I'm a new nurse and currently finished my 8th week of orientation. I was giving report to a nurse this morning and she was asking me all sorts of questions, one which I didn't know the answer to. My pt had a large bowel mvmt and I cleaned him well (huge task) and applied med, but I didn't do enough (in her opinion) with the broken down skin, so she obviously rolled her eyes at me.
In my opinion, I find this so disrespectful to actually treat a fellow co-worker, a human being with this type of disrespect. My preceptor saw it as well and she said just take it with a grain of salt and let it roll off my back, but I hate working with people like this! I tried so hard this morning to have every thing done, my rooms cleaned up, etc. I will not go out of my way again if I know this nurse is following me!
I believe next time some one shows any facial gestures, I will pull them aside and tell them I find it disrespectful, esp since I'm here to learn. We have had the same pts few nights in a row and there was something in my assessment that she didn't know about, but she questioned me on it like I didn't assess it good enough. OOH, I'm steaming about this woman! She must be a very miserable person in her life is all I can say!!!
Specializes in CNA, Surgical, Pediatrics, SDS, ER.
I'm not a new nurse but this wknd I took a pt up that I have taken over on for about all of 30 min the nurse that left gave me a brief report and left. I take the pt up to the floor 1840 of course close to change of shift that never makes you popular to begin w/. :no:The nurse taking the pt starts right away w/ no one told us you were coming up, I said sorry it's very busy right now I needed to get this pt up so I could use the room. Eye roll. I'll give her that one because that is annoying. Anyways.
She continues on "Well I guess I'll get started for the whole 1/2 hr I'll have the pt." Scowl.
Get up to the desk fill her in on what the previous nurse said and I was thumbing through labs saw the D-dimer elevated and said oh she did not tell me about this,when I get back down there I will find out why we did not do a PE study. Eye roll. C/B informed of why study wan't done at least I couldn't see facial expressions when I called her back.
Next time I will have the nurse who cared for the pt call report and I'll fill them in on whatever I did.
I don't think that there is any reason to be such a bag when I'm just doing my job. It's not my choice to bring the pt up at chng of shift, it's when the docs are done and I've completed most of what's on the orders list so you don't have to do it when I get there. When I'm busy I don't have time to hold a pt for a 1/2 hr until the next shift comes on. Sorry about the rant, age old debate that will never be resolved.
I raise one eyebrow, look her in the eye and say "excuse me??". I have one that not only rolls eyes, but will also add comments that are usually rude and always unprofessional. She feels like she needs to be the boss of someone, and I guess that someone is me. I just ignore it.
Ugh, sorry you got the eye roll. I'll never understand why some nurses feel the need to bring their fellows in the trenches down. I'm wondering about something you said though. Many times, when I'm following a new nurse I'll ask a lot of questions about what they did and didn't do, more to put it on their radar. There's only so many situations you can encounter in orientation so I try and bring up things that they might not have seen. I'm definitely not doing it to be a b*tch. Any chance there was some of that going on?
Ugh, sorry you got the eye roll. I'll never understand why some nurses feel the need to bring their fellows in the trenches down. I'm wondering about something you said though. Many times, when I'm following a new nurse I'll ask a lot of questions about what they did and didn't do, more to put it on their radar. There's only so many situations you can encounter in orientation so I try and bring up things that they might not have seen. I'm definitely not doing it to be a b*tch. Any chance there was some of that going on?
Yeah, basically that was the situation, but she still had no reason to roll her eyes at me. I didn't realize I should have done what she asked me if I did. Or else, maybe I should have realized it but didn't think about doing it at the time..... you know? My inexperience right now is just what it is. No need for eye rolling.
rather than tell her you find it disrespectful, you may want to consider approaching her with,
"rather than you roll your eyes at me, it would be helpful if you would provide some constructive feedback as to what i should do."
this way, you're letting her know you don't appreciate her facial gestures while eliciting an opportunity for learning experiences.
i would hope she would be more professional after you sharing your concerns.
good luck, brea.
you have a challenging year ahead of you.
leslie
Actually, on the surface this seems like a good idea. However, I had an abusive nurse on my unit who's behavior began in this behavior. An opening like this would have been a hayday for her.
Tread carefully. Another option may be to just call her out on it in a professional way in the presence of others (not grab someone and be like... OH LOOK! but for instance, we take report as a group where i used to work so not only would they see the eye roll as well but they would also see my response... so if it were a public action, i would give a public response... i wouldn't be pulling aside at all, i'd take care of it right then and there)... such as saying something like I don't understand why you need to behave like that towards me, I didn't do anything that requires a reaction like that from you. or asking why she needed to roll her eyes at me. and be nice about it but firm... just call her out on it, asking her if there was a problem. Etc. You DO NOT need any confirmation / teaching from her... you've passed your boards, you're a smart cookie, and you'll do good using the nice and friendly nurses around you as resource on the floor!
This nurse who rolled her eyes is of the lowest sort of character. She knows full well that the new nurse doesn't have as much standing in the organization and will take it. Should the new nurse "take her aside" or try to be "assertive" it will be manipulated into the new nurse as having "flown off the handle."
Somewhere along the line this rude nurse was bullied, and instead of considering the bullying to be low and immoral, she saw it as a type of power to be emmulated. In other words, someone punked her and she can only make up for it by punking someone else. She's too stupid to realize it's wrong.
I don't recommend calling her out on it. I recommend ignoring it. Giving your report, asking if she has any questions and then walking away. Don't have conversations with her, and don't socialize with her at the nurses station. Because even though it makes you mad as hell, as it would me, she is the equivalent of a mental patient, and if you had a mental patient for a patient, he or she rolling her eyes at you wouldn't bother you a bit.
This nurse who rolled her eyes is of the lowest sort of character. She knows full well that the new nurse doesn't have as much standing in the organization and will take it. Should the new nurse "take her aside" or try to be "assertive" it will be manipulated into the new nurse as having "flown off the handle."
Somewhere along the line this rude nurse was bullied, and instead of considering the bullying to be low and immoral, she saw it as a type of power to be emmulated. In other words, someone punked her and she can only make up for it by punking someone else. She's too stupid to realize it's wrong.
I don't recommend calling her out on it. I recommend ignoring it. Giving your report, asking if she has any questions and then walking away. Don't have conversations with her, and don't socialize with her at the nurses station. Because even though it makes you mad as hell, as it would me, she is the equivalent of a mental patient, and if you had a mental patient for a patient, he or she rolling her eyes at you wouldn't bother you a bit.
Thanks for the advice. I was told again today at work to confront her, to be assertive. I'm being told that If I'm not assertive this will keep happening. I just don't want to be labeled a trouble maker by confronting some one like this. I guess the best advice is to ignore it for right now, but if it gets too bad, I'll have to speak up.:argue:
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I'm not a new nurse but this wknd I took a pt up that I have taken over on for about all of 30 min the nurse that left gave me a brief report and left. I take the pt up to the floor 1840 of course close to change of shift that never makes you popular to begin w/. :no:The nurse taking the pt starts right away w/ no one told us you were coming up, I said sorry it's very busy right now I needed to get this pt up so I could use the room. Eye roll.
I'll give her that one because that is annoying. Anyways.
She continues on "Well I guess I'll get started for the whole 1/2 hr I'll have the pt." Scowl.
Get up to the desk fill her in on what the previous nurse said and I was thumbing through labs saw the D-dimer elevated and said oh she did not tell me about this,when I get back down there I will find out why we did not do a PE study. Eye roll.
C/B informed of why study wan't done at least I couldn't see facial expressions when I called her back.
Next time I will have the nurse who cared for the pt call report and I'll fill them in on whatever I did.
I don't think that there is any reason to be such a bag when I'm just doing my job. It's not my choice to bring the pt up at chng of shift, it's when the docs are done and I've completed most of what's on the orders list so you don't have to do it when I get there. When I'm busy I don't have time to hold a pt for a 1/2 hr until the next shift comes on. Sorry about the rant, age old debate that will never be resolved.