Why is it MEN seem to get along better in this field than WOMEN??!!!

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Hello this was brought up to me so now I'm sharing it with you all, I had a new R.N. nurse come to me in tears because another R.N. treated and talked to her very badly when she asked her basic questions, and in the midst of her tears she stated her brother was also a new nurse and doctors even help him when he had a problems she didn't seem to understand why women wouldn't like to help women, I have also seem to witness in this field men do seem to get along alot better than women, you will find a few nurses that will help you when in need but that is a very few, I don't know if it's due to the shortage everybody is overworked or underpaid, but we are killing the younger generation of nurses who do try and probaly will oneday make good nurses if they can handle the stressful enviroment any suggestions?

Generalizations are dangerous. I could give many examples of quite a few men over the years who were the cattiest and bytchiest nurses around. And my hubby tells me stories about his construction office environment that rival the cattiness that goes on in nursing...and he works with all guys.

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I was doing my final preceptorship in an ICU and talking with two male nurses, and this was the conclusion we came to: Men are expected to be competent, unemotional, accountable, and men are taken more seriously because our society is a male dominated society. What I am saying is accepted as much if not more by women than it is by men.

The one thing a man knows down deep is that he either has to kick butt or get his butt kicked. There is mutual respect among men because no one wants to have to fight in the parking garage after work. An MD will never talk down to even a male housekeeper because he knows he may actually get beat up if he does. It hurts to get punched, so we stay on our best behavior with each other. I used to go shooting out in a popular shooting spot in the desert. It was the only place everyone seemed truly polite to one another. It's amazing how mutual assured destruction works even on the microscopic level.

With women, it's a whole 'nother world. All women really have is passive agressiveness, and boy do they use it. They don't have to be on their best behavior with one another like men do. Being polite is only a good idea for them--they don't have to worry about fights as a result of not being polite.

And here's something I've seen on the floor too many times. Female nurses laugh and joke with the male MDs too much. You typically don't see male nurses doing that. Laughing and joking is seen by men as a come-on, and it's hard to respect someone who's coming on to you. It's hard to take them seriously.

It's all BS you say! You're right. It's all unfair? You're right! But we live in a male dominated society (or species, if you will) so, it will always be like this. One truth that male nurses know: when they read articles in nursing magazines or posts that complain about nurses not being treated as "professionals" they know all that will end when there are more males in nursing. And it will only end when there are more males in nursing.

God I ramble.

The Monist

I think at least one lady on this bulletin board finally understands the way this world works. The rest of you ladies are clueless, as usual! I have lived my life trying to treat everyone equally so I have adopted the motto, "You can't hit a lady, but you can smack a B*tch!". It has gone a long way to shortening most arguments with women (or men) who don't know how to be polite!

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there is another one for the ignore list. Must be another fly-by troll.

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The difference? My theory is those people (men or women) who like themselves, are confident and certain of their worth and ability - these are the ones who are easy to get along with.

that statement pretty much sums up the whole thing...touche pjmom!

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I think at least one lady on this bulletin board finally understands the way this world works. The rest of you ladies are clueless, as usual! I have lived my life trying to treat everyone equally so I have adopted the motto, "You can't hit a lady, but you can smack a B*tch!". It has gone a long way to shortening most arguments with women (or men) who don't know how to be polite!
I think you are the one whom is CLUELESS because if I'm right MONIST is a MAN and not a woman this is his quote, The one thing a man knows down deep is that he either has to kick butt or get his butt kicked. There is mutual respect among men because no one wants to have to fight in the parking garage after work. An MD will never talk down to even a male housekeeper because he knows he may actually get beat up if he does. It hurts to get punched, so we stay on our best behavior with each other. I used to go shooting out in a popular shooting spot in the desert. It was the only place everyone seemed truly polite to one another. It's amazing how mutual assured destruction works even on the microscopic level. As for as your little underlined motto about smack a ***** evidently you haven't crossed the right lady!:angryfire

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I think you are the one whom is CLUELESS because if I'm right MONIST is a MAN and not a woman this is his quote, The one thing a man knows down deep is that he either has to kick butt or get his butt kicked. There is mutual respect among men because no one wants to have to fight in the parking garage after work. An MD will never talk down to even a male housekeeper because he knows he may actually get beat up if he does. It hurts to get punched, so we stay on our best behavior with each other. I used to go shooting out in a popular shooting spot in the desert. It was the only place everyone seemed truly polite to one another. It's amazing how mutual assured destruction works even on the microscopic level. As for as your little underlined motto evidently you haven't crossed the right lady!:angryfire

I have had to put down a couple B*tches (both men and women) in my days. I think a couple good smacks would help your attitude! I am just here to help.

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What's with all the trolls lately? Just goes to show men can be a little nutty too:) LOL!

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a little????

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don't worry, he's not going to last here long.

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I have had to put down a couple B*tches (both men and women) in my days. I think a couple good smacks would help your attitude! I am just here to help.
If you are here to help HELP !!!! but don't put down on all women I was the one that started this thread and I did agree with some things all of the men have said, but to say women are basically the cause of all the chaos is crazy because as I stated before I have witnessed some men with backbiting behaviors and you call that help when you are telling me you think a couple of smacks from you will help my attitude I'm afraid not BUDDY!!! You need to go and come again and read the entirety of the post instead of jumping in because I don't think I will be alone on this one! and for you to easily want to strike at someone I wonder how you are around fussy pts. especially FEMALES.:uhoh21:
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If you are here to help HELP !!!! but don't put down on all women I was the one that started this thread and I did agree with some things all of the men have said, but to say women are basically the cause of all the chaos is crazy because as I stated before I have witnessed some men with backbiting behaviors and you call that help when you are telling me you think a couple of smacks from you will help my attitude I'm afraid not BUDDY!!! You need to go and come again and read the entirety of the post instead of jumping in because I don't think I will be alone on this one! and for you to easily want to strike at someone I wonder how you are around fussy pts. especially FEMALES.:uhoh21:

lisa, the worst thing you can do is let this not-so-well man get the best of you. obviously he has problems and short of a lobotomy, there's nothing much that can be done. but somehow i picture him laughing his butt of at your (or any woman's) reaction so walk away girlfriend.

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Getting back on topic ... I asked a few of the female nurses at work about what they thought regarding this topic. Almost everyone of them thought that women tend to get caught up in the little things, while the men they have worked with let most stuff roll off their back. Not sure why that is, but from my perspective, I would have to agree with them.

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