OP you seem like a great preceptor who any new grad would be blessed to have. However, many preceptors are NOT like you and I would like to write a ( short) "love note" to some of the preceptors I had to deal with. Here it goes:
First, I so want to be like you when I grow up. I admire your skills, expertise, and knowledge. However, I do not wish to have your personality, attitude, and unprofessional behavior. What gives you the right to yell ( yes, raising of voice), spread rumors on the unit about your orientee, talk about everyone( including the charge nurses' sex life), put your hands on a fellow co-worker, and speak rudely to patients.
You say you hate precepting, yet nurses have quit because of your constant nagging, threats, tandrums and bullying. If you hate precepting so much then you would change your behavior to boost the morale on the unit which will retain staff. Not only have new nurses quit but experienced nurses too, some people just don't want to put up with this.
Please note that I will make mistakes, however do they really have to be reported to the nurse manager who is in charge of half the hospital. We have discussed my mistake and I've realized what could have been done better and have done better. While we are on the topic of mistakes, I have never and never will report the mistakes I've caught from you. Why? I realize that you are human and even though you've been a nurse longer than I've been alive you too make mistakes. I didn't report you when you made up vital signs did I? No, I didn't, besides who would believe me any way... you've always told me that it'll always be my word against yours.
Lastly, I have allowed you to tear down my confidence, make me feel incompetent, and leave my job. I should have never allowed you to do so and I take FULL responsibility for that.. In reality you have self-esteem issues, you hate your job, and I should have known that your behavior had nothing to do with me but everything to do with your personal issues. I will not allow this to happen again. I may not have been the best and the brightest RN on the unit but I did my best, knew what I didn't know and did what was best for the patient.
If you ask me a question and I don't know the answer I will look it up and get back to you, however starring at me for five minutes and rolling your eyes will not elicit the correct answer any sooner. I love when you ask me questions, so please keep them coming.
To my primary preceptor: You were a great, I've learned so much from you and it didn't have to take all of the above for me to "get it". I'm so sorry that you quit, however I do understand that you too could not put up with the politics of the unit.
Thank you to all of the preceptors such as the OP who really do take strives to maintain professionalism while raising a nursling. Precepting is not an easy job, and I really do realize that.