i don't know what elese to do. my school...my alma mater...says there is no tuition assistance for me there, the ads on the computer for goverment grants all cost money to find out if you can get money, and by the time 2 more years roll by i am sure most of my classes will be too old to be of any use to me anyway. the only option i think i will end up with is to start over at a jr. college, and if that means taking all the science classes again...i don't think can do that.
a friend of mine told me that god has a plan for us all, and if we try for years and years to accomplish something...to no avail...that maybe it was not meant to be. i am a cna and maybe that is what was meant for me.
i even tried to be a phlebotomist...in the fall of 2000. i took the 16 week course, did really well...got a "b". a few weeks after finals i had our son in jan 2001. i could not do the clinicals right away because of that and could not later because my husband did not pay the tuition until 2004 so that class too was too old also.
i will have to renew my cna license and i will do that when i am ready to go back to work. i think it is time that i either choose another way to use my b.a or just be happy as a cna. after all, it is a noble profession and very necessary. it was just not my dream.
before i make any final decisions, i would like to ask...would any of you do it all again?. i mean would you really take all the classes again and re-do nursing school like you had never been there before?...or do you think i should just chalk it up to a dream that got away. i am 36 and my kids are 15, 8 and 4. i thougth i would never give up, but now i'm not sure.
i should also add that another reason i am beginning to think this is true is; because, in the course of dealing with some issues in my past, i have found christian science to be helpful to me. i am still however a catholic. btw, c.s is not scientology...they are not the same at all. i suppose it is logical if i am coming to believe in c.s that a nursing career would no longer make sense and i should continue to be a cna in a setting where i would not take part in the medical aspects of care. this is a quote from mbe that the same friend sent to me...
"suffer no claim of sin or of sickness to grow upon the thought. dismiss it with an abiding conviction that it is illegitimate, because you know that god is no more the author of sickness than he is of sin."
-from science and health
by mary baker eddy
390:20-23
i guess to sum it all up i am sad and confused and i would love to hear your thoughts if you could give me just a few minutes of your time. thanks.
thanks...i am very passionate about nursing and i never thought i would ever consider quitting. i only have to re-do peds and then community and rehab.
i know the school of nursing gives grants to some that can't afford all the tuition and i thought because i was a former student and a graduate of the school they might find some way to help me.
i have been told already that there is a 10yr limit on many classes and mine are approaching that limit. i started my nursing courses in 1995 so my core courses were obvoiusly before that. i don't think i could handle a&p and organic biochem again. besides i already have $52,000 in loans to repay.
i often wish i could win the lottery so i could pay them off and finish school.
i don't know what god has called me for anymore.
certainly with the nursing shortage...you can get a loan or hospital to sponsor you...isuggest applying to several LPN programs...test those waters...then you can easily get into a transistional program, and even work a little and bring in some cash, and get experience, to boot, or just go straight into transitional...isuggest you take a few days...and just be quiet with yourself and do some self housecleaning....what is holding you back....is it fear....do you feel you don't deserve it....or are you really meant to do something else....the world is your oyster...and you are worth the pearl waitng for you.....just relax, take a break...pray, contemplate...and you will find it.....best of luck.......
I don't mean to get too personal and please try not to get upset by what I'm about to say, but to me it sounds like the first thing that you need to do is get rid of your husband.
HELLO, you are not allowed to buy groceries with out him, you have no access to the bank acount, (You are not a CHILD, you should be an EQUAL partner.) Among many other things I'm sure.
Sounds to me like an abusive situation.
Thats all I'm going to say about it because I do not truely know all of your situation and maybe I am way off. However if a man (any man, or anyone for that matter) treated me that way, they would be out of my life really quick. Stick up for yourself. Good Luck, I hope things somehow work out for you.
I agree. If she has accurately described her relationship -- the man
is acting like a control freak. Those types do not want their wives
to succeed or go higher, b/c they fear that they will lose control.
Do a quick web search...here is what I found. This organization is connected with Monster.com. They help people find educational money. Grants, Loans and Scholarships. Just fill out the questionaires, and they will give you a list of programs you are eligible for. You are also eligible for some programs as a student, depending on the income coming into your home. Pell Grants are the first ones. Talk to the financial aid office at your college. They will help guide you.
Don't give up...If the desire is there, God is willing. I just don't see God holding someone back.
thanks...but i don't seem to have any bootstraps to pull anymore. i don't have any money to save. i can't go deliver pizzas...for one it is too dangerous for a woman...at least around here...and i would have to have my 15yr old babysit all the time and she is not that responsible. she is in an alternative school and she has her own issues to deal with. i can't go back to work until our son starts first grade and he is getting ready for pre-k now.
i have a checking account but i rarely get money to put in it and when i do it is no more than $10 just for little expences. at the rate of $10/month $3,200 or so dollars is a long way away.
i know about rough living...i have lived in cars...abandoned apartments and even under a viaduct near the canal.
i know that obstacles can be overcame...but i just can't get the money for this by saving up my spare change.
my mom has no money to give, niether does my brother and i don't speak to my other brother and my father for reasons that i do not care to get into. my husband will not pay my tuition and that is it for my family. this is why i am so disheartened.
i have no delusions of grandeur about nursing. i know that is can be a thankless, exhausting, frustrating carreer that is ever changing and cannot be done without passion because lives are at stake. being a cna is a little like that...we are often called glorified b*tt wipers and even sometimes the nurses think of us that way too. i have seen family members of people i have taken care of at a nursing home i worked at for years, bring presents and candy for the nurses and give away some possessions of their family member and the cnas' were not included. for over a year i took care of these people and somehow it was not as important. no glory there...i am usted to that. i just want to be a good nurse and learn from what i have seen already and what others will show me but i don't seem to be able to do that.
i only have to re-do peds and then do community and rehab...i can't believe the situation i have gotten myself into.
someone elese gave me a financial aid tip so i will try that and let you all know how it goes.
laurel
i've not had time to read the other responses, sorry if i'm repeating anything.
do you by chance have any mental illness problems? major depression, major and consistent anxiety, ocd, bi-polar, ect....? do you have any serious health problems?
if so, you can get a referral from your treating doctor and call your state's vocational rehabilitation office. they have programs to help "rehabilitate" people with barriers that prevent them from suceeding in school or the workplace.
my friend has some of the above and vocational rehabilitation pays her tuition.
i think you are very confused. first of all is there another school you can try to get into? second of all how are you presnting yourself to the school. are you dressed for success, do you speak well, preent yourslef like the professional that you want to become?
money is an issue i know but there are ways, i guess you don't have a good backup system. have a plan, that includes the money to go to school and then go for it. schools do financial aid with you for free. don't you know about that? you can apply for grants before you even get accepted to a school, go to the financial aid office and aske, again present yourself as a successful person.
have a little speech written out if you have to do that to stay focused. keep your religion out of it...no one wants to hear that, sorry if that is offensive.keep that for your religious group or friends. stick to a few simple ideas and only talk about that...you seem like you might get off track easily.
the fact that you had a baby, they don't want to hear that either...i know how important that is on a personal level but they want students that are going to be successful "no matter what" comes in thier way...they want success stories, not " i would have done this but this or that happened". i am not trying to be harsh but realistic.
my credits were very old but i worked in a profession and kept updated, i talked them into accepting my credits that were old. my grades were excellent the first time i went to school and i had good references.
you should not have to take all the sciences over. i don't understand that. there is nothing wrong with getting just your rn at a two year school. if that is what you meant. make sure you are set up for success, you need at least b's on your subjects to have a nusing school even look at you seriously.get all your prereq's done first with good grades. it is very competitive now, a lot of students begging at the door...they take the best out of the beggers. do you have a back up plan for a babysitter, someone to watch him if he gets sick...all your ducks have to be in a row. it is not easy.
there are a lot of politics involved. you have to plan, then stick to your plan. you want to be a nurse...then you can be a nurse...it is that simple. if you want fate to control you,then it will if that is what you believe. thoughts become words, words become deeds, deeds become actions.
i have a feeling you do not present yourself as self assured and professional.
work on some of thse things and good luck! although it isn't luck that will get you in. nancy
i don't know what elese to do. my school...my alma mater...says there is no tuition assistance for me there, the ads on the computer for goverment grants all cost money to find out if you can get money, and by the time 2 more years roll by i am sure most of my classes will be too old to be of any use to me anyway. the only option i think i will end up with is to start over at a jr. college, and if that means taking all the science classes again...i don't think can do that.
a friend of mine told me that god has a plan for us all, and if we try for years and years to accomplish something...to no avail...that maybe it was not meant to be. i am a cna and maybe that is what was meant for me.
i even tried to be a phlebotomist...in the fall of 2000. i took the 16 week course, did really well...got a "b". a few weeks after finals i had our son in jan 2001. i could not do the clinicals right away because of that and could not later because my husband did not pay the tuition until 2004 so that class too was too old also.
i will have to renew my cna license and i will do that when i am ready to go back to work. i think it is time that i either choose another way to use my b.a or just be happy as a cna. after all, it is a noble profession and very necessary. it was just not my dream.
before i make any final decisions, i would like to ask...would any of you do it all again?. i mean would you really take all the classes again and re-do nursing school like you had never been there before?...or do you think i should just chalk it up to a dream that got away. i am 36 and my kids are 15, 8 and 4. i thougth i would never give up, but now i'm not sure.
i should also add that another reason i am beginning to think this is true is; because, in the course of dealing with some issues in my past, i have found christian science to be helpful to me. i am still however a catholic. btw, c.s is not scientology...they are not the same at all. i suppose it is logical if i am coming to believe in c.s that a nursing career would no longer make sense and i should continue to be a cna in a setting where i would not take part in the medical aspects of care. this is a quote from mbe that the same friend sent to me...
"suffer no claim of sin or of sickness to grow upon the thought. dismiss it with an abiding conviction that it is illegitimate, because you know that god is no more the author of sickness than he is of sin."
-from science and health
by mary baker eddy
390:20-23
i guess to sum it all up i am sad and confused and i would love to hear your thoughts if you could give me just a few minutes of your time. thanks.
wow, laurel. i hate to even hear that we may lose another sister nurse to grant issues, etc. i don't know if yo can, but i borrowed the money for school through the financial aid office. i didn't have a choice and don't regret it. you can also receive money from hospitals! many hospitals will pay for you to go to school as long as you agree to work for them for 2 years afterwards. check with human resources or the education dept where you work. i cannot tell you what to do about religion, or where you get your guidance. i will tell you that god is the only thing that got me through nursing school. i don't know much about scientology, don't really care to know. i just know what god has done for me and know that i won't abandon him as a result. i think that scientology is a fad because of tom cruise and him being so outspoken about it. i don't want to be in a religion or base what i do with my life on a fad. keep your chin up, pray for god's presence in your life. nursing is a calling and if you heard that calling, you probably should answer....best of luck laurel...
i don't know what elese to do. my school...my alma mater...says there is no tuition assistance for me there, the ads on the computer for goverment grants all cost money to find out if you can get money, and by the time 2 more years roll by i am sure most of my classes will be too old to be of any use to me anyway. the only option i think i will end up with is to start over at a jr. college, and if that means taking all the science classes again...i don't think can do that.
a friend of mine told me that god has a plan for us all, and if we try for years and years to accomplish something...to no avail...that maybe it was not meant to be. i am a cna and maybe that is what was meant for me.
i even tried to be a phlebotomist...in the fall of 2000. i took the 16 week course, did really well...got a "b". a few weeks after finals i had our son in jan 2001. i could not do the clinicals right away because of that and could not later because my husband did not pay the tuition until 2004 so that class too was too old also.
i will have to renew my cna license and i will do that when i am ready to go back to work. i think it is time that i either choose another way to use my b.a or just be happy as a cna. after all, it is a noble profession and very necessary. it was just not my dream.
before i make any final decisions, i would like to ask...would any of you do it all again?. i mean would you really take all the classes again and re-do nursing school like you had never been there before?...or do you think i should just chalk it up to a dream that got away. i am 36 and my kids are 15, 8 and 4. i thougth i would never give up, but now i'm not sure.
i should also add that another reason i am beginning to think this is true is; because, in the course of dealing with some issues in my past, i have found christian science to be helpful to me. i am still however a catholic. btw, c.s is not scientology...they are not the same at all. i suppose it is logical if i am coming to believe in c.s that a nursing career would no longer make sense and i should continue to be a cna in a setting where i would not take part in the medical aspects of care. this is a quote from mbe that the same friend sent to me...
"suffer no claim of sin or of sickness to grow upon the thought. dismiss it with an abiding conviction that it is illegitimate, because you know that god is no more the author of sickness than he is of sin."
-from science and health
by mary baker eddy
390:20-23
i guess to sum it all up i am sad and confused and i would love to hear your thoughts if you could give me just a few minutes of your time. thanks.
Although she needs to be there for her children, if something were to happen to her husband, would a CNA's pay cover her needs?
It's all a catch 22. I think children will appreciate the dedication when they look back on it and realize that mom loved them so much, she wanted to make sure they were taken care of while making something of herself...
Just MHO....
I am giving your note serious consideration.
I wonder.............. how supportive is your husband??
And, you have 3 children, 2 of which are rather small. If you do not have to work, I think you should be there for the 4 and 8 year old for at least another five years.
Nursing school would remove you from your family, mentally and physically.
You have to study for many many hours every week.
Why deprive your young children of their mother unless it is a neccessity that you work?
i don't know what elese to do. my school...my alma mater...says there is no tuition assistance for me there, the ads on the computer for goverment grants all cost money to find out if you can get money, and by the time 2 more years roll by i am sure most of my classes will be too old to be of any use to me anyway. the only option i think i will end up with is to start over at a jr. college, and if that means taking all the science classes again...i don't think can do that.
a friend of mine told me that god has a plan for us all, and if we try for years and years to accomplish something...to no avail...that maybe it was not meant to be. i am a cna and maybe that is what was meant for me.
i even tried to be a phlebotomist...in the fall of 2000. i took the 16 week course, did really well...got a "b". a few weeks after finals i had our son in jan 2001. i could not do the clinicals right away because of that and could not later because my husband did not pay the tuition until 2004 so that class too was too old also.
i will have to renew my cna license and i will do that when i am ready to go back to work. i think it is time that i either choose another way to use my b.a or just be happy as a cna. after all, it is a noble profession and very necessary. it was just not my dream.
before i make any final decisions, i would like to ask...would any of you do it all again?. i mean would you really take all the classes again and re-do nursing school like you had never been there before?...or do you think i should just chalk it up to a dream that got away. i am 36 and my kids are 15, 8 and 4. i thougth i would never give up, but now i'm not sure.
i should also add that another reason i am beginning to think this is true is; because, in the course of dealing with some issues in my past, i have found christian science to be helpful to me. i am still however a catholic. btw, c.s is not scientology...they are not the same at all. i suppose it is logical if i am coming to believe in c.s that a nursing career would no longer make sense and i should continue to be a cna in a setting where i would not take part in the medical aspects of care. this is a quote from mbe that the same friend sent to me...
"suffer no claim of sin or of sickness to grow upon the thought. dismiss it with an abiding conviction that it is illegitimate, because you know that god is no more the author of sickness than he is of sin."
-from science and health
by mary baker eddy
390:20-23
i guess to sum it all up i am sad and confused and i would love to hear your thoughts if you could give me just a few minutes of your time. thanks.
laurel
hello laurel,
i'm so sorry to hear about your situation. there is an answer, it just depends on what you're willing to do.
being 36 is not too old. i am 45 and i am about to start nursing school in 2 weeks. i'm not saying you should wait until you're my age to start again because that might mean repeating some of your classes, but it is something to think about. if you waited until your children were older (mine are in their 20s now and it's so much easier) it might be easier for you.
i know you have a lot to figure out and no one can help you but you, but i just wanted to say that it's never too late to fulfill your dreams. so if now, there are too many obstacles to get past, perhaps it's not the right time. but then again, if it's your passion to become an rn then nothing will stop you.
good luck! i wish you happiness and hope that your husband finds it in his heart to give you all the support you need.
I can relate to what you are feeling and thinking when it comes to fulfilling something that you want, however, after reading all the replies and reading your concerns I would have to agree that Nursing School is very demanding and will literally drain you with having the small children that you have. The emphasis on having to study for long hours and trying to be a wife and a mother at the same time can really pull you over and beyond your limitations. If your partner is not willing to help you in every aspect of house chores and caring for the children you will be over whelmed. I have been in school for Nursing for two years, and my youngest just graduated this year, before his graduation I had to make a choice of letting one semester go, granted on was on an even keel of getting my work done and so forth but, the pressures can rreally get to you. Now that he has graduated I am all about me and can focus more on my studies and getting this done. You cannot and I cannot emphasize this more than this cannot have any kinds of interference when it comes to this schooling cause if you do then you can easily lose focus on what the real point in your schooling is all about and fall back in you learning. I just turned 40 years of age this year, I do not regret in waiting this long, because I know that everyone I cared for was taken care of before I became selfish and did something for me, it is called sacrifice and sometimes as parents when we really do not want to we end up having to do this. I think God if no one else will God will definitely understand if you hold off till the kids are older. Best of Luck. LM
Specializes in med/surg/tele/neuro/rehab/corrections.
thanks...yes, he says it is my bill and he won't pay it. we are going to take a second mortage for home improvement and such. his dad is even buying him a new camper because ours is 25 years old and falling apart. but unfortunately my tuition is my problem. my name is on nothing, not the house, the car or the main bank account. i am not lying when i say i don't have access to any money. i have $4.11 in the bank and if i want groceries i need to wait till he can go with me to shop. once in a while he writes a check to jewel for groceries but there is little left over at the end of the list.
i still really want to be a nurse...i read echo heron every chance i get.
i took 2 masters classes in clinical psychology and that is where the tuition is from. i had to sit out a semester before i could repeat peds so i took them as a student at large pending admission to the psych program. i did this to keep my loan from coming due and i wanted to be a psych nurse anyway so i thought i was killing two birds with one stone. i found out that because i took the classes in the "student at large status" and not as a psych student the bill was mine and i was not ellegible for fianacial aid. i could not register for either program until the bill was paid. so then i went to phlebotomy school and i said what happened in another thread. the same thing, he did not pay that tuition till last year and then it was too late for that too.
laurel
laurel, i feel for you because i had a similar situation. my husband is a class a jerk. the house is in his name only and he controls all the money. as a housewife i have no income. i suffered from depression and that went on for years and my self esteem plumeted. (actually a common occurance in housewives) i had a bill to pay off too that my husband said was mine and he wouln't touch it even tho it was under $3,000 and he had just refinanced the house and took out $50,000. my oldest son is now 18 and just starting college and my husband won't pay for that either, but when he was 4 years old and i wanted to go back to school i had to say i was a single parent to get him into the college child care center for free because my husband wouldn't pay for it. i had to go around the obstacles set for me even if it meant doing something like that. i had to find a way. my husband never had my back as another poster said about her wonderful husband. whenever i wanted to do something with my life my husband would look at me and say, "oh really? who's going to pay for it?" i was treated as a maid and a child. and then something happened....
i turned 40! and the power came on me! :chuckle i told my husband off whenever he acted like a total jerk. when he said something like who is going to pay for it. i yelled and came on like a banshee! :chuckle he is a parent too and he knows i don't have any money so quit talking to me like that! i shouldn't have to feel like a single parent when i'm not. :angryfire when i confronted him he shut up. i still have to do that occasionally like last month when i got fed up when he said he did all the work around the house. (he's a loafer who orders the children to do housework) we still have many issues to resolve but most things have changed for the better. and just to clarify, i don't attack him directly. i use "i" messages even if i am screaming them. lol!
ok so maybe the power hasn't come on you yet but that doesn't mean your completely stuck. you are too close to stop in your tracks. i too had to sit home with all of my children to raise them, my yongest is 10 now, so i understand what you are going thru, but i still found out ways to get back in school. the more you get out of the house the more connections you will make with the outside world and with that comes new ideas that will change you and how you will deal with your situation. i'm sure that doesn't set well with your husband so understand that where he is coming from he doesn't want to see his wife get any power or control. it's fun for him to be master and commander. that's why he doesn't help you go back to school. he knows you are unable to pay back such a huge debt. plain and simple-- if you fail he wins. just understand that.
if i were your next door neighbor i would come over and take you to the nearest college for a session with a counselor and tell him/her everything and see how they could help. then i would make a big sign that says something like hi my name is laurel, i'm smart and want to be a nurse, i've only got three more classes to go but no money.......(something like that) and with you and your two youngest children we would stand out on a busy street to see if you could get a businessman to front you a loan (or hospital administrator) that takes some moxy. (some of you may remember seeing this as a segment on television. hey it worked didn't it? ) make up some index cards that state your name, phone number, your dream, and your situation and pass them out to everyone you know. pass them out at church. keep telling your story because the more networking you do the more likely you are to have a positive outcome. they might even be able to pass your card on to someone who can help you. and while your attending church with your husband, open up to people and tell them what he is like, then watch their reactions. (people will want to know why you have no money to finish your rn so tell them) it will give you more strength as to how wrong the whole situation is. self empowerment is what you need.
keep reading echo heron and don't give up. remember she had a little boy too who was too young for school but she still did it.
lastly, drop your so-called friend. as a cs her agenda is anti-medicine. that is why she is trying to get you to give up your dream. she is too negative and is just trying to dissuade you from what you know deep down inside is your path. (again this goes back to getting out and meeting more people. different people will give you different viewpoints to weigh in your decison) your here for a reason. you know you want to be a nurse. and you are so close so don't give up!
I guess some of that moxy comes with age or with getting fed up with people going against your desire to reach your goals. I married my best friend a few years ago. We made promises to back each other in our passions, his was race cars and he had one. Well that was fine until I said I wanted to go to nursing school. He said I couldn't, I am not a spring chicken and I really did not want to get a divorce but I went to nursing school. He yelled and screamed and swore. He ended up being a class A jerk. He screamed 1" from my face and told me I did not know how crazy he could get....I put the fear of God in him and told him he did not know how crazy I could get! And then I acted a little crazy to back up my statement. And I went to school, the second year he made me move out...I did, I wanted to anyhow but let him think he was "kicking" me out....that way he moved me back home.
I had a wing and a prayer to live on financially. I have had a lot of friends come out of the woodwork to help. I helped a girl over 40 yrs. ago in high school, she sent me 500.00 to pay for boards and my permit and just for the heck of it. My cousin sent me some money to help me bridge the money gap. My dad who never ever helped me financially without making me cry....bought me a new car for my birthday in Feb. Mine was okay but might not have made it. I graduated with a lot of hard work, a few tears, a lot of worrying, a little bit of sleep, and a lot of moxy and I got behind on some bills but I am still standing. I just got my first job and I am going through orientation. I am signing my divorce papers and happily. He can kiss my A--. I loved him, but I don't need BS at this point in my life. I really think he wanted me to support his race car habit. I could have if he would have supported me first. I think I saw the true reason he asked me to marry him when I decided to go to school....live and learn! I only want people around me that make a positive difference in my life, by example, encouragement, etc. I don't need someone ruining my desires, my dreams, my goals. Those are not bad things.
Maybe it takes age....I am not sure. All I know if I was 20 yrs. old...oh boy would I do things differently!!! I am not young but I still keep myself pointed in the direction I am going in. A step forwad, sometimes one backward. I did not lose and am not losing focus. I want to be a good nurse...a babystep at a time.
People will help when they see your honest effort. Then you can pay the world back by being the best nurse or whatever, you can be.
I think you gave Laurel excellent advice. We need to have her living in our neighborhood so we could help her through.
Nancy K
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Laurel, I feel for you because I had a similar situation. My husband is a class A Jerk. The house is in his name only and he controls all the money. As a housewife I have no income. I suffered from depression and that went on for years and my self esteem plumeted. (actually a common occurance in housewives) I had a bill to pay off too that my husband said was mine and he wouln't touch it even tho it was under $3,000 and he had just refinanced the house and took out $50,000. My oldest son is now 18 and just starting college and my husband won't pay for that either, but when he was 4 years old and I wanted to go back to school I had to say I was a single parent to get him into the college child care center for free because my husband wouldn't pay for it. I had to go around the obstacles set for me even if it meant doing something like that. I had to find a way. My husband never had my back as another poster said about her wonderful husband. Whenever I wanted to do something with my life my husband would look at me and say, "Oh really? Who's going to pay for it?" I was treated as a maid and a child. And then something happened....
I turned 40! and the POWER came on me! :chuckle I told my husband off whenever he acted like a total jerk. When he said something like who is going to pay for it. I yelled and came on like a banshee! :chuckle He is a parent too and he knows I don't have any money so quit talking to me like that! I shouldn't have to feel like a single parent when I'm not. :angryfire When I confronted him he shut up. I still have to do that occasionally like last month when I got fed up when he said he did all the work around the house. (He's a loafer who orders the children to do housework) We still have many issues to resolve but most things have changed for the better. And just to clarify, I don't attack him directly. I use "I" messages even if I am screaming them. LOL!
Ok so maybe the power hasn't come on you yet but that doesn't mean your completely stuck. You are too close to stop in your tracks. I too had to sit home with all of my children to raise them, my yongest is 10 now, so I understand what you are going thru, but I still found out ways to get back in school. The more you get out of the house the more connections you will make with the outside world and with that comes new ideas that will change you and how you will deal with your situation. I'm sure that doesn't set well with your husband so understand that where he is coming from he doesn't want to see his wife get any power or control. It's fun for him to be master and commander. That's why he doesn't help you go back to school. He knows you are unable to pay back such a huge debt. Plain and simple-- If you fail he wins. Just understand that.
If I were your next door neighbor I would come over and take you to the nearest college for a session with a counselor and tell him/her everything and see how they could help. Then I would make a big sign that says something like Hi My name is Laurel, I'm smart and want to be a Nurse, I've only got three more classes to go but no money.......(something like that) and with you and your two youngest children we would stand out on a busy street to see if you could get a businessman to front you a loan (or hospital administrator) That takes some moxy. (Some of you may remember seeing this as a segment on television. Hey it worked didn't it? ) Make up some index cards that state your name, phone number, your dream, and your situation and pass them out to everyone you know. Pass them out at church. Keep telling your story because the more networking you do the more likely you are to have a positive outcome. They might even be able to pass your card on to someone who can help you. And while your attending church with your husband, open up to people and tell them what he is like, then watch their reactions. (People will want to know why you have no money to finish your RN so tell them) It will give you more strength as to how wrong the whole situation is. Self empowerment is what you need.
Keep reading Echo Heron and don't give up. Remember she had a little boy too who was too young for school but she still did it.
Lastly, drop your so-called friend. As a CS her agenda is anti-medicine. That is why she is trying to get you to give up your dream. She is too negative and is just trying to dissuade you from what you know deep down inside is your path. (again this goes back to getting out and meeting more people. different people will give you different viewpoints to weigh in your decison) Your here for a reason. You know you want to be a nurse. And you are so close so don't give up!
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cosette123
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certainly with the nursing shortage...you can get a loan or hospital to sponsor you...isuggest applying to several LPN programs...test those waters...then you can easily get into a transistional program, and even work a little and bring in some cash, and get experience, to boot, or just go straight into transitional...isuggest you take a few days...and just be quiet with yourself and do some self housecleaning....what is holding you back....is it fear....do you feel you don't deserve it....or are you really meant to do something else....the world is your oyster...and you are worth the pearl waitng for you.....just relax, take a break...pray, contemplate...and you will find it.....best of luck.......