When group bullying expands from classmates to teachers and administration

[who knows]

I am on a lunch break during clinical, so will provide the basics and followup when possible. Individual bullying ineffective due to lack of intelligence and posed threat. Same story for group bullying. False accusations and various torts follow with no effect. Next step is to extend socialization to educators and attempt to sway perception towards the individual to be bullied towards a demonized view. Educators are swayed and begin to communicate with administration and previous accusations and torts are given more consideration and a particular picture is painted. Bullying still remains ineffective as there is no ground for the expanded circle to firmly stand on and any approach to person to be bullied puts them at risk for multiple legal consequences on their part if not approached carefully. There is much more to the story to include liable from a educator to a individual I have a relationship outside school confines, to critical observation of my toileting times in the clinical setting of a skilled care facility.

[BrandonLPN, LPN]

After re-reading your second post, I noticed that both your instructor and a large contingent of your classmates seem to have some sort of issue with.... whatever the nature of this relationship is between you and this classmate.

If it were one or two people having a problem with it, one could chalk it up to busybodyness or jealousy. With this many people voicing the same concern, you really ought to step back and take an objective look at what you're doing and how you two are presenting yourselves. The most prudent course of action might be to be to simply be more discrete.

[delawaremalenurse]

I actually think my IQ might have dropped after reading this....

[Red Kryptonite]

I am use to people in general attacking me,

Uh....and why is that? Because unless you're a Christian living in Iraq or Syria right now, or a Ukrainian living near the Russian border, there aren't a lot of reasons anyone should be used to being generally attacked by other people on a regular basis.

[elkpark]

I am use to people in general attacking me,

If it's an occasional person attacking you, it's likely the problem of whoever is doing the attacking. If lots of people "in general" are "attacking" you, on an ongoing basis, across settings, you need to maybe think about whether you may be the problem and these other individuals may have legitimate issues/concerns ...

[Angeljho, MSN, NP]

Sorry, this was my first post and it was hurried. I was curious to see the type of replies I would recieve with the post left in its current state. All replies that have been posted are appreciated regardless of content. The post is somewhat of a biography for 2 semesters of nursing school. Me and what was just a platonic female friend of mine were bullied in different ways from the start of the first semester. Through our suffering we grew together and once it was evident to our classmates that we were together, the bullying approach changed. The post was specific to me until the very end in which I pointed out that an educator sceduled an academic counciling session with her, only to suprise her with you need leave him and here is all the gossip I heard on why you have to. I am use to people in general attacking me, but if when someone I care about starts to get attacked too beyond what she is use to and capable of handling, I know need to reach out further for help. I am extremely busy right now and am finding it hard to find the time to track down what options I may have available in our defence. When a for pay nursing program with all of its protective legal measures are in place decideds to participate willingly in the group bullying process, who does the student or students being bullied go to? Go to a lawyer and fight an uphill legal battle while near broke and unprotected by whistleblower rights? Is there someone to go to for our state board of nursing(Oregon ) or maybe the ANA? Should we both just take our losses and try a different school with the hope that we will not be subject to this level of harassment again? We are finishing out this term and then do not know what we will do. We are feeling alone and isolated in a raging sea. I apologize if this the wrong place to voice our concern. If needed, please redirect and I will happily voice my concerns in an more appropriate forum. I only need to know where.

So an educator and peer students are bullying and harassing you and a female student because of your relationship with her? She, the educator, told this female student that she needs to leave you be? If you want to hang out, giggle together, or whatever it is you two are doing, just do it outside of class/school. I think you need to clarify exactly what you and this student are doing at school since everyone is targeting both of you. It's hard to provide advice without further clarification.

[annie.rn]

I think what OP means to say is - ain't nobody break their style. Ain't nobody gonna slow them down. No, they got to keep on moving.

OMG! I just about died laughing. Can't get that song out of my head now. Thanks :-)

[BuckyBadgerRN, ASN, RN]

We need a minion with the "Wha?" expression. Because that is seriously what I'm doing as I try to understand what the name of all that's right in the world the OP is trying to say!!

[whofan, ADN, BSN, RN]

It might just be late, but I did not understand what was being said. Going to go have some more coffee and try this again.

[Red Kryptonite]

Here ya go Bucky.

[Kandy83]

OP can you give specific examples on how you are being bullied?

[who knows]

Some time this weekend I will attempt to delete or close this post. I am entirely new to how forums work, but I thought I would at least try out this site for a chance at additional insights into issues I am facing on my path to being a nurse. Before I respond to a few responces to my post, I would like to clarify that I am now only requesting information regarding who a student nurse can look to for advocacy if they do not feel this option is available within thier educational institution There may not be any such advocacy for a nursing student and maybe advocacy of this kind does not exist for students in general. It is disturbing though to think that this component could be left out of foundational elements of education, expecially when it comes to many of the idiologies attached to nursing... For the question of why I would leave a post in a particular format that may require some interpretative skills and left itself open to critical and counterproductive responses. .. What each person that replied said or didn't say, would give an accurate portrayal of this sites general level of support and reflect how the issue I was posting about could be demonstrated using only the replies to this post. To paint the picture... a post is made about widespread bullying and emotionally sensitive content is provided relative to the subject; members of this site for various reasons decide to read a post about bullying; and some show concern, some make an actual effort to clarify, some are pushing themselves to the point where a post like this is to much to work theough if thwy are not sure if they would be able to help, some outright attack the post, some adapt a bullying mentality, and some try to point out that they must have superior intelligence because it did not fit within their comfort zone of simplicity. All information provided was based off issues I am currently facing with another kindhearted soul. For someone who said that there must be something wrong with me if I am always under attack, well they are right and there is. I am kind, stubborn, and perceptive. If a person is kind, this puts the person within social subgroup to be approached a specific way and any action they take to be given simular consideration. Once perceptional abilities are added, what others do or don't say or do in response to any act of kindness or humility, provides a detailed picture of the landscape the kind individual is living in at the moment. When stubbornness is added to the equation particularly to not tolerating any form of manipulation or aggression in response to this kindness, things become quite a bit more colorful. People are shown for who they are and if they are unable to recover their pride when they make the mistake of attacking attacking what they thought was a soft target, they may begin to take irrational and emotionally driven actions. I have dealt with this issue of mine from the age of seven on and have read self help books and have seen professionals to try to find an approach that does not ultimately lead to facing hostility from multiple directions. I have never made any progress on this issue other than to change my heart to one that is not kind and all of my problems will be solved and turned into blessings... The hope with nursing was that my personality would be more welcome in this element. Now someone I care about that is equally kind, but is less adapted to this level of hostility is also being affected. Part of me wants to believe that I am at fault for letting a romance bloom under such circumstances, but then again to let love go because you cannot remove yourself from duress, is foolish and cowardly. We will both fight what faces us together and eventually overcome them together. Any constructive non-opinionated objective information would be appreciated. I will not produce any future replies to this post, but humbly look foward to reading any meaningful replies others may post.

[Angeljho, MSN, NP]

OP, if you fell in love with another student, that's your business and no one else's. However, if you're doing certain things in public areas where everyone can see, then it becomes everyone else's business too and they will talk. Just keep things private, that's all.

Trust me, nursing school only gets tougher. The more energy you waste on worrying about defending your romance and seeking legal action, the less focused you'll be on your studies. From what you described in your posts, it doesn't sound like true bullying. You haven't given much information on what the other students are doing, but it sounds as if you're just dealing with annoying peers. Just shut them out, focus on your studies, and finish school. As for advocacy, your school should have some type of student services; perhaps you can turn to them.