Why is there so much rudeness?

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Hello,

I have been reading these boards on and off for a few years but have recently joined. Most of the time, I enjoy the posts but some posters have become so ill tempered. They act as if they are superior and downright rude. What is the point? Why attack a nursing student who is posting in the correct area? Why talk down to them, as if they are small children? Or that their concerns are less important because they are new to all of this, and not experienced?

I've been reading posts about "experienced" nurses being attack by the new graduate, or the young nurses questioning people. While, these are all valid points and should be addressed, it is not only happening "out in the real world", it is alive and kicking on this board.:uhoh3:

What happened to compassion? Aren't we as nurses and future nurses supposed to display care, compassion and understanding to people? Or have I completely missed the mark on what type of person a nurse should/could be?

If someone is having a horrible day and they are venting, why is it not OK for them to vent here, with people who understand????? I simply do not understand this. I also have no idea how anyone else feels, but I avoid posting most of the time because I do not need to deal with the people who live on their pedestals and look down at everyone else. (I am sure by me posting this I am opening a can of worms) :eek:

Hi, I'm new here. Most of my posts are too long and to wordy. Mostly because I don't want to come off sounding like a jerk.

I've noticed rampant negatively also. It stinks :(, especially for us noobs. It's cause for wonder, if a topic is so banal...if the the respondent is so offended by the OP's trite postings, why even respond? Not everyone is interested in a 1 sentence baseball bat to the face answer to a question or response to an idea.

Yes, this is the internet, yes the world of nursing is big and we've got all kinds of personalities here but there still is a thing in this world called "tact".

Shouldn't we as a community of individuals in a profession that is disposed toward empathy and compassion participate in likewise types of discussion?

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Darkstar- that is exactly what I mean about compassion :yelclap:.

What concepts~~>>Emotional Internet and "smellovision tv" LOL

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Specializes in Pediatrics.

I did not read any replies, but I will give you three reasons:

a) The majority of us are women

b) a good number of the members here are students, and students are incredibly stressed out (rightfully so)

and

c) this is the internet. You need to consider this one as possibly most important. More than half the messages here are unfiltered posts. Meaning, if you had the same conversation IRL, it would go very differently. Most people do not have the nerve to speak the way they write, whether it be here, facebook, or wherever they spend their cyber-time. We are talking to total strangers, and there are essentially no consequences for what we say. And some people thrive on their internet persona (that is very different than their real persona).

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Specializes in Geriatric and Mental Heath.

I've noticed rampant negatively also. It stinks :(, especially for us noobs. It's cause for wonder, if a topic is so banal...if the the respondent is so offended by the OP's trite postings, why even respond? Not everyone is interested in a 1 sentence baseball bat to the face answer to a question or response to an idea.

exactly. for the most part, if i think a post is trivial or petty, i wont respond. if it's not a personal attack against me im not going to add my :twocents:. why rain on someone's parade or be ants at a picnic?

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Specializes in Geriatric and Mental Heath.
Darkstar- that is exactly what I mean about compassion :yelclap:.

What concepts~~>>Emotional Internet and "smellovision tv" LOL

LMAO! The world would be a better place! Well, minus cat litter and febreze commercials and we cant forget those lovely abortion threads!!

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LOLOL Darkstar!!!

...or the smelly locker rooms haha

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We are talking to total strangers, and there are essentially no consequences for what we say.

There is a consequence though and it's the perpetuation of these kinds of ****** behaviors ON and OFFLINE.

I'm not a nurse yet but I still like to come here and share my experiences with people who aren't as far along in the process, anything to help. We reap what we sow.

If we expect to change our experiences on the floor, why not try to help and nurture our "young" before they get there instead of bludgeoning them with indifference and matter-of-factness?

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Just think, if all of us 590,000 + allnurses members did get along, we could change nursing for the better!

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Just think, if all of us 590,000 + allnurses members did get along, we could change nursing for the better!

You never give up, do you?

lol

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I think there are many reasons,

Is the poster just being strait to the point and is that coming off as rude when they don't mean too? Or are they just rude?

Does the poster think the OP is being lazy and could easily find the information with a simple search? Or does the OP doesn't really know how to find the answer?

Does the poster think the OP is asking others to do their homework for them? Or is the post just really courteous and looking for new in site?

Is it a thread that has been started many times before?

Is the poster having a bad day?

Is the poster just mean spirited?

Is the poster just being sarcastic and it is being taken the wrong way?

ect.

We don't know.

Its easy to take things out of context on the internet, since it is difficult to interpret a persons tone and intention in writing and we don't personally know each other. We don't know what is really going on in each others lives. We don't know each others work values, we don't know if some studied an hour before the test or spent 10 hours studying,we don't know if someone is really a victim or has a victim mentality. When it comes to a poster or OP intention we can only guess?

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Specializes in Med-Surg, Neuro, Respiratory.

It's hard to understand the tone of many posts online, whether you are on this site or another. I think where some posters are just being to-the-point and maybe even blunt, some other people may misconstrue this as rudeness. Not to say that there aren't rude people online though.

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Specializes in med-tele/ER.

agree with OP, I have tried to help nursing students in past on this message board but it seems like I just get accused of doing a student's homework, rather then just copying and pasting a bunch of stuff they do not need.

I have been a nurse for close to 40 years and thought it would be nice to interact with students struggling with care plans and various other assignments, but instead you answer a question and people freak out.

I just ignore those poster's now.

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