With all the attitudes at work - Now my daughter is turning into a Diva

[tiroka03]

Sometimes thngs just get so repeatitive at work. Nurse one is kind of lazy, Nurse two thinks she's better than me, Nurse three leaves her orders for me to do, Nurse four comes in late every day, Nurse five takes long breaks, and I end up covering for her. Ect ect over and over again for days, months and years ad nasusem. Now, to top it off my daughter is becoming a diva. It's the end of a long school year, and she has a lot of work, and I have been letting up on her doing her chores, so she can get her work done. Now, it's her sitting at my computer, saying, oh get me a pop. Or, if you would have not forgotten the milk when you where out shopping, (and she's watching videos, pretending to be working), I would have enougth energy to work, ect. You name it, she's tried it the last month. We just sat her down and laid down the law, but I just feel like running a long ways away from her until school ends. Can anyone hold on until the school year ends?

[upstatenygirl, LPN]

i just told my 12 yo son the other day when he was mouthing off that i was calling my mom.

"why are you calling grandma? what difference will that make?"

"i'm gonna call and apologize for being an obnoxious punk like you when i was younger and find out if she has any tips for how to handle this short of sending you to military school."

it actually worked for a few minutes.

ha ha!! i told my son a few times that i was considering military school too.

[MomRN0913]

Your title is very funny and all too familiar to me. I manage a bunch of those nurses.... and I have a 3 and a half year old diva at home! I don't want to know what I am in for when she is 12... She already has a smart mouth and is VERY demanding. All I keep telling myself is I need a vacation! No calls from nurses all weekend complaining about staffing, no 3 year old telling me what to do....

Just me, the sun and a margarita!

[~Mi Vida Loca~RN, ASN, RN]

My 3 sons have generally been very well behaved and respectful and I don't think even know what talking back is. They tried it once when they were like 2 and it never happened again. :| That is, until my oldest turned into a teenager. Ironically troubled teens are "my thing" just not my own. My daughter on the other hand seems to have been born back talking. She is an extremely mature and articulate just barely turned 4 year old. I thought it was just me but everyone that meets her agrees. She is 14 in the body of a 4 year old. I don't even want to think about when she turns into a teen.

The teenager though is at that stage where everything is everyone elses fault. I am the bad guy because he is grounded yet he doesn't see that he is grounded for only his actions. It's his teachers fault he is failing classes even though he openly admits he doesn't do any homework and refuses to study. It's still their fault. His life sucks blah blah blah.

I swear if it wasn't so expensive I would send them to Brat Camp. I told my dad to use his military connections and get them scholarships for military school :|

[thenameismac]

As a 22 year old who was a teen not long ago, I must pitch in. Taking away electronics works and so was moving out.

Senior Year First Quarter: GPA 1.88 (lowest ever!)

Consequence: No internet for the rest of the semester (and that was a killer)

Result: Senior Year Second Quarter: 2.88 By the end of the year I believe I had a 3.2 GPA.

A year and a half later, I was kicked out and I learned REALLY fast how good I had it. I managed however to stay a float in the "real world". I'm still learning about what it's like to be an adult but boy, is it a wake up call. I know a lot of parents aren't ready to get rid of their kids but if they think they are grown then treat them as such. It happened to me and only by a miracle of God did it actually work. Lol. I feel sorry for those teens because they really don't know how good they have it. I missed my chance. I tell all of my friends who, fortunately, still live at home to cherish every minute of it because life won't stop moving for you and nothing in this world is free or owed to you.

[Nccity2002, MSN, RN]

Posted on my frig for years while my men were growing up:

ATTENTION TEENAGERS

If you are sick and tired of your parents telling you what to do, interfering with your life, having high expectations for you, and expecting real work out of you along with demanding respect, HERE IS A QUICK SOLUTION: MOVE OUT!!!! Pay your own rent, buy all your own food, cook for yourself, clean your own house, pay for your own 45 minute hot showers, pay for a cab every time you need a ride, pay your own phone bill, cable bill electric bill, heat bill, buy all your own clothes and health and beauty supplies. Then you too can be just like your parents. You can have no money left over to buy fun things for yourself, you can be so busy driving others around, you can't get anything done to meet your own needs, you can hop into an ice cold shower after all the hot water is used, you can give up those dream vacations alone with the love of your life, you can skip the porsche and pay for education instead, you can go for pizza instead of a nice steak dinner. Generally Speaking, you can have JUST AS GREAT A LIFE AS YOUR UNAPPRECIATED PARENTS

LOVED IT!!!

[~Mi Vida Loca~RN, ASN, RN]

As a 22 year old who was a teen not long ago, I must pitch in. Taking away electronics works and so was moving out.

Senior Year First Quarter: GPA 1.88 (lowest ever!)

Consequence: No internet for the rest of the semester (and that was a killer)

Result: Senior Year Second Quarter: 2.88 By the end of the year I believe I had a 3.2 GPA.

A year and a half later, I was kicked out and I learned REALLY fast how good I had it. I managed however to stay a float in the "real world". I'm still learning about what it's like to be an adult but boy, is it a wake up call. I know a lot of parents aren't ready to get rid of their kids but if they think they are grown then treat them as such. It happened to me and only by a miracle of God did it actually work. Lol. I feel sorry for those teens because they really don't know how good they have it. I missed my chance. I tell all of my friends who, fortunately, still live at home to cherish every minute of it because life won't stop moving for you and nothing in this world is free or owed to you.

My son has had a very hard time adjusting to his freshman year, his grades have plummeted. His biggest problem is he is far to popular and good looking for his own good. He has girls constantly calling for him, and flirting with him in class. His teacher said it's really bad. He doesn't help the situation as he is just as into them. He spends all his class time cracking jokes and being the class clown and being Mr. Social. His priorities are so messed up. I have taken away everything. We thought after 1st semester he would learn his lesson, in fact he wrote me a letter telling me he had and when he started off with a clean slate 2nd semester he would get back on track. Yep didn't happen. I even tried to let him have a little freedom every few months so he can remember what it's like to not be grounded from everything. Well freshmen year is almost over and if he doesn't pass his classes I am not letting him play football. (huge for him). I am hoping this freshman year has been a learning lesson for him and things improve next year. Another part of the problem is him adjusting from the JHS no longer holding your hand and accepting all this extra credit and late work. They go into HS and that stuff doesn't fly anymore. So it shouldn't be accepted in JHS either.

Anyway, I was/am the exact same way in class. My mom always gives me crap because I my teachers said the same things about me. Difference was, I still managed to get good grades! I am a pretty easy going mom when it comes to movies, music, hanging out with friends and so on. But I do not tolerate, disrespect, lying, irresponsibility and bad grades.

I am going to start having my son volunteer at the respite care center this summer. He needs to be humbled.

[thenameismac]

My son has had a very hard time adjusting to his freshman year, his grades have plummeted. His biggest problem is he is far to popular and good looking for his own good. He has girls constantly calling for him, and flirting with him in class. His teacher said it's really bad. He doesn't help the situation as he is just as into them. He spends all his class time cracking jokes and being the class clown and being Mr. Social. His priorities are so messed up. I have taken away everything. We thought after 1st semester he would learn his lesson, in fact he wrote me a letter telling me he had and when he started off with a clean slate 2nd semester he would get back on track. Yep didn't happen. I even tried to let him have a little freedom every few months so he can remember what it's like to not be grounded from everything. Well freshmen year is almost over and if he doesn't pass his classes I am not letting him play football. (huge for him). I am hoping this freshman year has been a learning lesson for him and things improve next year. Another part of the problem is him adjusting from the JHS no longer holding your hand and accepting all this extra credit and late work. They go into HS and that stuff doesn't fly anymore. So it shouldn't be accepted in JHS either.

Anyway, I was/am the exact same way in class. My mom always gives me crap because I my teachers said the same things about me. Difference was, I still managed to get good grades! I am a pretty easy going mom when it comes to movies, music, hanging out with friends and so on. But I do not tolerate, disrespect, lying, irresponsibility and bad grades.

I am going to start having my son volunteer at the respite care center this summer. He needs to be humbled.

As bad as it is, you gotta hit him where it hurts. Maybe the threat of it will scare him into acting right. Either that or repeating freshman year.

[tiroka03, LPN]

My daughter is autistic. But doing well in her senior year in high school. The problem is that she has had to take two algerbra classes, chemistry and spanish this year. It is getting to the end of the year, and things are pretty pressure cooker like feeling for her. I have let her out of all her chores for the months of April and May. But, that only encouraged her that it is a right, not a privilege not to do chores.

She is pulling a 3.5 gpa in regular classes. But, got herself and me into a royal funk. I am a single mom, working full time, and have a fledgling, but successful buiness on the side. I am trying to support her, fianacially (of course), but mroe than that help her to reach past her disability, and live her life, without special helps. Because as we all know, when you leave the nest, there are no special helps given, you just do life, and hopefully well.

After I sat my daughter down, and talked with ther, we went to get our hair cut, and she managed single handedly to get the whole beauty place in an uproar, kind of like a kick back. I have never seen such goings on. She had beauty operators and customers alike yelling and arguing. I had to sit down and talk with the whole place - about 15 people, and explain to them autism, and frustration. There were a lot of tears and even hugs amoung complete strangers. Sometimes it's just me, waiting for school to end, and real life to begin.

Hey, it's nurses week. Whooppee.

[greenfiremajick]

I'm assuming high functioning autism, as in Asberger's or Asperger's as some like to call it...?? If so, Love & Logic would help but with a twist....Natural consequences work great for those with higher social skills and/or understanding of subtlety...However, with AS it's a bit more intricate...A few good examples of dealing with HFA (high functioning autistic) kids can be found here: http://en.allexperts.com/q/Autism-1010/Discipline-highfunctioning-Autism.htm

Also, going to to www.loveandlogic.com may be immensely useful to you. The hard part about using L & L with HFA kids to me, is the very concrete and detailed explanations, descriptions, and choices you give them before they experience the logical consequence.....

My daughter is autistic. But doing well in her senior year in high school. The problem is that she has had to take two algerbra classes, chemistry and spanish this year. It is getting to the end of the year, and things are pretty pressure cooker like feeling for her. I have let her out of all her chores for the months of April and May. But, that only encouraged her that it is a right, not a privilege not to do chores.

She is pulling a 3.5 gpa in regular classes. But, got herself and me into a royal funk. I am a single mom, working full time, and have a fledgling, but successful buiness on the side. I am trying to support her, fianacially (of course), but mroe than that help her to reach past her disability, and live her life, without special helps. Because as we all know, when you leave the nest, there are no special helps given, you just do life, and hopefully well.

After I sat my daughter down, and talked with ther, we went to get our hair cut, and she managed single handedly to get the whole beauty place in an uproar, kind of like a kick back. I have never seen such goings on. She had beauty operators and customers alike yelling and arguing. I had to sit down and talk with the whole place - about 15 people, and explain to them autism, and frustration. There were a lot of tears and even hugs amoung complete strangers. Sometimes it's just me, waiting for school to end, and real life to begin.

Hey, it's nurses week. Whooppee.