A "dating female students in your class" post

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Well, having just completed my 1st semester of the nursing program, I have found that as a single guy, you are really in (at times) a very weird catch-22 being in a female-dominated student body.

Although I definitely do not complain about the female-to-male ratio, I have learned - the hard way, really - that trying to date one (or, god forbid, even more than one) of your classmates can in many ways be a disastrous decision. Because even though you will likely interact with your female of interest every single day at school, that still doesn't change the fact that you still have to stay focused and on the ball if you want to succeed in nursing school. At one point, I thought that because we were both in the same program, at the same school, etc. it could still work - but man, that just hasn't necessarily shown itself to be the case, in my experience. You simply cannot have your head in the clouds and still do well academically. I would love to be proven wrong on this, but I'm hedging my bets carefully from here on out. It's hard sometimes, trying to find that balance - because even though I'm relatively young (29), I'm not going to pretend that I want to stay single forever - but I definitely don't want to risk losing my "edge" with my studies.

Any other guys experienced anything like this?

What I find is that many feign interest, but their motive is that I help them with their studies....parasites basically

well if thats the case, then take advantage :yeah:

Anyone have anything new to add to this thread lately? It was... an interesting read. :D

Specializes in ICU.
Anyone have anything new to add to this thread lately? It was... an interesting read. :D

Only one thing to add, Nike's slogan doesn't apply to this issue.

Okay, I'm a girl, but here's my opinion:

I wouldn't date someone in my class unless I thought they were the kind of person I'd marry. Try hanging out in groups outside of school (so you can see their real personality, and determine if they actually are interested in you- not looking for homework help) and in groups if at all possible. You can't learn much about someone in a class room setting, or even at clinicals. While the student/student relationship could get messy, I think it would be no different than co-workers being in a relationship. I'd just make sure you'd be in it for the long haul before you wasted time and energy on each other. If you just hang out and decide its not for you, then there's no awkwardness.

Marry? WTH? What happened to a good old fashioned hook up?

mindlor- that's my opinion. but i'm not the "good old fashion hook up" type. I actually hope to be treated with respect and dignity. I wouldn't want to be in a relationship just for sex :-( Nope not me! But, again, I'm just stating my opinion :-D

Who said anything about a relationship? :)

Kendel,

Please know that I am just teasin you a bit :)

Anyone have anything new to add to this thread lately? It was... an interesting read. :D

I first responded to this thread before I started an accelerated program. No that I'm about done with my first semester...

My thoughts really haven't changed. After you take away the married guys and gay guys, I'm one of 2 or 3 single straight guys. I'm not really that much of a big deal, but I have been brushing off advances from the single girls since day one. I tend to bring it onto myself though, because I flirt with just about anyone. Most of them understand it's part of who I am, but I guess you never really know ;)

So far I've done a good job of being the fun guy in the class that gets A's/B's, but next semester it goes up a notch. We'll have 12 hour clinical shifts and many of our weekends taken up.

Maybe after the summer I'll look into a relationship (Fall is supposed to be easy), but as of right now, I don't think I can juggle the effort for a serious relationship. These girls aren't down with FTB, so that's not an option either.

I'm sure most of you guys feel the same way. Just my :twocents:

We have 7 or so guys in our class and we are all either engaged or married. I have found, even though I have been married for coming up on 6 years; and 24 years old, that to some people, it doesn't make a difference. I would say that is the hardest part of Nursing School is disassociating yourself with the "permissiveness" of some people...

I would say, in general, that any time you date someone in your field of study, or class for that matter, your GPA and grade will suffer. If you are happy with a C = RN and think you can pull it off (BTW, father of 3 and husband as well as working full time I am one of the C = RN people) then I say go for it. Just know that there will be some awkwardness if the relationship is strained at all.

Such a bad idea. Even say if the situation did work out, it is still an un necessary distraction.

Furthermore I think dating in general is a bad idea while in nursing school, at least for me, but I learned really quick I deserved all of my extra time. When your time is limited, any extra time you do luckily get should be focused on YOURSELF and not on someone else. Enkoy your breaks doing things you love, get much needed rest and relaxation. Dating can wait...

Specializes in Trauma, Surgical, Burn.
Such a bad idea. Even say if the situation did work out, it is still an un necessary distraction.

Furthermore I think dating in general is a bad idea while in nursing school, at least for me, but I learned really quick I deserved all of my extra time. When your time is limited, any extra time you do luckily get should be focused on YOURSELF and not on someone else. Enkoy your breaks doing things you love, get much needed rest and relaxation. Dating can wait...

I agree wit this as well. Earlier this semester I had a thing for this one girl in my class. This was a terrible idea cuz it went the wrong direction. Since then, I been playing catch up cuz my test grades were terrible earlier this semester.

There is nothing wrong dating someone in nursing school (cuz i know 2 couples who I'm friends with and they been going strong) but it really sucks when it goes bad like my situation.

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