Would you tell a co worker when you know that the boss is getting ready to "demote" them and on what date?
My boss has hired another nurse to come in and take the place of a friend of mine, but has not told my friend because she wants her to continue working at her position until we get through the state survey.
She then has plans to change her position to floor nurse or ask her to leave. I feel this is wrong on so many levels, and I would want to know if I were in her shoes.
I was called today by HR. She asked me about my last job and who my supervisor was. I told her the ex boss' name, but said to not call her, but to call another person. She said she would, then turned around and called the facility and asked for the ex boss (I called to tell the office she would be calling...) !
That makes me more than nervous... but hopefully, she got her way and it's over. And she's not a *****...
Some people with think this misguided post is funny. Some won't. But it's stupid to use your real photo as an avatar. The people who DON'T think it's funny may just be your bosses.
Specializes in Psych, Corrections, Med-Surg, Ambulatory.
Yup! She sure did! And yes, she was (is) a piece of work.... I am glad to be out of that job, I just wish I could have left before she nailed me...
And this is why we need to have each other's backs. This kind of crap proliferates because people let it. Hanging together vs hanging separately, etc etc.
Happiness is that toxic dump in the rearview mirror. Hold your head up and don't look back. When you're working for real humans this experience will just seem like a bad dream.
OP stay out of it. If your manager is that toxic and crazy, this will turn into you "spreading gossip" or some other such nonsense.
Denial isn't just a river. And I am sure your manager would have "not a CLUE" of what you are speaking of if you tell your friend, and your friend gives notice.
What you could do it chat with your friend on how you both should try and transfer. Not because of some passive aggressive crazy stuff, but because you both should for your own sanity.
Specializes in Psychiatry, Community, Nurse Manager, hospice.
I'm glad you got out. Your ex boss is both stupid and cruel, which is an impossible combination. Terrible manager. Truly *she* is not cut out for management.
Threatening to write you up if you don't resign is so horribly unethical and also stupid, because you could sue her and the company for that.
You could also sue if she badmouths you to a future employer which is why most managers won't do it, but she's so stupid I wouldn't put it past her.
I shudder to think I might get stuck working for a prize like this one.
Best wishes to you in your future endeavors. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
She just sent an email stating that she is now considering me "fired" instead of being able to "resign". States it was due to unprofessional conduct after I left.
And I am sure that is what she told HR at the hospital where I applied.... Now what can I do?
If you have a personal relationship at all, I would definitely tell her. She will respect you for doing so. Put yourself in her shoes. If you were getting demoted, and she knew and didn't tell you, that would be pretty low.
She just sent an email stating that she is now considering me "fired" instead of being able to "resign". States it was due to unprofessional conduct after I left.
And I am sure that is what she told HR at the hospital where I applied.... Now what can I do?
Specializes in MCH,NICU,NNsy,Educ,Village Nursing.
1. Never send text messages that are negative or can be perceived as negative by a boss/employer.
2. Don't borrow trouble, i.e., you don't know that this will hurt your chances for your new job. Have they already checked references? If so, I'd think you'd be in the clear. However, I hope, too, that you've learned a valuable lesson (see #1).
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I was called today by HR. She asked me about my last job and who my supervisor was. I told her the ex boss' name, but said to not call her, but to call another person. She said she would, then turned around and called the facility and asked for the ex boss (I called to tell the office she would be calling...) !
That makes me more than nervous... but hopefully, she got her way and it's over. And she's not a *****...