Thanks for the support and opposition

[Jules A]

It always puzzles me when I see posters who come unglued after receiving opposing opinions to their threads. To me the beauty of an open forum is to hear the good, bad and ugly especially if you are trying to make an important decision. I'd urge anyone who only posts for cyber hugs and support to list that in their title so those posters who might want to encourage a different line of thinking don't waste their time.

What I personally have found is sometimes the opposite opinions actually have an interesting perspective. When a particular poster really irritates me I try to explore what exactly is causing such a strong reaction on my part. Some times I conclude the poster is just a twit but the truth is more often than not there is something I need to adjust on my end and I have learned important things from other members who have annoyed me. Try keeping an open mind. :)

[K+MgSO4, BSN]

Is it due to rhe fact that these people went through life getting recognition and cheered on for every little thing????? I mean a participation medal for everything, being told that they could do whatever rhey DREAMMMMED of etc.

Basically, never experiencing a knock down or knock back in life. Therefore never having to deal with negatives if they didn't want to.

I've just dealt with a 22 year old grad who when I counseled her regarding her behavior and dress code told me "mum said I am a great nurse".

[Jules A, MSN]

Is it due to rhe fact that these people went through life getting recognition and cheered on for every little thing????? I mean a participation medal for everything, being told that they could do whatever rhey DREAMMMMED of etc.

Basically, never experiencing a knock down or knock back in life. Therefore never having to deal with negatives if they didn't want to.

I've just dealt with a 22 year old grad who when I counseled her regarding her behavior and dress code told me "mum said I am a great nurse".

True and it makes me sad. A finger painting fit for display on Mom's refrigerator has turned into the next Picasso. Can you imagine going through life thinking everything should perfect and everyone will love and support you no matter how silly you are acting? It sets the bar very high. On one hand I'm a tiny bit jealous that they seemed to have missed out on eating dirt, the skinned knees, disappointments and tribulations of growing up in this world. On the other hand I would expect life will have some hard knocks in store for these little darlings that Mommy and Daddy can't fix and with no coping skills or history of weathering stress independently this will be extra difficult to manage.

[OCNRN63, RN]

I try to ignore those threads because no good can come from someone wanting unconditional acceptance. What makes me shake my head is students or relatively new nurses who insist they are "great nurses." How do you even know what a great nurse is at that point in your career? I can't fathom even having that kind of arrogance. I think I was a good nurse, but great? I can only think of a few nurses I know who I'd call great.

[NurseSpeedy, ADN, LPN, RN]

My favorite ones are those who ask a question and if they don't agree with someone's answer, they write them back full of attitude and rage. There's been a few of these recently....if you didn't want to hear the truth then why'd you ask the question in the first place?

[caliotter3]

My favorite ones are those who ask a question and if they don't agree with someone's answer, they write them back full of attitude and rage. There's been a few of these recently....if you didn't want to hear the truth then why'd you ask the question in the first place?

I have to daily refrain from giving a version of this post in response to several threads because I know my answer and I will be attacked forthwith.

[Jules A, MSN]

I have to daily refrain from giving a version of this post in response to several threads because I know my answer and I will be attacked forthwith.

I think my most favorite of all are the ones who in what I imagine as the most self-righteous tone write something like: thank you to those who actually offered positive suggestions. :)

[Emergent, RN]

I have to daily refrain from giving a version of this post in response to several threads because I know my answer and I will be attacked forthwith.

I feel bullied by this post.

[caliotter3]

I think my most favorite of all are the ones who in what I imagine as the most self-righteous tone write something like: thank you to those who actually offered positive suggestions. :)

Yes, and those "positive suggestions" are always what the OP wanted in the first place and had already thought of, so why bother with posting at all, unless all you want to do is to attack strangers on the internet?

[caliotter3]

I feel bullied by this post.

No, no, no! You are not the one being bullied! I am!

[Emergent, RN]

No, no, no! You are not the one being bullied! I am!

This is the last straw. I'm leaving allnurses forever.

[Jules A, MSN]

This is the last straw. I'm leaving allnurses forever.

Oh please no, not another "goodbye cruel board" threat!

[Here.I.Stand, BSN, RN]

I've just dealt with a 22 year old grad who when I counseled her regarding her behavior and dress code told me "mum said I am a great nurse".

Well if her MUM says so...