Would you tell a co worker when you know that the boss is getting ready to "demote" them and on what date?
My boss has hired another nurse to come in and take the place of a friend of mine, but has not told my friend because she wants her to continue working at her position until we get through the state survey.
She then has plans to change her position to floor nurse or ask her to leave. I feel this is wrong on so many levels, and I would want to know if I were in her shoes.
Agreed. Its a sticky situation to know this. And then knowing how terrible their boss is (why OP still works there is beyond me, sounds major toxic). But an anonymous note sounds like a great idea so her co-worker can start planning. i would want to know too.
actually had something like this happen to me but I was terminated. I was on a employee handbook committee and the HR assistant was discussing the termination section and kept looking at me in the eye and enunciating some parts rather firmly. She was telling me that my boss was going to terminate me in a room full of other co workers!. I had bought stuff at the store earlier and I returned them (need cash). I got my locker cleaned out and I was ready. I did appreciate the heads up. I would tell unless the co worker was a drama queen (screeching and wailing all over the place about it) or a friendemy. BTW I was fired for trumped up chicken droppings, my boss' ego count handle a masters degree nurse beneath his associate degree. Bossy was fired 6 months later..
I hope you're not my coworker. You'd let me die under the bus. Yikes!
The boss might not like being ratted on. Boss should not have said anything to OP, but maybe she told OP because she is testing OP. And how is telling you going to help you anyway? All it will do is let the boss know that OP tattled on her. Boss will deny it and might lower the boom on OP and you will still be in the bullseye anyway.
Specializes in Psych, Corrections, Med-Surg, Ambulatory.
I once worked for a company so toxic, I expected the EPA to come walking in any minute.
My friend was the "golden child"; didn't have to do much driving, the supervisor did half the SOC work for her, etc. I didn't begrudge her, she got lucky.
When she saw how I and others were being harassed and targeted, guess what she did? Told them "I can't in all good conscience continue to work here" and turned in her notice.
I turned mine in the next day.
When I asked her about it, she said "There are other jobs. Besides, we've been friends a lot longer than they've been my employer."
Now THAT is a friend.
P. S. The bosses blamed US for making my friend leave. Some people just make you wonder how they sleep at night, right?
They sleep at night because they are missing whole hemispheres.
Specializes in Psych, Corrections, Med-Surg, Ambulatory.
Once the boss told anyone, it is no longer a secret. We get treated like crap in the workplace because we don't have each others' backs. We just keep our heads down and hope never to be the target. Bad strategy. Everyone's turn comes up sooner or later. I'd give my coworker a heads up in a hot minute - even if I didn't particularly like her. I wouldn't care about any fallout because I couldn't live with myself if I was complicit in the toxicity. If I got fired as a result, I'd consider it a gift from the Universe.
To paraphrase whomever said this: "The only thing needed for evil to prevail is for good men to do nothing."
It is rather annoying how it seems to be the theme on AllNurses for posters to assume that any controversial question is a 'homework' question. No, this is real life, and people use this forum for more than ranting about their job.
People are talking about asking homework questions? What does that mean? It sounds as though it means something more than asking help for school homework? Or do people actually think the OP is asking for help for a test or paper???
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Agreed. Its a sticky situation to know this. And then knowing how terrible their boss is (why OP still works there is beyond me, sounds major toxic). But an anonymous note sounds like a great idea so her co-worker can start planning. i would want to know too.