DH dying-need prayers - page 22

I've posted before about my husband being terminally ill and complications that have come up, but this is the worst it has every been. Currently in ICU with ARDS and sepsis, placed on dialysis... Read More

  1. by   Simba&NalasMom
    Oh, Joey...I just read about your loss. I lost a husband myself 3 1/2 years ago and my heart truly goes out to you. Like you, God was there for me at my darkest hour and I know He's there for you and your daughter as well. I'm so glad it was peaceful for you both, sweetie. You're in my prayers. :blushkiss
  2. by   chadash
    I was talking to my mom today about her feelings of loss since the death of my dad some years ago. I don't think I can fully comprehend what those of you who have lost a spouse are going through.
    I pray that God will richly bless you with a sense of His continual presence...He is at your right and your left substaining you. He is your shepherd, lifting you on His shoulder....
  3. by   N.S.46
    Joey,
    My heart goes out to you & your daughter. Hold in your heart that you were with him & he went peacefully. He was not the only one who fought the brave fight, you & your daughter did as well. Please allow yourself to grieve. We are all here with you & for you. May God bless you both with a peaceful future.

    HUGS!!!
  4. by   nursejoey05
    It's all over now. Lots of people came for the visitation last night and there were lots of beautiful flowers (and lots of ugly plants). Dan would have felt so honored. The funeral home did a wonderful job with him, especially considering what they had to work with. My pastor gave a wonderful eulogy. Lots of people came to the grave side service, even though it was about 30 degrees, windy and raining. The cemetery had plots available right beside his family which is a miracle, I think, and gives me more peace about him being there. (My dad had given us plots with my family, but Dan thought I would (and he wanted me to) get remarried some day so he didn't want to be stuck in my home town "not knowing anybody". My feelings were hurt over it and I didn't think he would be able to get anywhere near his family, so I'm ok with it now.) There were some issues with his family and a friend that really upset me, but I'm not going to burn anymore daylight thinking about it. The family apologized today (which didn't make me feel any better last night) and I never have to talk to the friend again. Someday he'll realize that he would not still be Dan's friend if Dan were alive to see how he treated me. All in all, it was a wonderful tribute to my darling. I'm going to miss him so much.
  5. by   honeyb111
    :icon_hug: Joey and JoEllen :icon_hug: My prayers are still with you. I'm sorry you had to deal with 1 horrible person thru all this but you have the right attitude about just letting it go. It sounds as if everything else went okay. Remember that we're here for you when you need to talk. Take care of yourself and DD.
  6. by   compassion1
    {{{{HUGS}}}}
    The Lord has blessed you with much wisdom and strength. And you're not letting the turkeys get you down! Good for you! JoEllen is blessed to have you for a mom. You both remain in my prayers. God bless you.
    Marilyn
  7. by   nursemary9
    Joey,
    You and your daughter remain in my thoughts and prayers.
    Please let us continue to support you. Let us know how you are doing.

    Mary Ann
  8. by   MMARN
    Joey,

    I'm sorry you had to go through a bit more horror. (You know the devil has to have a last jab) However, God has been there for you. I pray for your strength and I hope you know that we are here for you. God bless you always.

    Mave.
  9. by   leslie :-D
    (((joey))),

    you just never cease to amaze me with your strength and grace.
    i'm glad you could take dan's ex-friend for what it was worth, which was obviously total crap.
    as for his family, people can say the most amazing things when grieving.
    please don't take it personally.
    be kind to yourself in these forthcoming days.
    take time to pamper yourself, drown your love in joellen, talk to God, talk to dan....take it one miute, one hour, one day at a time. seek therapy if need be. it's a process for sure. my heart aches for you and your daughter yet somehow, i strongly feel you'll be ok.
    again, don't hesitate to come to us for ANYTHING. we'll get you through this.:icon_hug:

    with prayers and affection,

    leslie xo
  10. by   Kwality
    :icon_hug: for all that you are going through.
  11. by   mtnmom
    He is at peace and at rest...may you and your daughter find the peace and the comfort that you need in your faith and in the love and prayers coming your way from all of us here.

    you will be in my prayers.
  12. by   nursejoey05
    Just checking in to let you know that I'm still hanging in. Dealing with social security, equipment, financial matters, and stuff like that today. Still doesn't seem real most of the time. Of course I still want to pick up the phone and call my dad, and he's been gone for nearly 5 years. I think I'm progressing as expected. JoEllen is doing very well. Having been raised in church and being here to see the decline in Dan has made her pretty accepting of the situation. She thinks it is great that he's in Heaven not being sick and suffering, talking to our dead relatives and playing with all my dead pets. But she understands that mommy is heartbroken. Yesterday she asked if I thought my heart was completely broken in two or if it was just kinda split. She's very sweet.
  13. by   leslie :-D
    Quote from nursejoey05
    Just checking in to let you know that I'm still hanging in. Dealing with social security, equipment, financial matters, and stuff like that today. Still doesn't seem real most of the time. Of course I still want to pick up the phone and call my dad, and he's been gone for nearly 5 years. I think I'm progressing as expected. JoEllen is doing very well. Having been raised in church and being here to see the decline in Dan has made her pretty accepting of the situation. She thinks it is great that he's in Heaven not being sick and suffering, talking to our dead relatives and playing with all my dead pets. But she understands that mommy is heartbroken. Yesterday she asked if I thought my heart was completely broken in two or if it was just kinda split. She's very sweet.
    very happy to hear from you joey.:icon_hug: your sweet joellen sounds amazing. young children never cease to amaze me with their sensitivity, resiliency and insight. and her perception of dad no longer suffering and being reunited w/relatives and pets is sooooo very comforting.
    do not hesitate to seek the services of a therapist to see you through this.
    i know you're going to miss dan so very much and it pains me to know what you'll be enduring. yet somehow, i feel you will emerge from this journey as a more vibrant, strong and impassioned woman. pm me anytime at all.

    leslie xo

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