DH dying-need prayers

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I've posted before about my husband being terminally ill and complications that have come up, but this is the worst it has every been. Currently in ICU with ARDS and sepsis, placed on dialysis yesterday. On a vent, paralytic, the whole works.

Miraculously he has been showing signs of improvement. CXR went from a complete white out to having distinguishable upper lobes, heart, ET. That was amazing. Has been running a PEEP of 20. Went in this morning to a stunned looking pulmonologist telling me that the lungs are regaining some elasticity so they got the PEEP down to 8. (PTL!)

I have been glued to his bedside but am home tonight as I had nobody to take care of our 5 year old. Besides she is desperate for some mommy time and vice versa. I was actually sleeping peacefully and his brother called and woke me up. Couldn't go back to sleep and felt God telling me to get on here and get as many prayers as possible going so that dh can get over the hump. My brother in law is an atheist but I continue to witness to him about God in my life and God's ability to heal if it is in his will.

Please, all you that can pray, please help me out on this one. His name is Dan and I love him more than anything. He had not made a decision for the Lord before he was intubated so that is a big reason for wanting him to wake up and have one more chance.

Thanks in advance to all. You guys are wonderful support.

Thanks for the warm thoughts and prayers. I don't know how I would have gotten this far without you guys. As I said in my original post, I felt the Lord telling me to post my need here. I hope you guys don't forget me.

i hope you continue to come here joey....we're all here for you whether you're mourning, struggling, questioning....whatever your need may be, we will all be here for you. and no, how could we ever forget you? it has been an honor to have you here sharing with us.

with peace and love,

leslie xo

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Nursejoey,

You will NEVER be forgotten. You are in my prayers and I pray that you and your daughter will be stronger for all the support and prayers here. Especially you are in my prayers and I am so sorry for your loss. Hang in there. >>>>

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Specializes in OB/GYN,L&D,FP office,LTC.

I'm so sorry for your loss.I will keep you and your family in my prayers. I hope you will continue to come here,know that we care about you and will support you in any way we can.

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Joey, I'm so sorry...please never forget that you are loved.

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You can view my dh's obit at http://www.jconline.com in today's paper (01/14/06). But you all know that his life was so much more than the obit says. I could have written volumes. His funeral service is going to be very personal. DD (JoEllen) painted him a tiny airplane for Christmas and that is going to be in his casket along with a tiny glass figurine guitar that he had. We have two pictures that I had enlarged for him (Like 2' x 3') that will be displayed, plus the home will do a rememberance video. Also, during the service I'm going to have "Danny Boy" played (he was named after that song) and a song that Dan wrote called "Rescue Me" (beautiful song about being saved by grace) and one of his friends is going to sing "Amazing Grace". During the viewing, I'm going to have Dan's music playing in the background. At the graveside, JoEllen wants to release balloons up to Heaven. Plus it helps so much that our preacher was one of Dan's best friends. Sound good?

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Specializes in Education, FP, LNC, Forensics, ED, OB.
You can view my dh's obit at www.jconline.com in today's paper (01/14/06). But you all know that his life was so much more than the obit says. I could have written volumes. His funeral service is going to be very personal. DD (JoEllen) painted him a tiny airplane for Christmas and that is going to be in his casket along with a tiny glass figurine guitar that he had. We have two pictures that I had enlarged for him (Like 2' x 3') that will be displayed, plus the home will do a rememberance video. Also, during the service I'm going to have "Danny Boy" played (he was named after that song) and a song that Dan wrote called "Rescue Me" (beautiful song about being saved by grace) and one of his friends is going to sing "Amazing Grace". During the viewing, I'm going to have Dan's music playing in the background. At the graveside, JoEllen wants to release balloons up to Heaven. Plus it helps so much that our preacher was one of Dan's best friends. Sound good?

That sounds like a beautiful eulogy, Joey. I read the obituary. You are correct, I am sure his life could speak volumes.

The plans you have for his funeral sound beautiful as well. I will be there in spirit. {{{{HUGS}}}}

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Specializes in Telemetry/Med Surg.

Dear Joey,

I am so very very sorry for your loss. You and your family remain in my prayers.

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{{{{{Joey}}}}}

Your plans sound beautiful. A lovely tribute to Dan. Hang in there. We're still keeping you and JoEllen in our hearts and prayers. I'll never forget you. Please keep us updated on how you're doing. We care so very much. You have a place in our hearts. The next few days will be difficult but I know the Lord will continue to give you the grace and strength and comfort that will get you through. God bless you.

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Specializes in Family.

I am so sorry for your loss.

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Specializes in Med-Surg, Trauma, Ortho, Neuro, Cardiac.

My sincere condolences.

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joey,

i continue to think of you and your daughter with continual prayers for peace and acceptance. may God stay with you during this very difficult time.

leslie xo

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Specializes in Hospice and Palliative Care, Family NP.

My deepest symptathies to you and your family.

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