Thank you for your sympathy NOT

allnurses Guide · Jul 4, 2008

You poor thing, I am so sorry you have lost your father and to be treated like that at work is inexcusable.

I am very lucky where I work, we aer given as much time as we need after a bereavement.

Babs0512 · Jul 4, 2008

I am so sorry to hear about your father. The treatment you received was inhumane. You could fight it and win, but why bother - find another place to work that appreciates it's employee's and respects family a bit more.

Keep us posted

God bless

Auntiegrade_Amnesia · Jul 4, 2008

My heart goes out to you and your family for your loss, and the profoundly insensitive manner in which you were treated. It is utterly appalling and inexcusable..but not entirely surprising. And people wonder why there is a nursing shortage.

bethin · Jul 4, 2008

Sorry about your father.

And I thought them calling me on vacation (as I was sitting on a Caribbean beach) asking me if I could work was bad.

Management has hit a new low.

oramar · Jul 4, 2008

I have a simliar story for you. I have a friend who worked night turn through his mother's illness and funeral because his manager begged and bullied him to do it. He wanted to take FMLA for her illness and bereavement time for her funeral but manager carried on so bad that he did nights. It was quite exhausting and later on he became quite bitter when that same manager took of 12 days for her husband's brothers funeral. The moral of the story is that he should have never allowed himself to be abused like that. I am glad you did not put up with it. You have handled the whole thing correctly as far as I am concerned.

racing-mom4, BSN, RN · Jul 4, 2008

Holey smokes would fire be coming out of my ears on this one....

Talk about sensitivity!!! Just out of curiosity, what type of job was this, nursing home? or hospital?? Not that it matters, just curious.

Good luck on your new job search.

You have your own personal angel above who will be guiding you to find the perfect job. That must be nice to know....

suzy253, RN · Jul 4, 2008

I'm very sorry for your loss and the treatment you had to endure.

VivaRN · Jul 4, 2008

Is nothing sacred?

The nerve of some people. I am so sorry you had to go through that, as if dealing with the death of a parent wasn't enough. And you were smart about it too, getting that letter signed by your CNO. I am glad you recognize that some things in life are worth more than a job. If I had received a phone call like that the conversation would not have been civil.

As Bethin said, management has hit a new low. :banghead:

Let's hope for a wonderful next position. You deserve it.

MzMouse · Jul 4, 2008

My deepest sympathy for the loss of your father. I hope you find a terrific new job.

ktwlpn, LPN · Jul 4, 2008

I called in to work,(last Friday - 0800) explaining that my Father had just passed away(O145)...and that I would not be able to come in to work (I did have the next three days off)and as his funeral would be out of state , so I would be using my PTO/ Vacation (four days) to make a week (7 days total off)...funeral would be on either day 4 or 5 depending on when it was arranged....
I was stunned to hear my direct supervisor tell me that I would have to come in and work my next regular scheduled days, as someone else had requested some time off ( the exact days I would need) in order to have a "gargage sale", so I could NOT have the time off to attend my Father's funeral. Worse I think was the remark "well he's not going anyplace now is he, so you do not NEED those days."
According to the good old employee handbook, three days is the time off allowed for an immediate family member's death...
When I went up the chain of command to explain and make the request (with the filled out PTO sheet in hand), I was told to take the time, paper was signed by CNO (Chief Nursing Officer). I made two copies of that paper, one I placed in my immediate supervisor's inbox and I kept a copy for myself.
I then went ahead and left for the funeral trip...
NEVER did I expect a telephone call to my cell phone (this call came within five minutes of Dad's start of his service by the way) from my direct supervisor teling me that if I was NOT at work within 15 minutes I would be terminated! I told her that was not possible and that she needed to read the approved PTO paper for the time off granted, and if she had any other or further concerns to speak with the CNO.
When I returned back, I found I was in fact terminated. The reason given was No Call No Show --not able to be contact by supervisor for explaination of reason not at work...
This termination paper was signed by my direct supervisor and the CNO...
Excuse me? Somehow the PTO approved paper was NOT in my file, but good old me had MY copy....oh so NOW my job is safe and sound after I can find the copy?
No, I am NOT returning to that place, and I would like to think that the NEXT time someone's family member passes, that those still there are treated with far more compassion and sympathy than I was.
Thank you all for reading this. That in itself is enough.
Reigen

That really stinks-sorry for your loss

mpccrn, BSN, RN · Jul 4, 2008

i'm sorry about your dad. :icon_hug:

although not quite as bad, i did work for an ICU once that told me "child care is not their responsibility" and i'd need to show up for my shift after i called the hospital to tell them my babysitter was just run over by a truck on her way to my house to watch the kids so i could go to work. she was a patient in the ICU i worked at! I told them they best put extra long vent tubing on cuz if i showed up for work that day, my kids would have to come with.

management wants their nurses to be kind, considerate and compassionate to their patients and families. why don't we deserve the same compassion from them??? :confused: