How much personal info do you share with parents?

[smartnurse1982]

I have been at this for long,but i feel like parents somehow view me as an "outsider".

For example,i am courteous,but i do not like to share anything personal.

I mean,i do share with them my education and experience,but it stops right there.

I do not like to engage in small talk about celebs,current events,other nurses,my daily plans,my other cases,etc.

Some of these cases i have been going to for 5 yrs,but we seem "distant".

[Adele_Michal7, ASN, RN]

Would not*

In 3 words I can sum up what I've learned about life: it goes on.

[SDALPN]

Oh ok...wasn't sure what you meant by that...I guess it is your choice to bring it up...if a Jewish person wished me a happy (insert Jewish holiday here) that I do not celebrate...I would be offended...If I know they celebrate it I would just wish it to them back...

Acknowledging that something exists does not mean you are complicit with it...I don't understand why you can't wish someone a happy birthday. Maybe you can't "celebrate" with them. But not even use a cultural nicety?

In 3 words I can sum up what I've learned about life: it goes on.

I disagree. That would be like a Christian saying happy birthday to satan to a pagan. It just really goes against the belief system. I think it would be shallow to expect someone to go against their belief system just to be nice in the opinion of another. Its not nice in a different belief. I don't put cloth on my head (don't know the name of it) to be nice to a Muslim. They choose to cover their hair, I choose to show my hair. So some Christians choose to say merry Christmas and others don't.

[KATRN78]

I share simple or funny things like traffic, sewing, tv shows, food, cooking etc... I will ask appropriate questions. Many families share with me so that then makes them feel more closer to me. I use phrases like "that must be so difficult for you", "I cant imagine how hard that must be", "really, tell me more?"

I sorta lie about some topics:

Politics= "Oh I am not following any of that." Truth is: I am an educated libral that understands the workings of government, economics and politics.

Homosexuality/homophobia= "I do not really think about that, I just try to be nice to everyone." Truth is: I want equal rights for all and homophobia makes me ill.

[NightNurseRN13]

I have nothing to hide with my patients. I do stray from political and religious topics unless like someone said before they need prayer, I'm glad to provide that. I will not talk about another nurse, but will listen to their complaints and offer to direct it to our DON if they want.

Some patients I feel I can be more open with and some I'm more closed off to. I think it takes time to get to know them and then you can figure out what your limits are.

One patient we exchange fruits/vegetables from our gardens and the next is get report, do what I need to do and leave.

[anangelsmommy, ADN, BSN, RN]

I replied about a trip to somewhere I thought interesting and an experience I had...of course MY PERSONAL experience was WRONG...because the family if from that country...learning what topics are okay and not even after 7 years... oh and it still gets weird sometimes...religion gets brought up over and over in one house and I just don't know what to say. And I have religious beliefs. Just not hers!

[anangelsmommy, ADN, BSN, RN]

my facebook account is under a name that you wouldnt find if you didnt really know me but i had a client that still was able to find me and stalk me online. They got my phone number from the agency and called me multiple times per day for years. I didnt want to change my number because I used for professional and private reasons. I had her blocked on both accounts but she kept finding ways around it. I got off the case and our agency dropped her for abuse. she kept calling me and asking me to come work for the new agency. She finally stopped but she is still following me on facebook even though I blocked her. I cant seem to get her off the account entirely. so I think YES they occasionally do look you up and if you think you have wild one, tell them very little!!

angels mommy

[rnrg]

That balance is tough. Too little info and you're cold, unapproachable, and distant. Too much and they will think you share their info, they will find something to dislike, etc. Either way feels like a no win.

I just said this to my case scheduler today. After being told not to return to a case because my child had acquired an illness that I transmitted from thier home. Unbelievable.

[eeffoc_emmig]

I just said this to my case scheduler today. After being told not to return to a case because my child had acquired an illness that I transmitted from thier home. Unbelievable.

That's awful!

[caliotter3]

I got so ill from one patient one time I know that I should have been hospitalized, but I never sought medical care at the time due to no means to pay and I knew I would lose my job. I medicated myself into outer space, avoided direct contact as much as possible even though the client had made me ill, and months later wondered just exactly what the long term effects and diagnosis would be. When I finally said something to the employer staffing coordinator, the reaction made me want to walk out of the office not to return. After all, they easily find a replacement for me when it suits them.

[SDALPN]

I got so ill from one patient one time I know that I should have been hospitalized, but I never sought medical care at the time due to no means to pay and I knew I would lose my job. I medicated myself into outer space, avoided direct contact as much as possible even though the client had made me ill, and months later wondered just exactly what the long term effects and diagnosis would be. When I finally said something to the employer staffing coordinator, the reaction made me want to walk out of the office not to return. After all, they easily find a replacement for me when it suits them.

Yet providing us insurance would be cheaper than training and hiring another nurse. They just don't make sense!

[caliotter3]

I find that me getting pulled from a case usually corresponds with someone else becoming happy that they got my job. The client is happy because they just audition the next fill-in nurse for the next backstabbing position.

[SDALPN]

I find that me getting pulled from a case usually corresponds with someone else becoming happy that they got my job. The client is happy because they just audition the next fill-in nurse for the next backstabbing position.

Seems to be the cycle. The office staff is at the top of the food chain and replace us to keep their job. They don't care :-(