Am I overstepping my boundaries? WWYD?

[Velarey]

Hi all! I've been lurking for sometime and I have enjoyed reading a lot of useful information from informative to entertainment on here -I need my giggles and this place is the way to go, oh and FB! Anyway, I'm on here to ask if you think I'm overstepping myself to help someone out. Few years ago an acquatiance and I played soccer togerher for an adult league, we became friends and when I had a really crappy birthday--they (her husband and her) took me out on their own and gave me a big celebration. They've been so generous and supporive and they are fun to hangout with,miss our hangouts. One time I had my dog stay at their house while we all went out. My dog got anxiety and chewed on their bathroom wood. Due to this never received their deposit back which was 1,000. Life happened and we don't hangout as much but support each other via FB and have made future plans to! I've always wanted to make it up them. She's a NICU nurse who had applied to be a FNP and unfortunately was not accepted. They have a baby now and I don't know if she plans to try again. In case she does, would it be fine if as a favor for her and her husbands generosity, I encouraged a friend's friend who is the director of the FNP to look at her resume closely and highly consider her? My friend who's good friends with the director is an NP and they both went to NP school together. My friend who's the Np was even invited by her friend (FNP director) to give lecture about child abuse as my friend is a highly trained child abuse cases. Anyways, I'm suppoE to hangout with S sometime in the summer. If she mentions shes planning on pursing her FNP (without her knowledge) should I ask my NP friend for a favor? We consider each other really good friends, but this is out of the ball park and I've never met her friend who's the director of the FNP program. Just know they are very close. What do you think?

[Oceanpacific]

If you were going to pay her back you would have done so by now. There is no "planning" that is required.

[BuckyBadgerRN, ASN, RN]

It's been years and clearly, she isn't seeking out your friendship. I wouldn't turn what you OWE them into a baby gift of sorts. A baby giftcard should come on top of their lost deposit.

[OrganizedChaos, LVN]

If it were me, your dog destroyed my house & then you didn't pay me back; I would put distance between us. Especially if you kept using excuses as to why you couldn't pay me back. I would much rather take the $1,000 over an iffy job referral, especially since I have a kid. That $1,000 can go a long way. Don't "plan" on paying her back, go pay her back. You should've paid her back yesterday. If you have to make payments then do it but make sure you pay back every last dollar.

[Horseshoe, BSN, RN]

It's been years and clearly, she isn't seeking out your friendship. I wouldn't turn what you OWE them into a baby gift of sorts. A baby giftcard should come on top of their lost deposit.

The OP claims when she offered to pay them back, they said "forget it." Taking her at her word, at least giving them gift cards to Walmart or whatever accomplishes the same thing. Know anyone with a new baby who couldn't easily find plenty to buy at a baby store? Or as someone with a better idea suggested, at a Walmart or grocery store?

Personally, I'll be surprised if the OP actually ever really does pay off the debt. She hasn't expressed any sense of urgency about it at all. This idea that she needs to wait until she has the entire $1000 seems like just a way to postpone it forever.

Would love to be wrong, though, for all their sakes.

[OrganizedChaos, LVN]

Even if the friend said "Oh no, don't worry. You don't have to.", I'm sure she didn't mean it. Usually people say that to make the other party feel less guilty. Even if she did mean it you (OP) should pay her back any way. The OP should stop coming up with excuses & start paying back her friend ASAP.

[BeachsideRN, ASN]

The OP claims when she offered to pay them back, they said "forget it." Taking her at her word, at least giving them gift cards to Walmart or whatever accomplishes the same thing. Know anyone with a new baby who couldn't easily find plenty to buy at a baby store? Or as someone with a better idea suggested, at a Walmart or grocery store?

Personally, I'll be surprised if the OP actually ever really does pay off the debt. She hasn't expressed any sense of urgency about it at all. This idea that she needs to wait until she has the entire $1000 seems like just a way to postpone it forever.

Would love to be wrong, though, for all their sakes.

I think OP is looking for a "gratitude" response from them to appease her guilt and make her feel like she did a wonderful thing by paying back what she owed them. Which is ridiculous. Pay them back OP. Start now. AND APOLOGIZE profusely for not doing it sooner.