Sick of the BS

meanmaryjean, DNP, RN · May 3, 2017

OP flounced off quite some time ago. Still calling herself 'nurse' in her username....

Horseshoe, BSN, RN · May 3, 2017

OP flounced off quite some time ago. Still calling herself 'nurse' in her username....

The OP clarified that she is an LPN. So she has every right to use that screen name.

Horseshoe, BSN, RN · May 3, 2017

Hello all,
I need to vent and see if this is happening other places as well..I am almost done nursing school and the start of the program went great, I thought my class would bond and be a group but going into semester 2, the tables turned. How? Well, I got a 4.0 last semester and some people thought that I was "bragging" about my grades although I offered several times to help them study. I answer questions from the instructors then they get accused of "just teaching to me"..it is now to the point where I speak to maybe 5 or 6 people in my class..and when I say speak I mean, "Good morning" and thats it. Myself and another girl literally sat in a row in class that used to be full now by ourselves. Now, because this girl is nice to me and we study together, the class is being mean to her! I have never seen grown adults act like this. It was so bad that I had to go to the director of the program and ask if I had done something wrong...I've gotten to the point where I don't even speak or converse with anyone but to a minimum because there have been so many rumors and just plain outright mean and nasty things said about me that just are not true. I have said something to every instructor and including the director but is this not bullying? I have to think that something else plays a part when I am the only Hispanic in my cohort..I feel like I am very intelligent and know my stuff when it comes to nursing but I DO NOT know it all and thats why I want to be an RN but how do I bridge this gap that seems like it was burnt long ago? I feel like I should not apologize to anyone since.I have done nothing but be intelligent and get As on tests...any advice would be great..

In my BSN program, no one ever knew I had a 4.0 until they announced it at graduation, and I was actually kind of horrified that they did.

Clearly you are making it known that you are so "intelligent," which in and of itself is beyond obnoxious. You speak about behaving like an adult, yet you have gone to every single professor to complain that people don't like you? What is a professor supposed to do about that? They cannot force people to like you, to speak to you, or to look at you in the eye. The frequent tattling is not a mature way to behave.

You have a fair way to go before you finish your program. You still have MUCH to learn, and making all As may or may not be in your future. And that's okay, just as it's okay for those in your class who are pulling 3.5 or 3.7 or 3.8. In fact, they may be every bit as intelligent (and possibly more, especially in the emotional intelligence realm) as you, and every bit as competent as a nursing student, and later, as a nurse. Nothing wrong with pulling a 4.0, but really, it means very little in the big picture.

You sound as if you have burned bridges with your arrogance, your possible monopoly of class discussions, and your tattling. I don't know if it will be possible to bridge the gap and erase the impression you have left on your fellow students. Nothing you can do but address your own behavior; you have no control over the feelings or behavior of others.

As for the claims of possible racism: given your own descriptions of your behavior, I have to say that I probably would have been really turned off by you as well, and I'm Hispanic. It seems highly unlikely that your ethnic roots have anything to do with how others have responded to you.