I am a nursing student, currently studying to be an RN. I am really enjoying the experience, however I have an issue that is concerning me.
When chatting up women and the conversation comes up about what I do, and I reply studying nursing, their eyes widen and the mood seems to change. This is not related to women in the field but those outside. As soon as I utter the word nurse, I seem to go from a confident manly guy to a nice guy to them. I know women want confident manly sort of men, but women also say they like a man to be sensitive and caring. Can’t a male nurse be sensitive and manly? Do these women see nurses as somewhat effeminate, at worst gay?
If a woman is able to climb the corporate ladder and make big money in business and still have sex appeal, does a man need to limit himself to traditional masculine roles to prove his maleness and be attractive to women or can he do a traditionally feminine job of helping and caring for people.
I understood that when women refer to equality, it is for both men and women. They it’s a great idea for men to be nurses, but individually, their actions seem to speak louder than their words.
I would be very interested in your opinions on this both guys and girls
I must be really out of the loop because I think men in scrubs who are smart, caring, responsible and know how to save lives are wicked sexy. I'm married to a nurse so I'm a lucky woman! :blushkiss
Next time someone asks you what you do or what you are studying, say it loud and say it proud..."I'm a nursing student" or "I'm a nurse". You are appreciated and respected by those who know how much intellegence and dedication it takes to become a nurse and how much concern for humanity it takes to stay in it. Those are admirable qualities that you should NEVER feel ashamed of!
I'm in nursing school but I use to be a truck driver. I'll bet many people assumed I was a lesbian because I held a traditionally male job that most women wouldn't do. If they are shallow enough to make retarded assumptions about your sexuality based on your profession, would you really want to bump fuzzies with them? I don't care how hot a guy is, if he's dumb...major turn off.
Guy RN posting this. Personally? Men, women or parts of society for that matter who discriminate based upon the things you mention are not worth your time.
There are previous replies on here that say it better than I could. Be there for the patient no matter who they are or why they seek medical attention...not worrying about who might want you or not and why.
By the way...single myself. Female nurses are my cup of tea and fit the bill for me better than any other!
Ok, and as much as I would like to I cannot sort through all the responses right now but (as a female) I was just wondering what is wrong with being a "nice guy". Is there some perception that all the girls are looking to date an a******?
I know there are some that are looking for a selfish, childish man who couldn't care less about them but I always assumed that was due to some psychological problem.
Anyway, about the nurse thing..... I am a nurse and nurse practitioner. I like working with the guys. They are easy to get along with (most of the time), have enough spine to stand up for something when it needs standing up for, and (let's face it) sometimes you need a little muscle in the house.
I am not in the dating scene anymore, but I wouldn't not date someone because he was a nurse or wanted to be one. I always avoided dating lawyers and police officers.... the ones I was acquainted with had too many control issues and I don't fit into anyone else's box.
Ok, and as much as I would like to I cannot sort through all the responses right now but (as a female) I was just wondering what is wrong with being a "nice guy". Is there some perception that all the girls are looking to date an a******?
Yes. I didnt want to believe it either..... but sadly it is true. Even though EVERY girl will deny it...... they always fall prey to the jerkoffs and defend their choice until the bitter end.
Yes. I didnt want to believe it either..... but sadly it is true. Even though EVERY girl will deny it...... they always fall prey to the jerkoffs and defend their choice until the bitter end.
Regretably, there are many males that only hang out with the women that treat them badly (and only fall for bad boys) and thus think that there is all that there is.
There are also any number of guys that think that they are nice and whine about it...there are really not nice at all. Though they will deny there "non-niceness" to the bitter end.
That guy that a man may think is a nice guy, can be truly evil to the women he dates.
Please do not use the phrase "always" to refer to an entire gender...you haven't met all of us, just as we have not met all of you.
And yes I realize not all women are like that. I was exagerating.
I'm with you, Boltthrower. True, "not all women are like that" but I have noticed the same strange phenomenon of many of the women I have known over the years being attracted to "Tall, strong man's, MAN" These are friends, girlfriends, sisters, acquaintances, etc you name it...not just women I have dated.
Again, not all are like that, but enough are to have made me notice this situation, too, and wonder "What are they thinking?"
I'm with you, Boltthrower. True, "not all women are like that" but I have noticed the same strange phenomenon of many of the women I have known over the years being attracted to "Tall, strong man's, MAN" These are friends, girlfriends, sisters, acquaintances, etc you name it...not just women I have dated.
Again, not all are like that, but enough are to have made me notice this situation, too, and wonder "What are they thinking?"
Regards,
Ken
What are they thinking???????
They are thinking the same thing that men that only date gorgeous voluptious women, no matter how hard those women are to get nor how badly that those women treat them.
Be proud of yourself as a nurse. The people who give you wierd looks, more than likely wouldn't last 1 hour in this line of work.It takes strong, compasionate, open-minded people to deal with all we see on a daily basis.And as far as women goes, The best one for ya will show up in time. And you'll be glad you waited.
Ok, and as much as I would like to I cannot sort through all the responses right now but (as a female) I was just wondering what is wrong with being a "nice guy". Is there some perception that all the girls are looking to date an a******?
I don't know if I'm a "nice guy" or not.
What I do know is that I am me.
Anyone who can't, who won't or who doesn't appreciate that - is a waste of my time.
:thankya:Awesome response GooeyRN. I agree on 100% with you. It's a real shame, that alot of these female bimbos(no offense), don't understand that just because you're a male nurse, it doesn't mean that you're less macho. As matter of fact, most of the female RN's that I've met, and the female patients I have cared for, all agree that male nurses are hot and sexy. And thay they percieve male nurses as they really are:honest, hardworking, responsible, loving and caring healthcare professionals, who are dedicated to their work, and most important of all loyal, respectable and sensitive to the needs of their patients. And like you said, they are real men, because they are not afraid to show their feelings, and be able to work in an enviroment that is considered less masculine.
Romeo4u-RN:
I am a female RN so I don't really belong here. But I wanted to say that I think its hot for a man to not be afraid to do something thought of as "less manly". It shows that he is a real man! :redpinkhe
LOL, two things, either youre a homophobe or you're desperate for "love". Here is some advice, if your looking for a hookup, then be yourself, and find someone who loves the real you. If you're asking what it takes to accel in this practice, then you should be asking "what kind of nurse you should be that best fit the needs of your patient", because there is a difference between working adult med-Surg and Pediatrics..which I'm in. How about this, be yourself, practice with confidence and competence, and set your own standard, instead of trying to meet the standard- ppl who accel in this practice, administratively, are men and women of all different personality traits...but they all have one thing in common, they do their jobs well, are well educated, and portray self confidence.
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I must be really out of the loop because I think men in scrubs who are smart, caring, responsible and know how to save lives are wicked sexy. I'm married to a nurse so I'm a lucky woman! :blushkiss
Next time someone asks you what you do or what you are studying, say it loud and say it proud..."I'm a nursing student" or "I'm a nurse". You are appreciated and respected by those who know how much intellegence and dedication it takes to become a nurse and how much concern for humanity it takes to stay in it. Those are admirable qualities that you should NEVER feel ashamed of!
I'm in nursing school but I use to be a truck driver. I'll bet many people assumed I was a lesbian because I held a traditionally male job that most women wouldn't do. If they are shallow enough to make retarded assumptions about your sexuality based on your profession, would you really want to bump fuzzies with them? I don't care how hot a guy is, if he's dumb...major turn off.