I called in to work,(last Friday - 0800) explaining that my Father had just passed away(O145)...and that I would not be able to come in to work (I did have the next three days off)and as his funeral would be out of state , so I would be using my PTO/ Vacation (four days) to make a week (7 days total off)...funeral would be on either day 4 or 5 depending on when it was arranged....
I was stunned to hear my direct supervisor tell me that I would have to come in and work my next regular scheduled days, as someone else had requested some time off ( the exact days I would need) in order to have a "gargage sale", so I could NOT have the time off to attend my Father's funeral. Worse I think was the remark "well he's not going anyplace now is he, so you do not NEED those days."
According to the good old employee handbook, three days is the time off allowed for an immediate family member's death...
When I went up the chain of command to explain and make the request (with the filled out PTO sheet in hand), I was told to take the time, paper was signed by CNO (Chief Nursing Officer). I made two copies of that paper, one I placed in my immediate supervisor's inbox and I kept a copy for myself.
I then went ahead and left for the funeral trip...
NEVER did I expect a telephone call to my cell phone (this call came within five minutes of Dad's start of his service by the way) from my direct supervisor teling me that if I was NOT at work within 15 minutes I would be terminated! I told her that was not possible and that she needed to read the approved PTO paper for the time off granted, and if she had any other or further concerns to speak with the CNO.
When I returned back, I found I was in fact terminated. The reason given was No Call No Show --not able to be contact by supervisor for explaination of reason not at work...
This termination paper was signed by my direct supervisor and the CNO...
Excuse me? Somehow the PTO approved paper was NOT in my file, but good old me had MY copy....oh so NOW my job is safe and sound after I can find the copy?
No, I am NOT returning to that place, and I would like to think that the NEXT time someone's family member passes, that those still there are treated with far more compassion and sympathy than I was.
Thank you all for reading this. That in itself is enough.
I was in nursing school when my father passed away and I immediately went home to take care of things. My mother was incapable of dealing with it. The head of the nursing department was going to fail me in two nursing courses and boot me from the program over this. However, the instructors in my remaining courses understood my predicament and allowed me to make up all work. My nursing department dean eventually relented, but from there on out (if not before), I had a very, very bad taste in my mouth from this school and how they treated some students (me) versus their treament of others.
Their treatment of you is disgusting and deplorable. I wouldn't work there anymore either. I hope you are feeling strong enough to report them as has been suggested by others. They really shouldn't get away with this. I'm sure part of you might just want to be done with them, but defending yourself and others to follow will be a nice legacy to leave behind. I can't understand how people live with themselves.
Specializes in Community Health, Med-Surg, Home Health.
I'm constantly amazed at the insensitivity exhibited by some healthcare professionals in positions of power. You deserve better, and I sincerely hope you find it.
Gentle hugs to you. (((((you)))))
I have to say the same; when you think you've heard it all...
My sympathy to you and your family. I could not believe what I was reading when looking at your post. Your employer, or past employer should be ashamed of what they did to you. How can anyone look at themselves in the mirror everyday and keep working for the same place knowing what they did to you??? What a group of idiots.
You don't need them. That is an albatross I would rid myself of rather quickly.
Again, my sympathies to you for the loss of your father. I lost my father in 2003 and it's not easy to let them move on. :heartbeat
I was in nursing school when my father passed away and I immediately went home to take care of things. My mother was incapable of dealing with it. The head of the nursing department was going to fail me in two nursing courses and boot me from the program over this. However, the instructors in my remaining courses understood my predicament and allowed me to make up all work. My nursing department dean eventually relented, but from there on out (if not before), I had a very, very bad taste in my mouth from this school and how they treated some students (me) versus their treament of others.
that happened to some students in my first semester class, one girl fell down while roller blading on her elbow, some how she become septic and went to the ER and missed a test, my teacher did not allow her to retake it and there was no way for her to pass the semester because of it...
pretty heart less IMO, i thought nursing was supose to be about compassion, guess not when it comes to students...
Specializes in vascular, med surg, home health , rehab,.
I am so sorry for your loss firstly, forgive me if am am repeating anything posted but after reading your post am so mad I couldn't read further. When you are able I hope you will take this to Human resources as you were fired unfairly. You had CNO approval, have proof of this and this is unfair dismissal. This has no business being on your record and it will be. I know I would never work for them again, but for the record I would make these "people" sweat. Damn I would even pay an attorney, just the sight of one should be enough. They are flat out wrong, on every level. You have proof. Common sense on your side. You would win. Sorry but this really makes me mad, the "caring" profession treating its own like dirt. I hope this works out for you, and again, I am sorry for your loss.
Sending warm thoughts and hugs your way. I am very sorry for your loss.
Good for you for getting documentation of your PTO approval- as others have said, when you are able, take this as far as you can. You deserve so much better, and as far as I can tell, your case is about as open-and-shut as it could be.
My condolences for your loss. Last year between April 17 and June 7 I had FIVE deaths in my family:bluecry1: The charge nurse actually commented, "Every time I turn around, you had somebody die!" I know, nothing like what you went through. All I can say for that is WOW.
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I was in nursing school when my father passed away and I immediately went home to take care of things. My mother was incapable of dealing with it. The head of the nursing department was going to fail me in two nursing courses and boot me from the program over this. However, the instructors in my remaining courses understood my predicament and allowed me to make up all work. My nursing department dean eventually relented, but from there on out (if not before), I had a very, very bad taste in my mouth from this school and how they treated some students (me) versus their treament of others.