I am a nursing student, currently studying to be an RN. I am really enjoying the experience, however I have an issue that is concerning me.
When chatting up women and the conversation comes up about what I do, and I reply studying nursing, their eyes widen and the mood seems to change. This is not related to women in the field but those outside. As soon as I utter the word nurse, I seem to go from a confident manly guy to a nice guy to them. I know women want confident manly sort of men, but women also say they like a man to be sensitive and caring. Can’t a male nurse be sensitive and manly? Do these women see nurses as somewhat effeminate, at worst gay?
If a woman is able to climb the corporate ladder and make big money in business and still have sex appeal, does a man need to limit himself to traditional masculine roles to prove his maleness and be attractive to women or can he do a traditionally feminine job of helping and caring for people.
I understood that when women refer to equality, it is for both men and women. They it’s a great idea for men to be nurses, but individually, their actions seem to speak louder than their words.
I would be very interested in your opinions on this both guys and girls
what you say is incredibly true. it is so true that it is the absolute, unadulterated truth. now women may say that they want the kind, sensitive type, but what i see them dating are men with tatoos up both arms and a gangsta rapper look that would put eminem to shame. of course who's to say these men aren't sensitive as they nudge everone, oh so delicately, out of their paths and onto the pavement, but i do have some doubts.
telling a girl that you're a nurse is basically like telling them, "goodbye, have a nice life", you know, that sort of thing. nevermind the fact that nurses, yes even male ones, make upwards of $25.00/hr and that the men that these women have been dating are stuck somewhere between minimum wage and skid row. if they have an attitude, then they've got themselves a girl.
now you, as a nurse, would probably treat your woman like gold, be sympathetic to her needs, and responsive to her concerns. the guy with the tatoos, chains and baggy pants - he'll probably beat on her, cheat on her, and rob her blind. the important thing to note though, is that women do this to themselves all the time.
so, don't feel bad. i have married women, and women in their sixties come up to me all the time and tell me how good-looking i am, even while wearing my nursing scrubs! so, i figure that when i'm older, these women who by that time will have divorced, had three kids, and lost most of their lower teeth, (not necessarily in that order),will be looking for a man just like me! you see mature women know a good thing when they see it, and wouldn't snub their nose at you for being a nurse.
now, i don't know about you, but i've got to practice up on my shuffle board and lawn bowling, so that i'll be ready when the rush hits.
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i do not think for even a minute that you have any doubt or any lack of self respect and i commend you!!! lol hahahahahahahahahhahahahahaha
The profession doesnt attract me, its the kind of person it genuinely takes to be a nurse no matter what modality of nursing they are into. For a man to choose the healthcare profession shows true character and willingness to care for other individuals, that is very attractive. Just gotta find me one lol.
When I was a young girl my grandfather told me that I should be a nurse or a teacher because that's what ladies should do if they work. Argh!
I fought against this growing up and it has almost kept me from my dream of being a nurse! I didn't want anyone to think I was doing it because of some outdated notion of what women "should" do.
There are stereotypes and misconceptions everywhere and I figure that whatever we do and whoever we are, we just need to be true to our path and live well. If others respect that - great! If not I really don't have time for them.
I say if a girl is closed minded enough to judge your masculinity by your profession WHO NEEDS HER! There are plenty of intelligent, open minded people. Be patient and be true to yourself!
I think that it is essential that there are male nurses. I think that they should be given more of a chance. There should be at least one male nurse in every nursing home, doctor's office, ect.
I think that it show young boys who may really want to pursue nursing that they are not alone.
On the fact that females seem act differently toward a male nurse... labeling, how insensitive and immature.:angryfire
Specializes in LTAC, Homehealth, Hospice Case Manager.
Personally, I would rather have a man that can show sensitivity & caring than one that thinks his manliness is proven by seeing how hard he can throw me into a wall...just my . I think any man that's not afraid to go into nursing is pretty awesome!
Funny story that just happened to me tonight. I was at Hooters with some friends for trivia night and my neighbor who has always given me crap about going into nursing pulls one of the Hooters girls aside and asks what she thinks about a man who is a nurse....... :trout: she tells him that it is incredibly attractive for a guy to put aside the stereotype and help people for a living....... So the jokes on him. I told him that when I show up at his annual party with a bunch of gorgeous nurses that he will have to apologise to me in front of all of them. HEHE HEH.
Funny story that just happened to me tonight. I was at Hooters with some friends for trivia night and my neighbor who has always given me crap about going into nursing pulls one of the Hooters girls aside and asks what she thinks about a man who is a nurse....... :trout: she tells him that it is incredibly attractive for a guy to put aside the stereotype and help people for a living....... So the jokes on him. I told him that when I show up at his annual party with a bunch of gorgeous nurses that he will have to apologise to me in front of all of them. HEHE HEH.
Funny story that just happened to me tonight. I was at Hooters with some friends for trivia night and my neighbor who has always given me crap about going into nursing pulls one of the Hooters girls aside and asks what she thinks about a man who is a nurse....... :trout: she tells him that it is incredibly attractive for a guy to put aside the stereotype and help people for a living....... So the jokes on him. I told him that when I show up at his annual party with a bunch of gorgeous nurses that he will have to apologise to me in front of all of them. HEHE HEH.
Bolt
Let me see if I understand this. You are concerned about how women perceive men in nursing, but you go to an establishment that makes its money off the objectification of women. You also make a joke at the expense of women in nursing.
I do find it amusing though as I work in ED and often the male RN's are refered to as Dr by (especially elderly) patients.
I've had that happen, and it's pretty funny. I'm an LPN, and once I had an elderly patient shoe a female RN aside (she was arguing about a medication that had been ordered but she didn't want to take) and ask me, "what do you think, doctor?"
Hi!Im a senior student nurse and im proud i was able to get in into the nursing school where im studying right now...the thing is i ve always wanted of becoming an OB nurse well i just thought of how beautiful it is to see and care for a newborn...ive always thought of it as a miracle of life and i was able to see and appreciate the delivery of a newborn during my first rotation....wow!hopefully lots of guys would agree with me that its worth working at OB/DR.
. I think any man that's not afraid to go into nursing is pretty awesome!
Daye
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i do not think for even a minute that you have any doubt or any lack of self respect and i commend you!!! lol hahahahahahahahahhahahahahaha