What is wrong with people ?

[ewrn]

I am a new grad who has had trouble finding a job so my husband said he would talk to a friend of his that has connections to see if he could get me a job. I was optimistic about the idea and emailed the man my resume to pass along. Today he sends me an email back about how I need to tweak my resume to get better results so I made changes but I didn't agree with listing all the skills I performed during clinicals because I have not performed them enough to be proficient which is understandable as a new grad. He sends me another email back saying ...

This resume is not different than the one you sent me. I have a question: how has this resume been working successfully for you? How many jobs and interviews has it gotten you?

Okay I can understand what he means but then he sends this to me ...

I sent out again without finishing and editing. Oh well, remember the resume is only a ticket to entice the employer to give you an interview. Once we tweak your resume, my nursing friend and I will give you a mock interview.

- on your objective: "Seeking RN position, preferably nights and weekends. Willing to work flexible hours and overtime as needed by my employer. My husband and I are childless, supportive of each others career, and he will be dependent on my income for several years so he may start his own mechanic business."

That will definitely put you in the interview pile. At the interview, tell them you cannot have children and you are not looking to adopt or explore alternatives. Remember, you can always change your mind. Maternity is always a concern with younger workers. They cannot ask, but you can tell them.

If you do not drink alcohol, put it down. If you do not smoke, only put it down if you also do not drink alcohol. Otherwise, never mention it.

I thought this was inappropriate and I was upset that he thought it okay to put my personal business out there like that. My husband must have told him a have a condition that can cause infertility but I would never tell an employer that. Do you think I'm overreacting?

[biker nurse]

OK you forgot to put down how many bathroom breaks you need~~ (very odd objective, Wouldn't do it)

[ckh23, BSN, RN]

I would also question who this guy is and what makes him so qualified to be suggesting these changes. I say just stop all contact. Just because he is your husband's friend, it doesn't make him your friend.

[netglow, ASN, RN]

What a psycho. I'd get your husband to lie and tell him you got a job. Who cares if you did or didn't, he's psyho and you need to get rid of him as well as his meddling which will continue. No need to elaborate as to where/what the job is, he can say he doesn't really understand "all that nursing stuff". Then, do not return his calls or emails. I'd block his emails even.

Your husband has got to stop playing "houswives of where-EVER" and stop telling everybody your private business.

I had a contact that turned out very odd as well, not quite the problem you are having, but a problem still. People are very odd these days. That is for sure.

[Rob72, ASN, RN]

Sounds like an MBA- Self-Gratifying-Bovine-Feces-Artist. Yes, they do think like that. Ah, well, take the suggestions here.

I will confess, it would not hurt to obliquely imply that you have no family plans in the immediate future and that you participate in "wholesome" recreational activities. It really sucks when you hire someone and 6 months later they're on maternity leave. Stuff happens, personally I've never been upset by those circumstances, but I have known some supervisors to hold a grudge. It is hard on a small unit...

I've also actually had someone say that they were late to an interview because they were a, "little wasted", the night before.

I make it a practice not to comment too much on other guys, but the ladies have some good advice(husband and friend).:cheers:

[33762FL]

He is a complete idiot. I used to work in HR, it is never appropriate to mention anything about children (or lack of), smoking, or drinking on a resume or in the interview. Mentioning any of those things will get you disqualified from the applicant pool because of how grossly inappropriate it is. If you want to drop a hint that you don't plan on having children or taking maternity, the closest you can get is to say something in the interview like "my nursing career is the main focus of my life right now, and will be for the next few decades." As for smoking, they will be able to smell on you whether you smoke or not.

[JBudd, MSN]

I was interviewing at places a few years ago (okay, 20+ years :)), and mentioned I was hoping to get pregnant and asked what their maternity policies were (or if it would make a difference). The manager showing me around said they weren't allowed to ask about such things, and I probably shouldn't bring it up (quietly and privately to me), as it would be discrimination if they refused to hire on basis of pregnancy.

Was still offered the job, but never forgot the advice.

I'm with the rest, the guy is a jerk and has no idea what he is talking about. Personal and private data should be separate.

[sharpeimom]

the man is a complete and total jerk!

when i used to circulate my resume, i included enough about me that i wouldn't seem as though i were concealing something, and my work experience. i'd put "references by request" but took the

info with me in case they did ask.

btw, i loved your title! a neighbor's daughter whose name is also katherine received a package in

today's mail. it was delivered here by mistake because our house number is only one number different

than theirs is. it was from a well-known dept. store that i'm expecting a package from as well. i opened

it and realized it wasn't mine.

i returned it to the teen's mom whereupon she snatched it from my hand and told me if i ever stole

from their porch again, she'd call the police!

[Art_Vandelay]

- on your objective: "seeking rn position, preferably nights and weekends. willing to work flexible hours and overtime as needed by my employer. my husband and i are childless, supportive of each others career, and he will be dependent on my income for several years so he may start his own mechanic business."

that will definitely put you in the interview pile. at the interview, tell them you cannot have children and you are not looking to adopt or explore alternatives. remember, you can always change your mind. maternity is always a concern with younger workers. they cannot ask, but you can tell them.

if you do not drink alcohol, put it down. if you do not smoke, only put it down if you also do not drink alcohol. otherwise, never mention it.

i thought this was inappropriate and i was upset that he thought it okay to put my personal business out there like that. my husband must have told him a have a condition that can cause infertility but i would never tell an employer that. do you think i'm overreacting ?

omg! :eek: his "improvements" to your resume sound like material for a saturday night live skit. he may as well have modified it to say, "registered nurse, smokes crack regularly... iz be ready to start, i can hold off the rock." in our now litigious society, as long as someone doesn't post herself pole dancing on social networking sites, your employer has no right to pry. choose your friends wisely, find a sample nursing resume on the internet or rent one from the library, and do not post anything on social networking sites. kindly ask this man not to forward your resume to anyone as you do not feel it is an accurate picture of you, and thank him for his time.

[trauma_lama, BSN]

Rude. No, you're NOT overreacting.

[Guest717236]

Your husband needs to get a new set of friends, ie- delete a few who were

involved in this.

I am so sorry for you, seeking work is not easy and there is nothing funny

about the feedback you just received from the "connected person".

Keep your spirits up and best wishes for a great job match for you.

[Always_Learning, BSN, RN]

Rude. No, you're NOT overreacting.

Bon Qui Qui would agree. RUDE.

Forget that dude.

[~Mi Vida Loca~RN, ASN, RN]

I agree with the others, none of that should have been put on your objective. From what we were told the Resume should speak only of your skills and jobs relevant to the job and should not be more then a page, 2 if you must. I would list skills you did in practicum (since you are a new grad )Like if you managed 4 patients and stuff. You shouldn't use "I" in your resume. I would definitely seek someone professional (preferably in healthcare) to review your resume.