Very disrespectful !!!

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I'm a new nurse and currently finished my 8th week of orientation. I was giving report to a nurse this morning and she was asking me all sorts of questions, one which I didn't know the answer to. My pt had a large bowel mvmt and I cleaned him well (huge task) and applied med, but I didn't do enough (in her opinion) with the broken down skin, so she obviously rolled her eyes at me.

In my opinion, I find this so disrespectful to actually treat a fellow co-worker, a human being with this type of disrespect. My preceptor saw it as well and she said just take it with a grain of salt and let it roll off my back, but I hate working with people like this! I tried so hard this morning to have every thing done, my rooms cleaned up, etc. I will not go out of my way again if I know this nurse is following me!

I believe next time some one shows any facial gestures, I will pull them aside and tell them I find it disrespectful, esp since I'm here to learn. We have had the same pts few nights in a row and there was something in my assessment that she didn't know about, but she questioned me on it like I didn't assess it good enough. OOH, I'm steaming about this woman! She must be a very miserable person in her life is all I can say!!!

Specializes in district nurse, ccu, geriatric. Has 11 years experience.

That is unfortunate, I think we have all been in your situation, There are some nurses out there, where it doesn't matter what you do for them, they will never be satisfied with the work you've done. Their goal in life is to make others feel incompetent. I think you did the right thing though, let it roll of your back, because they will deny they have done anything wrong anyway. Of course, if that nurse were to actually criticise the work you have done, I would understand if you questioned why this nurse has a problem. If this nurse has a problem with part of your assessment, ask her what it is you have done that is not correct, and remind this nurse that you are new, and some patience would be appreciated.

Please, whatever, you do on the job, don't do it for the next nurse on duty, do it for yourself, even if they don't appreciate the work you put in, there is nothing better then going home knowing that you did the best you could for you, and your patients. Forget the negativity of this nurse it is not worth it.

mc3, ASN, RN

931 Posts

Has 12 years experience.

Hmmm, I had instructors in nursing school that would do that!!:stone I guess you just get used to it, after a while. You also have to learn to choose your battles...

mc3:nurse:

CT Pixie, BSN, RN

3,723 Posts

Has 10 years experience.

Over the years I've learned that sadly there are many people out there that make themselves feel bigger, more important, more competent by trying to make others feel small, less important and less competent. I'd take your preceptors advice...treat it with a grain of salt and I would add..let it roll off your back. No need to let this person drag you down with her negitivity.

Has 20 years experience.

I've encountered similar instances as well. The rebel in me has no problem reminding them that they once were "green/new" and that **** stinks too. (very eloquently though) :D

I never miss the opportunity to have the conversation right there and then. (Afterall, communication is key.......right?) If not, I find myself giving the situation too much thought and taking up too much of my important time later on!

Wonder if the first thing she said when she learned to talk was "nurse"! :anbd:

leslie :-D

11,191 Posts

I believe next time some one shows any facial gestures, I will pull them aside and tell them I find it disrespectful, esp since I'm here to learn. We have had the same pts few nights in a row and there was something in my assessment that she didn't know about, but she questioned me on it like I didn't assess it good enough.

rather than tell her you find it disrespectful, you may want to consider approaching her with,

"rather than you roll your eyes at me, it would be helpful if you would provide some constructive feedback as to what i should do."

this way, you're letting her know you don't appreciate her facial gestures while eliciting an opportunity for learning experiences.

i would hope she would be more professional after you sharing your concerns.

good luck, brea.

you have a challenging year ahead of you.

leslie

Dianacabana

168 Posts

rather than tell her you find it disrespectful, you may want to consider approaching her with,

"rather than you roll your eyes at me, it would be helpful if you would provide some constructive feedback as to what i should do."

this way, you're letting her know you don't appreciate her facial gestures while eliciting an opportunity for learning experiences.

i would hope she would be more professional after you sharing your concerns.

good luck, brea.

you have a challenging year ahead of you.

leslie

An excellent idea, Leslie. Couldn't have worded it better myself.:up:

And Brea, I hate eye rolling too! So immature!:no:

Specializes in Med Surg, Ortho.
rather than tell her you find it disrespectful, you may want to consider approaching her with,

"rather than you roll your eyes at me, it would be helpful if you would provide some constructive feedback as to what i should do."

this way, you're letting her know you don't appreciate her facial gestures while eliciting an opportunity for learning experiences.

i would hope she would be more professional after you sharing your concerns.

good luck, brea.

you have a challenging year ahead of you.

leslie

Thanks for the advice. I will do that indeed. During report, I did mention that I'm new, didn't realize I needed to do what she said, that I'm here to learn. I did try to kill her with kindness by saying, "Bye, have a good day, thanks for the learning experience".

Specializes in Med Surg, Ortho.
rather than tell her you find it disrespectful, you may want to consider approaching her with,

"rather than you roll your eyes at me, it would be helpful if you would provide some constructive feedback as to what i should do."

this way, you're letting her know you don't appreciate her facial gestures while eliciting an opportunity for learning experiences.

i would hope she would be more professional after you sharing your concerns.

good luck, brea.

you have a challenging year ahead of you.

leslie

Accidentely double posted

Grace Oz

1,294 Posts

Specializes in Med/Surg/Ortho/HH/Radiology-Now Retired.

If anyone ever makes a comment or facial expression such as she did again; say in a firm and raised voice: "Is that directed at ME??!! If so, perhaps you might care to explain your reason for saying/doing so??!!"

This approach often reduces bullies to retract into the hole they belong in!

Hang in there, trust me, the older and more experienced you become, the stronger and better able you become to be able to handle situations.

RN1982

3,362 Posts

Specializes in ICU/Critical Care.

Just be honest and straightforward. Next time say, "I do not appreciate you rolling your eyes at me." Confront her but in a respectful manner and make sure she knows that you will not tolerate her behavior.

soulofme

317 Posts

Specializes in dialysis (mostly) some L&D, Rehab/LTC.

Just ask her if she has Tourettes and is she taking her medication:bugeyes:

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