not how admissions to NP programs (or any program, for that matter) work and you could end up causing more harm than good. People are admitted to academic programs based on their merits, not based on who they know. Your friend's friend may react poorly to you saying "Hey, Suzy is my friend so you should really let her in to your program."

[Libby1987]

Pay back the money with interest.

Don't put the other friend in the awkward position of having to say no.

[Barnstormin' PMHNP]

What do I think? I think you have magical thinking. Be a responsible adult and pay her back the one thousand dollars YOUR dog cost them. With a new baby it will be needed. I am usually very supportive, but this post is ridiculous and hits a nerve, I have family members that have done the same type of thing and let me tell you, your friends have NOT forgotten about that money you cost them.

[Velarey]

Forgot to mention they told me when I did offer to pay, to 'forget it' they know it was an accident. I was still invited to hangouts but I never went and life happened. At time incident happened I didn't have the funds. I have 300 saved thus far because I know it's right even though they said not to worry. I did ask if they got their deposit back and that's how I know they didnr. . So I haven't told them I'm paying them back its a surprise. But it's never left my mind to help them back even if it's not financially. Sidenote:: I didn't see an issue with helping out in this way if I could, this would open doors for her future in multiple ways. She was chosen as a NICU nurse right out of college. From grapevine she's amazing. So idk why she wasn't accepted. **But no need to be nasty. I'm being honest here and looking for advice.

[Velarey]

Ok no need to be a jerk. I came here with honesty and giving useful advice would out posting like a jerk would be nice :). I have saved money aside and continue to, to pay them back.I thought it would be a surprise but at this point everyone's advice I'll FB her and tell her. Aside from saving money and paying back which I understand is what shoyls have been done and should be, I thought I could help her out this way too, as it would open up a lot of doors for her --if she's trying again which I won't know until I see her, which has been planned for late summer sometime.