Sick of the BS

  1. Hello all,

    I need to vent and see if this is happening other places as well..I am almost done nursing school and the start of the program went great, I thought my class would bond and be a group but going into semester 2, the tables turned. How? Well, I got a 4.0 last semester and some people thought that I was "bragging" about my grades although I offered several times to help them study. I answer questions from the instructors then they get accused of "just teaching to me"..it is now to the point where I speak to maybe 5 or 6 people in my class..and when I say speak I mean, "Good morning" and thats it. Myself and another girl literally sat in a row in class that used to be full now by ourselves. Now, because this girl is nice to me and we study together, the class is being mean to her! I have never seen grown adults act like this. It was so bad that I had to go to the director of the program and ask if I had done something wrong...I've gotten to the point where I don't even speak or converse with anyone but to a minimum because there have been so many rumors and just plain outright mean and nasty things said about me that just are not true. I have said something to every instructor and including the director but is this not bullying? I have to think that something else plays a part when I am the only Hispanic in my cohort..I feel like I am very intelligent and know my stuff when it comes to nursing but I DO NOT know it all and thats why I want to be an RN but how do I bridge this gap that seems like it was burnt long ago? I feel like I should not apologize to anyone since.I have done nothing but be intelligent and get As on tests...any advice would be great..
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  2. 23 Comments

  3. by   Simplistic
    All of this drama should have been left in high school...
  4. by   umbdude
    I would just ignore it and keep moving forward. It's not worth your energy to think about them, as they mean nothing in the long run. You probably won't ever see them again after you're done with school.
  5. by   Helluvanurse33
    I would have thought so too but no..we had a group project and one of the members of our group can't STAND me. He won't even look at me when I talk so obviously our project got the lowest grade in the class...I was so upset..it's all because no one talked to each other and assumed that I would just do it all and when I didnt thats when the passive aggressive bs happened...
  6. by   CrunchRN
    None of it matters. Just do what it takes to graduate.
  7. by   Emergent
    Unfortunately you came across as a boastful student to others when discussing your excellent grades. This is an important lesson for your future navigation into the social minefield of nursing.

    Success in nursing, or any field, is largely dependent on ones likability and ability to get along with others. While you may be an academic whiz, your social IQ might be below average. I actually have had the same challenge in life.

    This is an important lesson for you. Instead of blaming others, observe them and learn. Good luck!
  8. by   FutureNurseInfo
    All PPs have said it: move on and just ignore them. I am only a pre-nursing student, but at the tender age of 31 in the classes saturated by freshly graduated high school kids. As a result, I see drama like the one you are talking all the time! On a daily basis I hear how 18 somethings want to jump the bridge because she got a B- in her chem exam, or how she is so damn happy, after failing the first chem exam at 61, that half the class did even worse than her. I can go on and on. The worst part of it all is that those 18 somethings always want to pull me into their drama. However, I just ignore them! Yes, the eye rolling happens next, but why would I care? I advise that you do the same - just ignore them and look out for the prize.
  9. by   Zyprexa
    This is one of the reasons I only discussed my grades with my very few, select friends in nursing school. When other students asked, I just said "It went well, thanks."
  10. by   Capa Jensen
    Quote from FutureNurseInfo
    All PPs have said it: move on and just ignore them. I am only a pre-nursing student, but at the tender age of 31 in the classes saturated by freshly graduated high school kids. As a result, I see drama like the one you are talking all the time! On a daily basis I hear how 18 somethings want to jump the bridge because she got a B- in her chem exam, or how she is so damn happy, after failing the first chem exam at 61, that half the class did even worse than her. I can go on and on. The worst part of it all is that those 18 somethings always want to pull me into their drama. However, I just ignore them! Yes, the eye rolling happens next, but why would I care? I advise that you do the same - just ignore them and look out for the prize.
    Mature student (30) here, and I get crap like this too, especially in my science classes because they're so competitive :/ I've been accused of being favored because I got an A on a humanities paper (it was an art critique), where another young student got a D- because she didn't do as the instructor asked her.
    I don't socialize with folks any more, I've stopped offering to help tutor folks freely now and tell them that they can make an appointment at the Academic Support Center if they're having trouble.

    @OP - You do you. Lay low, don't sink to their level and eventually they'll grow up... hopefully. If they start making group projects tough, just do your part and tell your instructor/professor what the haps is - prove you're doing your part and cover your ass. If you're a bit socially awkward like I am, sometimes it's best just to stay quiet and let things blow over.
  11. by   Mavrick
    Quote from Helluvanurse33
    Hello all,

    I need to vent and see if this is happening other places as well..I am almost done nursing school and the start of the program went great, I thought my class would bond and be a group but going into semester 2, the tables turned. How? Well, I got a 4.0 last semester and some people thought that I was "bragging" about my grades although I offered several times to help them study. I answer questions from the instructors then they get accused of "just teaching to me"..it is now to the point where I speak to maybe 5 or 6 people in my class..and when I say speak I mean, "Good morning" and thats it. Myself and another girl literally sat in a row in class that used to be full now by ourselves. Now, because this girl is nice to me and we study together, the class is being mean to her! I have never seen grown adults act like this. It was so bad that I had to go to the director of the program and ask if I had done something wrong...I've gotten to the point where I don't even speak or converse with anyone but to a minimum because there have been so many rumors and just plain outright mean and nasty things said about me that just are not true. I have said something to every instructor and including the director but is this not bullying? I have to think that something else plays a part when I am the only Hispanic in my cohort..I feel like I am very intelligent and know my stuff when it comes to nursing but I DO NOT know it all and thats why I want to be an RN but how do I bridge this gap that seems like it was burnt long ago? I feel like I should not apologize to anyone since.I have done nothing but be intelligent and get As on tests...any advice would be great..
    There is a pattern here and I see why people don't like you.

    Oh yeah, and pulling the "I'm being bullied because I'm Hispanic" line is not gonna win you any friends either.

    You did all this in one semester! Going to be a long haul in nursing school.

    My advice is to look up the definition of arrogant and see if you want to continue being the poster child.
  12. by   Purple_roses
    You don't have much time left in school from what it sounds, so it might be too late for this. But my philosophy is not to discuss grades. Whenever people ask me what score I got on a test or project, I simply say "I did all right--I'm happy with my score," and leave it at that. It isn't anyone's business anyway.
  13. by   ItsThatJenGirl
    I really adhere to the philosophy: Other people's opinion of me is none of my business.
  14. by   meanmaryjean
    OP: Using 'nurse' as part of your username when you are not is a violation of the AN TOS.

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