I have been reading these boards on and off for a few years but have recently joined. Most of the time, I enjoy the posts but some posters have become so ill tempered. They act as if they are superior and downright rude. What is the point? Why attack a nursing student who is posting in the correct area? Why talk down to them, as if they are small children? Or that their concerns are less important because they are new to all of this, and not experienced?
I've been reading posts about "experienced" nurses being attack by the new graduate, or the young nurses questioning people. While, these are all valid points and should be addressed, it is not only happening "out in the real world", it is alive and kicking on this board.
What happened to compassion? Aren't we as nurses and future nurses supposed to display care, compassion and understanding to people? Or have I completely missed the mark on what type of person a nurse should/could be?
If someone is having a horrible day and they are venting, why is it not OK for them to vent here, with people who understand????? I simply do not understand this. I also have no idea how anyone else feels, but I avoid posting most of the time because I do not need to deal with the people who live on their pedestals and look down at everyone else. (I am sure by me posting this I am opening a can of worms)
I invite you to visit the AllNurse's Breakroom, and read through this thread, which it on the exact topic that you posted about. It was originally posted in the General Nursing forum, and there were about 50 replies- many from very frequent users on AN. I hope you find it helpful.
I have been reading these boards on and off for a few years but have recently joined. Most of the time, I enjoy the posts but some posters have become so ill tempered. They act as if they are superior and downright rude. What is the point? Why attack a nursing student who is posting in the correct area? Why talk down to them, as if they are small children? Or that their concerns are less important because they are new to all of this, and not experienced?
I've been reading posts about "experienced" nurses being attack by the new graduate, or the young nurses questioning people. While, these are all valid points and should be addressed, it is not only happening "out in the real world", it is alive and kicking on this board.
What happened to compassion? Aren't we as nurses and future nurses supposed to display care, compassion and understanding to people? Or have I completely missed the mark on what type of person a nurse should/could be?
If someone is having a horrible day and they are venting, why is it not OK for them to vent here, with people who understand????? I simply do not understand this. I also have no idea how anyone else feels, but I avoid posting most of the time because I do not need to deal with the people who live on their pedestals and look down at everyone else. (I am sure by me posting this I am opening a can of worms)
This is my first post in weeks - since I posted s similar topic and got immediately shot down and practically ridiculed. I agree with you. We talk about "eating our young". I think in general nurses are rude to other nurses as some sort of power trip. I hope I never feel that insecure.
Specializes in Critical Care, ED, Cath lab, CTPAC,Trauma.
Lively debates have always been apart of AN and encouraged. The staff will step in if insults and mud slinging begins just to keep everyone feeling safe and not attacked. I do feel sometimes the responses will reflect the tone initially of the poster and you know it's going to get heated quickly.
But it is a public forum. Everyone is entitled to their opinion. Some people just like to stir the pot. Some people are just unhappy. Some people are just mean. I think it reflects life/work in general. I think some of the posts are reflective of the times. The economy stinks. People are struggling. Spouses/significant others/partners are out of work. Hospitals are pushing harder than ever.......nurses are doing more with less and are being treated disrespectfully but administration and patients.
I like all the posts....even when they irritate me. I may have to retype a post a couple of times for even I get REALLY annoyed at times. I was given very good advice once(NRS karen) put your keyboard down and back away slowly. It give you time to think.
I try not to take what someone says personally...and the longer you are here you will learn who argues, who stirs, who instigates. But I like to read them all.
But on the same token I have seen some of those posters rally with expressions of love and sympathy/empathy when ever is someone in need.
For after all....isn't that what life is? A Heinz 57 of humanity.
What compassion do you want? This board is composed of people. Not PC icons There are nice people and there are rude people. There are Idiots and there are geniuses. There is laughter plenty of laughter and you might think it is rude. But as Byron wrote "and if I should laugh at any mortal thing, tis so I do not weep." There is so much here to weep about Treads such as 'I think I gave the wrong medicine', 'I just got fired', I can't get a job,and I just failed the NCLEX permeate this board. We regulars to this board read these treads over and over. I try to help make a joke if I can so I do not weep. Sermon over now back to the subject at hand. You dress funny!
I have to agree - the answer to the question is that there is a whole colorful rainbow of people on this forum!
We all see others through our own lenses that have been shaded and tinted by our own experiences. What you perceive as rude, others may not. What one person considers "blunt," another considers offensive. There are misunderstandings and people having bad days. There are people who are quick to anger; and people with the patience of an angel.
Yes, there are social norms we can agree as a majority that are inappropriate - name calling, threats, personal attacks, stuff like that. But everything here is just people being people, doing their thing. Just like in real life, some people get under our skin non-stop.
When posters don't agree with the OP, I think the ones who don't agree come off as rude. In my opinion, most of those post are just matter of fact. Some of them could be worded more eloquently and perhaps more politely.
Check out the now-closed Mockery thread if you want to see some attacking. But I have to say that I agreed with the old bat club a lot of the time.
I started on this site as a nursing student. I loved the wealth of knowledge and variety of the postings. I rarely post but like to come and look around. I have noticed the increase negativity also, which granted is everywhere. I have noticed this is the norm for most sites. Read a news article comments and it will quickly turn negative. Sometimes we need a pat on the back, a little encouragement, or a reality check. I have been a nurse for 5 years, and many days I am ready to throw in the towel. I chose nursing to take care of people minus all of the other "goodies" that come along with it. But I have to take the good and the bad. This site use to be a good place to vent but now it's a great soap opera. Grab a glass of wine and have a seat!!
i can't stand it when people feel the need to trivialize the op's issue.
for example...
OP : "i feel like crap BC i got a C in my fundamentals class"
Commenter : " just be glad you passed and suck it up. you know how many people would KILL for a C?"
how is that supportive? it just seems hostile even if it isn't said maliciously.
how about...
"at least you passed. many people are not so lucky. they have to repeat the class and lose a whole year! " (same message different wording).
sometimes emotions get the best of people (myself included). and sometime people type EXACTLY how they speak. too bad you cant sense emotion through the internet. lol
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ScottI actually started laughing at that and my kids wanted to know what we so funny on my phone lol. Sad part is, it's true!