Tired of hearing about the kids. - page 4

by TECHTORNHOPEFULLY 10,170 Views | 63 Comments

I don't know why this bothers me. Probably because I spend five days a week working my butt off in an pediatric emergency room and I am tired! Here is what bothers me. We started out with full time nurses who worked really... Read More


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    I had a preceptor like this, and it was rediculous. She seriously would tell me to hang on a second when I needed her because my patient was having runs of VTach. She would be like "hang on I'm video chatting with the baby"......She was 5 months old
    I just wanted to tell her "ok I'll try to keep this man alive so you can finish your conversation with your baby who is sleeping on skype" I have two kids who are my entire world and I love them more then anything on the planet, I miss them like crazy, and I the only reason I would hate work would be because I miss my munchkins, but I would never act like this.

    I precepted with this lady woman for 4 weeks and not one time (NOT ONCE ) did she ever ask about me or my family. It came up in a conversation after work one night and she was astonished that I had kids....I always try to get to know people, ask about their families and such. I am a mommy, but I dont think I fall into the category of "The Mommies", they seem to be a self-absorbed group of people who think the entire world revolves around them.
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    Thanks for posting this!!! Sooooo tired of this also....
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    I'm also tired of hearing about kids, grandkids from some people all the time.

    I'm also fed up with one particular person who brings her baby into work and changes them on the tea room table (where we eat!) without disinfecting it and while people are eating! We've told her to stop doing it but she just ignores us or gets affronted. So sorry I don't like the smell of your kids dirty nappy while I'm having my lunch.
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    [quote=scrubby;6095019

    i'm also fed up with one particular person who brings her baby into work and changes them on the tea room table (where we eat!) without disinfecting it and while people are eating! we've told her to stop doing it but she just ignores us or gets affronted. so sorry i don't like the smell of your kids dirty nappy while i'm having my lunch. [/quote]

    blecch!madface: as my grandma used to say, "some folks aren't born
    with the sense they should have been!"
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    Quote from carolmaccas66
    Yes I too would be greatly annoyed by this! I like looking at some pics, but when people want to show you 50,000 photos of basically the same image it gets highly boring.
    Can't you tell them straight or schedule a meeting for everyone with the NUM?
    There is a diversion tactic we use in psych nursing that may work as well:
    When they bring out the photos/videos (can't believe they have TIME to do this in an ED/ER!), don't look at it, then say something like: I'm very busy can you do such and such for me (or whatever). DO NOT COMMENT ON THE PHOTO etc. If u do then they are sucking you in (for want of a better word) to 'their world'. If you start commenting to be polite, they automatically take that that you're interested & go on and on. Just keep diverting the conversation away from what they are showing you, & they will get the message, believe me.
    I'm sorry but I don't tolerate any BS now; I'd be onto the NUM right away. Do it today if you're at work and lodge a complaint if it's that bad. The NUM may not be aware this is happening.
    Let us know how u get on anyway.
    I agree with you 100%. Are they there for their kids or the kids they are paid to take care of. The Milestones are nothing. Once a co worker brought in pictures of her kid - thousands of the them. While the call lights were twinkling like Christmas in New York, she kept saying ,"Now this is Little Joey's first bath, Now this one is Little Joey's second bath, this is Little Joey being dried, Now here I am putting Little Joey's shirt on.." She looked at me and saw that I was board. She said "Don't you like my little Joey?" I said, It's not that I'm waiting for you to show us little Joey's First Exorcism" I walk away. She never show me another picture of Little Joey.
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    Thank you for posting about this. I usually ignore it or I say "Aw he/she is cute" then I keep it moving. I hate when call bells are going off and the RN is ignoring it because she is facetiming or skyping with her baby. That really aggravates me to no end.
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    Quote from caregiver1977
    I have to admit that there are some women I know who have bragged about not having children, and I couldn't help but think "Thank God." Some of them I wouldn't want to care for a stray dog. However, I don't think that of everyone who decides not to have children.

    I once had a manager who was in her 40s and never had any children. She loved to brag (the same way people annoyingly brag about their children) about how she had no kids so she could buy all the nice clothes and vacations she wanted. She all but said that pregnant women's brains were inferior to everyone else's. She assumed that pregnant women had poorer job performance before she would have chance to see how a certain pregnant woman would perform on the job (we were doing customer service on the phone: not exactly busting rocks).

    But what everyone found out about her is that she would never have a child because she demanded all the attention of her husband and father. Everything was about her. We thought it was funny/odd that she bragged so about not having children but attempted to micro-manage and treat everyone like a child that supervised.

    I am not saying that about anyone in this thread. I do not know you personally. But there are some women who have told me they didn't want children, and I thought that was best for all involved (or unborn).
    Fair enough, but know that there are those of us who don't have children due to circumstances or choice who get really, really sick of being bullied by "The Mommies." Someone needs to stay late? Oh, let "Linda" do it...she doesn't have kids. One of "The Mommies" has to work a holiday? "Why can't 'Angie' work? She's not married and she doesn't have kids."

    We get it. We single people who don't have kids are defective...but somehow, good enough to cover when "Betty Sue's" kid is sick.

    Ever try to get someone with kids to reciprocate when you do them a favor and now you need someone to swap a w/e or holiday? LOLOL.
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    Quote from OCNRN63
    Fair enough, but know that there are those of us who don't have children due to circumstances or choice who get really, really sick of being bullied by "The Mommies." Someone needs to stay late? Oh, let "Linda" do it...she doesn't have kids. One of "The Mommies" has to work a holiday? "Why can't 'Angie' work? She's not married and she doesn't have kids."

    We get it. We single people who don't have kids are defective...but somehow, good enough to cover when "Betty Sue's" kid is sick.

    Ever try to get someone with kids to reciprocate when you do them a favor and now you need someone to swap a w/e or holiday? LOLOL.
    I had a job once where I worked every holiday because'I don't have kids.' I worked there only one year. I couldn't take the women that had kids, coming to me and saying 'How was your holiday?'
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    I totally agree, OP.

    FWIW, "The Mommies" are bad everywhere, including for stay-at-home or work-at-home moms. I just don't get it.

    I'm a mom. I love, love, love my kids; they are lights of my life. I think most things they do are adorable (some aren't, let's just be real here), and I could look at pictures of them for hours. But that's me - I'm their mom. The only people who rival my obsession with them are their father and their grandparents. Yes, we, their parents and grandparents, all could have hours of discussion over what S or E did today. And we have.

    But what I totally don't get is when The Mommies start these discussions and expect the rest of us to be equally enthralled. I'm so happy that little Timmy got straight A's. Good for him! But I don't want to have an hour-long dissertation on his achievements since the hospital nursery, complete with pictures from your iPhone. I especially don't want to have these discussions when I'm nose-deep in my A&P book at the playground. My not-so-subtle "Well, I've got to study; I've got a horrid test coming up" didn't make the slightest difference because I needed to hear what Timmy did when he was 18 months old. Great....

    It's like it's a competition - that, somehow, bragging about the kid's exploits from birth onward will make The Mommy a better mother. Or raise her status as "Involved Mom" in the eyes of her peers. I swear it's like the Olympics sometimes (and equally cutthroat). In my experience, The Mommies are either moms with something to prove (like assuaging mommy-guilt), or it's extreme self-absorption. Or both.
    Last edit by RHC81 on Jan 31, '12
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    Quote from TECHTORNHOPEFULLY
    It's so annoying. Can we have some adult conversation?
    As a single guy in nursing, I have found a fantastic tool for getting along: I pretend to be enthralled by pregnancies and kid stories.

    For the record, I don't find pregnancy and childbirth fascinating and it is certainly no miracle.

    However, everyone else sure does, so I play along. I go to baby showers and bring gifts and big smiles. I look, listen, and "ooh" and "aaahh" when the pics come out or they actually bring the little crapping droolers on the unit. I also have some baby stories of my nephews at the ready when needed.

    For this, my breeding coworkers adore me and we get along great in every other area.

    It's worth it.
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