With all the attitudes at work - Now my daughter is turning into a Diva

blondy2061h, MSN, RN · Apr 30, 2011

How old is she?

greenfiremajick · Apr 30, 2011

I feel ya' Tiroka....Mine is 12 in a month and she is def maturing early! The girl has tried everything...But if it helps, try to remember this: That is their job...To test the waters, to strain against the bonds of authority, to see just exactly where they stand and what they can get away with! Love & Logic was my favorite way to deal with my students and in how I deal with my own kids (and believe me I need it, because I homeschool all of my kids)....You might want to look it up and check it out to see if it's something you'd be interested in...

Sometimes thngs just get so repeatitive at work. Nurse one is kind of lazy, Nurse two thinks she's better than me, Nurse three leaves her orders for me to do, Nurse four comes in late every day, Nurse five takes long breaks, and I end up covering for her. Ect ect over and over again for days, months and years ad nasusem. Now, to top it off my daughter is becoming a diva. It's the end of a long school year, and she has a lot of work, and I have been letting up on her doing her chores, so she can get her work done. Now, it's her sitting at my computer, saying, oh get me a pop. Or, if you would have not forgotten the milk when you where out shopping, (and she's watching videos, pretending to be working), I would have enougth energy to work, ect. You name it, she's tried it the last month. We just sat her down and laid down the law, but I just feel like running a long ways away from her until school ends. Can anyone hold on until the school year ends?

Bella'sMyBaby · Apr 30, 2011

I've got of those too...she's 16 & knows it all...

Hate to tell you this, but it doesn't get any better! LOL!

Sugarcoma, RN · May 1, 2011

Hmmm what is the male equivalent of a Diva? I have a 15 year old son who most of the time can't be bothered with me until he is hungry or thirsty then it is mom can you make me a sandwhich? can you get me a glass of ice water? can you wash my grey t-shirt etc etc. What do you mean you want me to do chores, I am too tired because you and dad kept me up last night cuz you wouldn't stop talking etc. etc.

I really wish I could just lock him in a closet until he turns 18.

NicuGal, MSN, RN · May 1, 2011

Yup...got one that thought she needed a crown, along with a maid, etc. I plopped the vacuum in front of her, along with the Pledge, rags, Windex and the mop with the selection of cleaning solutions and gave her an inservice :) She got the hint lol

chevyv, BSN, RN · May 1, 2011

Well, I'm feeling better. I keep telling my 14 yr old to get off of the computer, stop playing those video games, and get his homework done. I feel like a broken record. Mom, whats for breakfast? My reply...... whatever you decide to make yourself and make me some too! Lol

mama_d, BSN, RN · May 1, 2011

I just told my 12 yo son the other day when he was mouthing off that I was calling my mom.

"Why are you calling grandma? What difference will that make?"

"I'm gonna call and apologize for being an obnoxious punk like you when I was younger and find out if she has any tips for how to handle this short of sending you to military school."

It actually worked for a few minutes.

Guest717236 · May 1, 2011

Take away the cell phone, the laptop, the computer, the ipad, iphone,

xbox and all current technology.

Tell them we are celebrating Back to the 60's month....

Peace and love...:flwrhrts:

(playing the non stop Beatles station on the radio is ok..)

WE give them too much, give them a break from the things they take for granted and let them appreciate what they have....

(I almost got wiped out by a teen who was texting while driving yesterday,

crossed the center line coming straight at me, then luckily "woke up"

and gained control of the car. Scary...)

allnurses Guide · May 1, 2011

Take away the cell phone, the laptop, the computer, the ipad, iphone,
xbox and all current technology.
Tell them we are celebrating back to the 60's month....
Peace and love...:flwrhrts:
(playing the non stop Beatles station on the radio is ok..)

Yep... take it away... but I do think most people know that already.

It might be more effective to give the kids a kick in a the....

Wait!

Can't do that anymore.........................or can I?.....mawhahahahahah!

Seriously, OP sounds like she just needs a looooooooooooooooooong vacation far far away from people and I hope she can find the time to just get away.

(And playing the non stop Beatles station is always ok, of course. But if you want to add an element for torture to your hip and happenin' teens, why not make it 70's month and play Bobby Sherman and The Osmonds all day?)*wine

canesdukegirl, BSN, RN · May 1, 2011

OP, have you ever watched Two and a Half Men? You know when Charlie is being a princess and Berta gives him the smack down? It reminds me of the way my late mother used to handle us when we pulled the princess routine. When I asked my mom if she could pour me a cup of milk, her response was, "Did your fingers spontaneously break while you were on the phone just a minute ago or something? Get it yourself, and pour your brother a cup as well."

I raised my little brother after she passed. He was very young, and tested me constantly. I had to deal with the guilt of allowing him to be somewhat demanding while also finding a way to establish boundaries. It was tough to do. When he got older, he recognized that the boundaries that I set for him and insisted he adhere to made him the strong man that he is today.

What I am trying so clumsily to say is that we DO have to be "the heavy" with our kids. The expect us to; and in turn, the RESPECT us for it. (But for our kids to actually SHOW us this respect is sooooo uncool!) This respect evolves into respect for others. Ever seen kids who have this weird sense of entitlement? I believe strongly that their parents were the root cause of that. Their parents might be viewed as the "cool parents" by the kid's peers, but they are doing their kids no favors by allowing them free reign for everything. Kids crave instruction. It may not seem like it, but to give and establish instruction gives them direction. You know when you were first starting out in nursing and you NEEDED guidance and direction from your preceptor? Kids need the same thing, because life is scary for a teen-so many changes, so much drama, and we as parents must be their anchor. The hard work pays off later.

I feel for ya, OP. It is so difficult to deal with teens sometimes.

CNABESS · May 1, 2011

Posted on my frig for years while my men were growing up:

ATTENTION TEENAGERS

If you are sick and tired of your parents telling you what to do, interfering with your life, having high expectations for you, and expecting real work out of you along with demanding respect, HERE IS A QUICK SOLUTION: MOVE OUT!!!! Pay your own rent, buy all your own food, cook for yourself, clean your own house, pay for your own 45 minute hot showers, pay for a cab every time you need a ride, pay your own phone bill, cable bill electric bill, heat bill, buy all your own clothes and health and beauty supplies. Then you too can be just like your parents. You can have no money left over to buy fun things for yourself, you can be so busy driving others around, you can't get anything done to meet your own needs, you can hop into an ice cold shower after all the hot water is used, you can give up those dream vacations alone with the love of your life, you can skip the porsche and pay for education instead, you can go for pizza instead of a nice steak dinner. Generally Speaking, you can have JUST AS GREAT A LIFE AS YOUR UNAPPRECIATED PARENTS