I'm a new nurse and currently finished my 8th week of orientation. I was giving report to a nurse this morning and she was asking me all sorts of questions, one which I didn't know the answer to. My pt had a large bowel mvmt and I cleaned him well (huge task) and applied med, but I didn't do enough (in her opinion) with the broken down skin, so she obviously rolled her eyes at me.
In my opinion, I find this so disrespectful to actually treat a fellow co-worker, a human being with this type of disrespect. My preceptor saw it as well and she said just take it with a grain of salt and let it roll off my back, but I hate working with people like this! I tried so hard this morning to have every thing done, my rooms cleaned up, etc. I will not go out of my way again if I know this nurse is following me!
I believe next time some one shows any facial gestures, I will pull them aside and tell them I find it disrespectful, esp since I'm here to learn. We have had the same pts few nights in a row and there was something in my assessment that she didn't know about, but she questioned me on it like I didn't assess it good enough. OOH, I'm steaming about this woman! She must be a very miserable person in her life is all I can say!!!
I certainly remember having those moments as a new grad. As I gained more experience & confidence I was able to either ignore it or say something like: "Are you OK?" or "Is something wrong?" most of the time people don't want their bad behavior confronted in that way & back right down!
in nursing school i was working with this VERY sweet RN in the ICU. I forgot what it was, but during report, the oncoming nurse wasn't satisfied with something the sweet RN had did/wasn't done/whatever. The oncoming nurse was in a bad mood (don't know why). The sweet RN popped back with "Next time roll your eyes into the Manager's office." Oh my god, she went from bad mood to team player in 1.2 seconds!
The people who say it is a type of bullying are correct. The people who are advising you to either let it roll off your back or say something non-confrontational are both correct. If it only happens once the easiest thing to do is ignore it, however it if becomes a part of a pattern of harrassment you will want to take action. I never rolled my eyes at anyone in 40 year as a nurse. It is almost like they are saying, "you are so dumb and that makes me so smart". Very immature if you ask me. Exactly the kind of behaviors you would expect in 15 year old kids.
I thank you all for the responses. I've read some really good advice that I will apply if there's a next time. I love this board, it's a great place for support in situations like this.
There are about two nurses on my floor with this attitude and it just really stinks. It's just really surprising me, although I guess it shouldn't, the way these nurses on my floor act. I hate to be so naive, but in this profession I think we should all stick by each other with dignity and respect. I'm so easily intimidated and need to learn to get past this.
It's just unbelievable the gall some people have, really unbelievable.
Specializes in Med/Surg/Ortho/HH/Radiology-Now Retired.
i know this was intended as a joke, but the irony that this advice is disrespectful...
*jess*
i think you're right, jess, it was intended as a joke, i'm sure. i'm think the poster was only trying to inject a bit of levity into an othertwise serious discussion. i didn't read the post as adivce to be taken literally, rather as a lighthearted statement.
i often post comments which are an attempt to inject humour or lightheartedness into threads. i'm sure others probably think old grace is either a nut or silly and immature at times with what i post. however, the longer we live and the closer we get to the end of this journey called life, we come to appreciate the need for laughter and lightheartedness along the way and how important it is to have such in order to obtain a good life balance. there's enough seriousness and "heaviness' in this troubled world, sometimes we need to be "light' and laugh.
Specializes in Medsurg/ICU, Mental Health, Home Health.
i think you're right, jess, it was intended as a joke, i'm sure. i'm think the poster was only trying to inject a bit of levity into an othertwise serious discussion. i didn't read the post as adivce to be taken literally, rather as a lighthearted statement.
i often post comments which are an attempt to inject humour or lightheartedness into threads. i'm sure others probably think old grace is either a nut or silly and immature at times with what i post. however, the longer we live and the closer we get to the end of this journey called life, we come to appreciate the need for laughter and lightheartedness along the way and how important it is to have such in order to obtain a good life balance. there's enough seriousness and "heaviness' in this troubled world, sometimes we need to be "light' and laugh.
i understand completely, grace. i'm all for humor, and i'm always finding the light in situations. i've also been known to "go too far" or be silly/nutty/immature.
however, i believe one also has to think when posting something online, because what if the op (or one of her loved ones) has tourette's? i also appreciate good jokes...this one didn't even make sense to me, either. rolling eyes = tourette's?
Specializes in Med/Surg/Ortho/HH/Radiology-Now Retired.
i understand completely, grace. i'm all for humor, and i'm always finding the light in situations. i've also been known to "go too far" or be silly/nutty/immature.
however, i believe one also has to think when posting something online, because what if the op (or one of her loved ones) has tourette's? i also appreciate good jokes...this one didn't even make sense to me, either. rolling eyes = tourette's?
sorry to hijack the post...
*jess*
fair enough, jess. i appreciate where you're coming from.
I would just ignore people like that. I wldnt waste my time and energy by letting their actions affect me. We need to remember that these people have problems in their personal lives that they cant handle; so they have to act that way to make themselves important or superior. Just ignore her and when she knows that her rudeness doesnt get on you, she will leave you alone. Dont feel intimidated or upset. She has problems; NOT YOU!!!
Specializes in Med/Surg/Ortho/HH/Radiology-Now Retired.
I would just ignore people like that. I wldnt waste my time and energy by letting their actions affect me. We need to remember that these people have problems in their personal lives that they cant handle; so they have to act that way to make themselves important or superior. Just ignore her and when she knows that her rudeness doesnt get on you, she will leave you alone. Dont feel intimidated or upset. She has problems; NOT YOU!!!
Trouble is Salr, with bullies; sometimes ignoring them does not ensure they'll go away. Sad but true.
you are far too young to sink to her level......"I will not go out of my way again if I know this nurse is following me!".......is this really how you want to practice nursing??? it doesn't sound like it. i'd continue to do my best, meeting MY standard despite the scowls of this oncoming nurse. there is something to be said about personal satisfaction in a job you know is done well. ........"rather than you roll your eyes at me, it would be helpful if you would provide some constructive feedback as to what i should do."..........is good advise however, i'd evaluate this nurse to see if she meets MY standard of care before i'd ask for her advise.
nickola
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I certainly remember having those moments as a new grad. As I gained more experience & confidence I was able to either ignore it or say something like: "Are you OK?" or "Is something wrong?" most of the time people don't want their bad behavior confronted in that way & back right down!