The reasons I'm going to continue to bust my ass in nursing school and put up the best effort I possibly can is because I owe it to myself. Half ass'ing a job, life, or whatever you are working toward is all on your shoulders. The hard work is evident to others, it's a display to the world what you represent as an individual. I get some satisfaction from impressing professors, maybe from some deep seeded trait engrained into me from a constant desire to impress my father. My father is a man with little ability to moderate his work, play, or relaxation. He's all go, 100% pedal to the metal, over-achieving type of guy. I've consistently heard from his co-workers that he is cut from a different mold, a mold infused with molecules that vibrate a little faster than all the rest. Unfortunately, I retain some of this inability to moderate my life. Last semester I maintained a 4.0, impressed the **** out of my clinical instructors, and succeeded in all regards academically. However, I have a girlfriend that was neglected, got somewhat chubby from sedentary hours spent reading and cramming knowledge in a tired mind, and ignored my "friends." Nursing school... it's the anti-life, socially anyway. I'm a more solitary individual anyhow, but do thrive and deeply appreciate the friends I have made over the years. In a human interaction I'm one to appreciate quality over quantity. Most people I find a reason to shy away from, (i.e., politically insane, religious fanatic, or treat their body/mind to a standard I disagree with). While nursing is a giving profession, at times nursing school feels like a selfish endeavor. I'm driven to the point where I put everything behind my success, so friends, family, and life... I'll hopefully see you in May. For now, I'll continue on the warpath of academia and self-mutilation as I push my limits of performance to exceed the expectations of others while just barely scratching the surface of mine.
I'm confused. To those of you referring to the OP as "him" it appears by her profile, "she" is female. Knowing that and trying to follow this thread has given me brain damage ;-). Carry on!
Having said that, learning behaviors that go in the direction of a cooperative approach is as important as a 4.0 imo. Therefore your statement that you "shy away from most people" followed by some extreme descriptions seems like a distorted view of what "most people" are really like.
The lone wolf approach is the path of least resistance for over-achievers but sows the seeds for future problems down the line as a majority of reported issues have interpersonal relationships at the root.
This resonates so much with me, as a former and sometimes "lone wolf." I grew up with a lot of disdain and contempt for people who didn't live their lives like I thought life should be lived (I get that from my mom!) -- it's been a long journey to get over that. OP, I don't know how old you are, but I hope you realize it's never too late to see the value in everyone's contribution to our big human community! Baby steps.
Wow there are some rude responses here. I think this is a student doing his best to be the best nurse possible for himself as much as his patients.. and that because of that "selfish" desire, his (or her) social life is suffering. I've seen so many people on these boards bring up their GPA, why on earth is it so offensive? A lot of our 'book ready' students in my class were also AWESOME at the bedside.
OP, congrats on all your hard work. Remember, nurses really do eat their young.
He didn't have an attitude. He's just venting as we are allowed to.
Seems like he's trying to impress his father. He got a 4.0 which is great. He never bragged and said anything about being a good nurse if/when he graduates. But of course, someone had to mentions that to him so that he doesn't forget. (Someone always does come in after a few posts). Then the people asking "do you have a question?" Um no. He's just venting.
I recall someone being snarky saying something along the lines of 'tell us how amazing you are again?' Because god forbid you make good grades and want to talk about it.
And then the grammar police come. They always do. Let's not forget about them!
Then. When someone like you comes along and goes against the masses they all get clueless? "Me? Who said that?" "I didnt see that posted! All I see is.." I can just Imagine them smiling behind their computer screen. They know what they are doing but play dumb. Happens all the time. Just read and scroll my friend, read and scroll. Not worth it. Lol
Thats is exactly what I do most of the time. I commment here and there but read and scroll is my motto here on AN. Lol.
IMHO opinion I dont think it is. From what I read in some peooles post to this and other threads it stands to have some truth to it. Im just saying........
I'm confused. To those of you referring to the OP as "him" it appears by her profile "she" is female. Knowing that and trying to follow this thread has given me brain damage ;-). Carry on![/quote']
Oh. Lol I think because in the OP there's a girlfriend mentioned. Maybe a same sex relationship then.
IMHO opinion I dont think it is. From what I read in some peooles post to this and other threads it stands to have some truth to it. Im just saying........
Did you ever consider that some veteran nurses take offense when they are trying to help new nurses (in some cases to not kill their first patient) and the new nurse accuses all nurses of eating their young? Before we start accusing nurses of eating their young, why don't we understand what that actually means?
Did you ever consider that some veteran nurses take offense when they are trying to help new nurses (in some cases not kill their first patient) and the new nurse accuses all nurses of eating their young? Before we start accusing nurses of eating their young why don't we understand what that actually means?[/quote']
Because it's MUCH easier to parrot such a statement instead of respect blatant honesty; some people despise being the newbie, or that learning this business can be difficult; not necessarily the people, that are in it-most of the time.
Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
The responses on this thread, imo, was an example of how nurses can eat their young. So many jumped in to criticize him or her.
Nurses eating their young is no myth. Of course, not ALL nurses... if the shoe doesn't fit, than it doesn't apply to you.
Nurses eating their young is indeed a myth. It's a nasty, untrue myth that newer nurses seem to suscribe to because it gives them an out. If the experienced nurse disagrees with you, provides negative feedback or simply isn't as effusive in greeting you as you think you deserve, it couldn't possibly be because you're wrong, your critical thinking was faulty or she had other things on her mind and didn't see you -- it's because nurses eat their young.
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Aaaaaaannnnddd.......... popcorn.