What is wrong with people ?

[ewrn]

I am a new grad who has had trouble finding a job so my husband said he would talk to a friend of his that has connections to see if he could get me a job. I was optimistic about the idea and emailed the man my resume to pass along. Today he sends me an email back about how I need to tweak my resume to get better results so I made changes but I didn't agree with listing all the skills I performed during clinicals because I have not performed them enough to be proficient which is understandable as a new grad. He sends me another email back saying ...

This resume is not different than the one you sent me. I have a question: how has this resume been working successfully for you? How many jobs and interviews has it gotten you?

Okay I can understand what he means but then he sends this to me ...

I sent out again without finishing and editing. Oh well, remember the resume is only a ticket to entice the employer to give you an interview. Once we tweak your resume, my nursing friend and I will give you a mock interview.

- on your objective: "Seeking RN position, preferably nights and weekends. Willing to work flexible hours and overtime as needed by my employer. My husband and I are childless, supportive of each others career, and he will be dependent on my income for several years so he may start his own mechanic business."

That will definitely put you in the interview pile. At the interview, tell them you cannot have children and you are not looking to adopt or explore alternatives. Remember, you can always change your mind. Maternity is always a concern with younger workers. They cannot ask, but you can tell them.

If you do not drink alcohol, put it down. If you do not smoke, only put it down if you also do not drink alcohol. Otherwise, never mention it.

I thought this was inappropriate and I was upset that he thought it okay to put my personal business out there like that. My husband must have told him a have a condition that can cause infertility but I would never tell an employer that. Do you think I'm overreacting?

[coffeegirl7]

He has given you horrible advice for a resume, or to disclose anything about your personal life. They can't ask, and you shouldn't have to tell. That's ubsurd!!

Don't put down every little thing you did in clinicals-a nurse manager/director knows you are coming to the position fresh out of school as a new grad...really irrelevant that you did bed baths in Nursing 101.

There are a lot of good sample resumes for new grads online....take a look at those.

In your interview, the best thing to do is express your interest in the positon, show the enthusiasm you have to work at their facility and ask questions that will show them you are interested in the floor/position. Don't tell them you are childless, wont be adopting, or that you are a non-drinker/smoker. That's information that is TMI in my opinion.

Don't listen to this potential "job getter" for you....there's much better information from total strangers, online!!

[kbrn2002, ADN, RN]

Well that guy is either a real dumb-ass or just has a very warped sense of humor. Either way his response to what was a serious request for help and feedback was WAY inappropriate considering he does not know you [i am assuming even though he is your husband's friend you don't really know him that well, sorry if that assumption is wrong]. Does your hubby and this friend have that kind of sarcastic back-and-forth relationship? If so, maybe he thought that was an OK response because that is how he would respond to your husband, or maybe he thought the request itself was a joke and responded in kind. I am sorry he put you through that, obviously you are smart enough not to take his suggestions seriously. Maybe you should ask him if his suggestions were meant seriously.

[stefanyjoy]

That guy was way out of line.

But you need to revamp your objective. Saying you and your husband are childless like it's something that makes you a better option than anyone else may insult the person reading the resume who has children.

[caliotter3]

I think this person has made his opinion of you and your husband clear. Your husband needs to reevaluate the friendship.

[AmericanRN]

That guy was way out of line.

But you need to revamp your objective. Saying you and your husband are childless like it's something that makes you a better option than anyone else may insult the person reading the resume who has children.

The OP didn't actually put any of that stuff in her objective or on her resume. The sarcastic jackwagon that was supposed to be analyzing her original resume re-wrote it & told the OP thats what her resume needed to say.

[Altra, BSN, RN]

Has anyone, OP included, considered that this was a poor attempt at humor?

[billyboblewis]

He is not the person to get you a job.Start pounding the street, knocking on doors and filling out applications, they carry much more weight than resumes.

[lumbarpain, ADN, RN]

OMG, UnFreakin believable.!!!! Problem with the whole job seeking picture is too many people are out there looking for jobs.....the Recruitors are overloaded and see hundreds of resumes. I noticed one thing when I got finally fed up BEING SO PROFESSIONAL and anal and such on my resume....I blantantly just told them....IF I DONT GET A JOB I HAVE TO MOVE BACK TO MY HOMESTATE>...it landed me an interview at least.....so we shall see. If you could work something out that would GRAB the interviewers attention without being offensive thats great.....but I think I hit the end of my rope looking for a job that suits me at my age. Hope things work out for you. Many people are trying to row in the same boat but going around in circles.

[billyboblewis]

Get an application and apply for a specific position. The department head will read your application and call you in if interested. Sometimes this takes a month in large hospital groups. Thia i\sa frustrating but unfortunately how it works.