Vent: Why I won't accompany my mother to the ER anymore

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Slight vent, and ARGH.

My mom was in the ER the other day (for a rule out PE) and before I could hold her mouth shut the words were out at the very friendly ER nurse: "sonny I'm a very tough stick since my veins are rolling and disappearing, so you might wanna get the anesthesiologist if you don't know what you are doing". So I tried telling her to let the nurses do their job.

I was just sitting there with a look of horror on my face trying to disappear in between the air molecules, thinking about how I would feel if that was said to me. My mother then proceeded to say "my son is not convinced I have a PE and he is a nurse he knows these things since he works in an (and adds with emphasis) ICU in a university hospital". By that time I just wanted to disappear between the subatomic structures...

The RN did a 12 lead and my mother was saying it had better be done right or I would see they made a mistake. I just looked at her hoping it was either a dream or I would suffer a major PE instead of having to deal with this. The RN then printed an extra copy and put it in front of me with the words: "I hope it is to your liking and it can stand up to the quality in an (with emphasis) ICU in a university hospital..."

After the nurse left I tried scolding my mom but she was so proud that she got to brag about one of her kids (how can you stay mad). So I went to a bakery and got pastry and other nice things for the ER staff in an attempt to undo my mother's evil and apologized for her need to make these "subtle" remarks.

Next time she can go by herself... Or I might send my sister and she can deal with mom ^^.

Specializes in LTC and School Health.

You mom is such a cutie. She is just proud of her baby.

Specializes in LTC and School Health.
You have a MOTHER. You only get ONE of those.

She sounds like a very sick.. and a very sharp lady.

I am aghast that you are more worried about how YOU are viewed.. than supporting her.

Her illness is NOT about YOU.. it is about her!

Okay, maybe it is just me but the OP shared a very lighthearted story.

I'm sure he loves his mother very much. It was a cute story, that made me smile.

Specializes in ER/Trauma.

Oh dear, I have been there way too much recently.....my mother likes to throw around the "my daugher, the ER RN at xyz in the big city" card. I can tell right away when the staff is on edge abt me because she has blabbered on before I get there. Once when she was in icu, she and my sister were so bad I made sure I sent doughnuts and a fruit tray upon discharge out of sheer embarassment!

Specializes in Certified Med/Surg tele, and other stuff.

Are we siblings? :lol2: My mom did have a PE and she let everyone know in the ED, stepdown and med/surg that her daughter was a nurse. Not only a nurse, but an RN. OMG..the looks you get. Like you, I wish my mom would say nothing.

Specializes in Trauma, Teaching.

When my son was in hospital in another city, I tried to play down the whole "I'm a nurse" thing. But when you're really tired and the phrase "it saved him another peripheral stick for labs" slips out when the presence of a hep lock is questioned, you kind of give yourself away.

You have a MOTHER. You only get ONE of those.

She sounds like a very sick.. and a very sharp lady.

I am aghast that you are more worried about how YOU are viewed.. than supporting her.

Her illness is NOT about YOU.. it is about her!

I am sure the OP spent a lot of time worried about their mom. Please don't question that. Once the smoke clears from situations like that, you can see the silly stuff that happened and appreciate them for what they are: silly!

Specializes in Critical Care, ED, Cath lab, CTPAC,Trauma.
You have a MOTHER. You only get ONE of those.

She sounds like a very sick.. and a very sharp lady.

I am aghast that you are more worried about how YOU are viewed.. than supporting her.

Her illness is NOT about YOU.. it is about her!

I am sure the OP....and the rest of us that followed with our own personal stories.....we seeing the amusing side of the story.

Trust me when I say that I love my Mom to the moon and back. I love my Dad and miss him terribly. But we have all had those moments of wanting to remain anonymous unless absolutely necessary because we have all seen those "Medical professionals" that drive you insane.

Believe me when I say my sisters and I had NO hesitation on announcing who we were and what our accreditations we had when "They" ruptured my elderly mother's esophagus with the TEE and she ended up in ICU with a trach for 2 months......along with a suggestion they find a chapel and pray she heals. (She's right as rain..Thank GOD).

It is just one of the humours stories when your parents embarass you......as I enjoy embarassing my children......any opportunity I can. :lol2:;)

Specializes in IMCU.

I've been thinking about this. If it really doesn't matter to us if someone in front of us is a nurse (or the family of) then it shouldn't matter if they tell us.

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Specializes in IMCU.

I am sure the OP spent a lot of time worried about their mom. Please don't question that. Once the smoke clears from situations like that, you can see the silly stuff that happened and appreciate them for what they are: silly!

Indeed.

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Specializes in Psych.
I laughed out loud when I read your post!!! I could just picture the whole thing! I was just in the ER (not mine) this weekend with a family member, and I warned my hubby....do not mention that I am a NURSE!!!! They did a really good job taking care of my family member and I tried to keep my mouth shut except for please, and thank you!

I went to the ER yesterday for myself, had blisters on my eyeball and freaked out. Turned out to be allergic conjunctivitis caused by something that got in my eye while cleaning. Told my husband not to mention that I was a nurse. He said I outed myself though when I said I flushed my eye with about 100 cc's of saline solution.

Specializes in Trauma, ER, ICU, CCU, PACU, GI, Cardiology, OR.

needless to say, our relatives could be our demise if they come for any procedure where we work bless their hearts :redbeathe. in the near future i shall post one of many relative incident stories of my own, for now i have to run to a meeting...relatives gotta luv 'em :cool:

It gets no better when they go without you. My mom went into the place where I work for a visit that wasn't emergent and proceeded to tell everyone she encountered from the registrar to the doctor that she is my mother. I asked her why she did this and she said "I thought I would get in sooner. It didn't work!"

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