A "dating female students in your class" post

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Well, having just completed my 1st semester of the nursing program, I have found that as a single guy, you are really in (at times) a very weird catch-22 being in a female-dominated student body.

Although I definitely do not complain about the female-to-male ratio, I have learned - the hard way, really - that trying to date one (or, god forbid, even more than one) of your classmates can in many ways be a disastrous decision. Because even though you will likely interact with your female of interest every single day at school, that still doesn't change the fact that you still have to stay focused and on the ball if you want to succeed in nursing school. At one point, I thought that because we were both in the same program, at the same school, etc. it could still work - but man, that just hasn't necessarily shown itself to be the case, in my experience. You simply cannot have your head in the clouds and still do well academically. I would love to be proven wrong on this, but I'm hedging my bets carefully from here on out. It's hard sometimes, trying to find that balance - because even though I'm relatively young (29), I'm not going to pretend that I want to stay single forever - but I definitely don't want to risk losing my "edge" with my studies.

Any other guys experienced anything like this?

Specializes in Med Surg - Renal.
I am one of the girls in the class. it is kinda weird because the guys get so much attention from the teachers and the students.

needless to say I began a completely physical relationships with one of the 2 guys in our class. We have no intentions on dating just getting our school stress out! maybe you could try that . I have to admit its pretty fun, just you both have to agree mums the word and itt won't be more than that.:redpinkhe

There are very few times I regret my advanced age. But one of the laments I have is that I was a generation too soon for the FWB phenomenae.

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There are very few times I regret my advanced age. But one of the laments I have is that I was a generation too soon for the FWB phenomenae.

what age is too old for having a FWB?

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I'm a male in nursing school, and I am also the youngest in my program at 18. There are four other guys in my class of 20, but they are all mid 20s to late 30s. All four of them are married or in a long-term relationship with someone. The majority of the women in my class are at least 24, and some are in their late 30s. Needless to say, I'm not interested in them, and they aren't interested in me. I made a commitment to myself that I would not date anyone until after I had graduated nursing school, landed a job (hopefully in ICU), and gotten off orientation as a new graduate nurse. Even if there was a girl my age who wasn't taken, or who was interested, I would refuse to date her. The last thing I need is to get caught up in a relationship and cause my grades to suffer. For some reason, everyone in my program views me as the smartest student, and they always come to me with questions in both class and clinical. Because they view me as so intelligent, I don't want to let them down by not being able to answer the question or tell them where to find the information. I also don't want to let myself down by making less than an A during this semester. I feel like if I was seeing someone, I wouldn't have the time to study properly, I wouldn't be able to help my classmates, and I wouldn't be able to keep my A average. To me, it just isn't worth it.

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I'm a male in nursing school, and I am also the youngest in my program at 18. There are four other guys in my class of 20, but they are all mid 20s to late 30s. All four of them are married or in a long-term relationship with someone. The majority of the women in my class are at least 24, and some are in their late 30s. Needless to say, I'm not interested in them, and they aren't interested in me. I made a commitment to myself that I would not date anyone until after I had graduated nursing school, landed a job (hopefully in ICU), and gotten off orientation as a new graduate nurse. Even if there was a girl my age who wasn't taken, or who was interested, I would refuse to date her. The last thing I need is to get caught up in a relationship and cause my grades to suffer. For some reason, everyone in my program views me as the smartest student, and they always come to me with questions in both class and clinical. Because they view me as so intelligent, I don't want to let them down by not being able to answer the question or tell them where to find the information. I also don't want to let myself down by making less than an A during this semester. I feel like if I was seeing someone, I wouldn't have the time to study properly, I wouldn't be able to help my classmates, and I wouldn't be able to keep my A average. To me, it just isn't worth it.

Too bad you are not older :) and graduated, and working :lol2:

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I thought this was a very interesting thread, and had some good points on both sides of the argument. As a student that is starting this Jan, the whole dating thing has crossed my mind already.

In graduate school. You're placed in small classes, with the same people, each and every day, for hours on end. I imagine nursing will be similar.

It's kinda only natural for some bonds to develop over time, especially if you have some attractive qualities that you know how to promote.

I got intimate with a girl in the beginning of my graduate school program, and it was great. We had fun, we learned and challenged each other, we released stress, it was pretty awesome. :p

Grades didn't suffer at all either... because we had a good balance of work and play.

But after stuff went sour... it sucked :down:

Not only is being forced to see someone you don't want to see difficult, but you also get 'branded'. You're still "(girl's name) guy", and you can say goodbye to any other chances with any other females. They talk. They talk about you, both good and bad.

And I can't even blame them, because they don't want the 'leftover' of another girl in class. At least thats how I justify it.

I'm entering nursing school as a late 20's now, and I'm not sure what I'm going to do relationship wise. I'm wiser now, but hey... ya never know what life holds.

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I thought this was a very interesting thread, and had some good points on both sides of the argument. As a student that is starting this Jan, the whole dating thing has crossed my mind already.

In graduate school. You're placed in small classes, with the same people, each and every day, for hours on end. I imagine nursing will be similar.

It's kinda only natural for some bonds to develop over time, especially if you have some attractive qualities that you know how to promote.

I got intimate with a girl in the beginning of my graduate school program, and it was great. We had fun, we learned and challenged each other, we released stress, it was pretty awesome. :p

Grades didn't suffer at all either... because we had a good balance of work and play.

But after stuff went sour... it sucked :down:

Not only is being forced to see someone you don't want to see difficult, but you also get 'branded'. You're still "(girl's name) guy", and you can say goodbye to any other chances with any other females. They talk. They talk about you, both good and bad.

And I can't even blame them, because they don't want the 'leftover' of another girl in class. At least thats how I justify it.

I'm entering nursing school as a late 20's now, and I'm not sure what I'm going to do relationship wise. I'm wiser now, but hey... ya never know what life holds.

I am female but I am glad I already have a relationship before going into school this spring. Some girls might get caught up in whatever guys may be in our class and I dont even have to blink because I have "the one" at home I can concentrate on the important thing, which is absorbing every bit of information I can from my instructors, patients, doctors, and even classmates. :nurse:

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Specializes in Case Manager.

Had a FWB thing with 2 chicks and working on a long term deal with another. The fwb thing went well. Just gotta play it cool. She won't think it's awkward if you don't.

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Specializes in Med-Surg/ Tele/ DOU.

I met my wife in our first semester in school. We got married at the end of the 4th semester, and had a baby the summer before the last. My wife actually got pregnant again before we graduated. I can't imagine not having her through the program. Like most probably experienced most significant others aren't as understanding about how difficult nursing school is. I'm sure my grades could of been a little better, but its really nice to of had a life outside nursing school.

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I wouldn't date a girl in my class, at least not until after school. I'm one of 2 males in the class with the other being married and I really don't feel I get more attention from the ladies than any other class I've taken. I suppose if I was "looking" for it, it would probably be easier to hook up being basically the only male in the class but I spend my time learning rather than flirting and so far so good.

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I have a few rules about dating - co-workers,neighbors,classmates are off limits. (and I wonder why I'm still single? LOL). I'd just rather be safe than sorry. Would hate for a nasty break up & still have to see this person all the time. If there was a guy in my class that I was really attracted to and we really connected, I would prefer to wait till school was over before seriously getting involved.

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Specializes in Emergency/Cath Lab.

Ugh I dont learn. Dated someone from my floor for awhile. Just fell apart. Its not miserable but its not fun seeing her everyday.

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What I find is that many feign interest, but their motive is that I help them with their studies....parasites basically

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