Why is it MEN seem to get along better in this field than WOMEN??!!!

Nurses Relations

Published

Hello this was brought up to me so now I'm sharing it with you all, I had a new R.N. nurse come to me in tears because another R.N. treated and talked to her very badly when she asked her basic questions, and in the midst of her tears she stated her brother was also a new nurse and doctors even help him when he had a problems she didn't seem to understand why women wouldn't like to help women, I have also seem to witness in this field men do seem to get along alot better than women, you will find a few nurses that will help you when in need but that is a very few, I don't know if it's due to the shortage everybody is overworked or underpaid, but we are killing the younger generation of nurses who do try and probaly will oneday make good nurses if they can handle the stressful enviroment any suggestions?

Specializes in Case Manager, LTC,Staff Dev/NAT Instr.

Thanks Earle58! I had to vent a little especially when he made those rude remarks!

I go now in peace........:)

Up Vote Up Vote ×
I think at least one lady on this bulletin board finally understands the way this world works. The rest of you ladies are clueless, as usual! I have lived my life trying to treat everyone equally so I have adopted the motto, "You can't hit a lady, but you can smack a B*tch!". It has gone a long way to shortening most arguments with women (or men) who don't know how to be polite!

I really, really hope you're kidding.

Up Vote Up Vote ×

I think that men are conditioned/socialized/nurtured to be goal-directed and little girls are conditioned/socialized/nurtured to 'take care'. Nurturing and care-taking were considered 'feminine' occupations -- those that centered on teaching, nursing and being a secretary. Those were your choices back in the day.

That aside, there's really no simply answer. We're different, men and women, and recognizing that is the essence of equality, IMO. When society values choices more than it clings to its 'traditional values' then young boys and girls will be nurtured and brought up in a way that promotes the value of both genders.

I love working with men and I find the female gossiping at work distressing. I keep to myself, help when I am able to, and do my work with as much enthusiasm as possible on any given day. Which means that some days are easier than others, but my patients, profession and employer deserve nothing less than my best effort.

Up Vote Up Vote ×

you know, a few months ago my DON called me down to her office. she accused me of acting like a man....she then started to explain that women tend to complain amongst each other and leave it at that; that they (women) don't do anything about it....whereas a man complains about something and is actually proactive in resolving it! well, the DON was actually complaining about me because i acted like a man. that conversation just showed me the mentality i was dealing with.....op said it perfectly; that when people actually like and respect themselves and are confident, then they are not threatened by others and can treat people accordingly. when you believe in yourself, that gives you many less obstacles to deal with.

Up Vote Up Vote ×
:rotfl: .......I think many of you have been too far removed from your biology and psychology classes and want to cling to the belief that everybody is the same and it's just a matter of changing your attitude. Yes, to an extent, but men and women are "wired" differently in many respects. Why is it that so many people were especially appalled at seeing that female MP in Iraq engaging in those horrendous acts? It's because it's not considered natural. Women generally don't have the propensity and inclination to violence that men do.....QUOTE]

I believe that, even generally speaking, women have as much propensity towards violence as men do. They might not be as physically strong nor be as encouraged by their peers enough to carry out their violent inclinations in the same ways men do, but they still got it. I mean, I sure have seen women be pretty scary during my lifetime and thats why I think so.

Up Vote Up Vote ×

Had what I thought was a funny joke here. Was put in my place and as such deleted it.

Up Vote Up Vote ×

wrote this when I was blocked from other threads. Apparently not possible but happened none-the less

Up Vote Up Vote ×
Specializes in Step-down ICU.

This thread has turned into a nightmare! Maybe I should not have used the word "catty" but like they say "if the shoe fits... Not ALL women are catty, but the majority are. I am not even a nurse yet but I am sure it will worse when I become one. I just feel like it makes a difference when most of your colleagues are female. My last job was at an elementary school where there were all females and two males on our staff. This job was interesting to say the least. There was so much drama and tension there for NO reason! It amazes me at what women can be so jealous of! Or what they tend to gossip about. These women were well over thirty, married with children. I am not saying that matters, but I've always assumed that these women would be more mature. Just as other posters have stated alot has to do with the TYPE of people you are dealing with. At my present job there is only one male, and we are like family. Acutally my boss and I are the best of friends! (she's female). I can be naive, and I didn't even notice the cattiness on my other job until one of the males pointed it out! And I STILL don't understand why these women who seemed to have it all would be jealous of me??? There is nothing about me to envy. Nothing. It was all so petty. I am relieved to be away from them. I don't like drama, and I try to stay away from it. I hope I didn't offend anyone, this is just my own personal experience, and OPINION. There is nothing to misconscrew here. I must say I am afraid this thread has turned into a catty debate!

Up Vote Up Vote ×
Specializes in 5 yrs OR, ASU Pre-Op 2 yr. ER.
I think at least one lady on this bulletin board finally understands the way this world works. The rest of you ladies are clueless, as usual! I have lived my life trying to treat everyone equally so I have adopted the motto, "You can't hit a lady, but you can smack a B*tch!". It has gone a long way to shortening most arguments with women (or men) who don't know how to be polite!

That is WAY too much to assume (and you know what they say about assuming...) about people you don't even know.

(Not to mention calling some ladies clueless, simply because they don't agree with the way you view things, is extremely inflammatory)

Up Vote Up Vote ×
Specializes in 5 yrs OR, ASU Pre-Op 2 yr. ER.
I thought it was because men are, as a general rule, better.

We are stronger

smarter

and most of us can pee standing up without getting our feet wet (or at least that is what I have heard)

Dang, ANOTHER bites the ignore dust!

(Where's the next one, they seem to come in threes????)

(BTW Mods, i'm voting for a lock down on this thread :))

Up Vote Up Vote ×

Its certainly not fair to say that female nurses are more "catty". I'm a guy, and I've worked with some male nurses who were full of more drama than a drag queen on a bad hair day. True, I have worked with a few female nurses who are "catty", but most are very professional, level-headed, and pleasant to be around. I think it all depends on the level of professionalism and morale on the unit.

Both male and female nurses can get caught up in gossip and petty back-biting, and if we are seeeing these behaviors more in women its probably because the women are more visible by virtue of the fact that they still significantly outnumber men in most agencies.

Up Vote Up Vote ×
I think it all depends on the level of professionalism and morale on the unit.

I think this is the heart of the matter and can't be emphasized enough. When professionalism is expected and demanded, staff act accordingly.

Up Vote Up Vote ×
+ Add a Comment