Teacher and Student Intimate Relationship: Is it ok?

sjoe · Sep 16, 2003

"Inappropriate. I can't imagine a professor with a shred of ethics participating in such a relationship."

Any and all reputable schools have strict policies against such involvements. Generally it is acceptable ONLY after the student has finished all professisonal involvement as a student with that school AND at least one year has passed since the time of that involvement.

Otherwise, the instructor/professor is subject to sanctions, including discharge and losing one's certification to teach. ( And, of course, jail time if the student in question is under 18.)

This is as it should be.

oceanblue · Sep 16, 2003

Originally posted by Gomer
Let me guess -- the teacher is married to a spouse that doesn't understand him/her and the student is an "innocent" who is looking for guidence and true love -- ah, a match made in heaven. Give me a break! Stupid, stupid, stupid -- just asking for trouble.

I totally agree with Gomer!

NO! NO! NO!

NurseSDP · Sep 16, 2003

Absolutely not!! It puts both parties in a highly unethical and unprofessional position with serious repercussions for both sides. If you love each other so much, it will wait until the student is completely done with school before turning into ANYTHING except a student-teacher relationship. I'd bet things would cool off way before graduation...

zudy · Sep 16, 2003

No.

Tweety, BSN, RN · Sep 16, 2003

Originally posted by mother/babyRN
3rd shift guy...Interesting that viewpoint is from a man.....Women feel differently...Flame or no flame, there comes a point when you have to make responsible choices...As I said previously, if it is a true love relationship, it can wait..If it can't wait and allows ethics and unprofessionalism to get in the way, SOME on should acquiece their position.....Period.....What if the "love" relationship is between two people with great discrepancies in age? Hence the power thing...Or the Oedipus complex, or any one of a number of things...Best not to split hairs IMHO, and do the right thing, which is NOT to condone involvement in the first place, while there is a teacher/student relationship...Not fair to them or, more importantly in the setting described, ANYONE ELSE in the program being graded and or evaluated by said instructor...Absolutely all about bias here.....

Yes, isn't interesting that the one who believes in love and romance is the gay guy and not the females, you guys are tough! :)

You didn't flame btw, you stated your opinion.

We are in agreement on several if not most of the things in your post. First of all I hope I didn't come across that I condone teacher/student relationships. It should never have been allowed to develop. But since it did, to say it is wrong and should end is not right to me either. I feel definate sacrifices need to be made, they need to deal with the consequences, whatever they may be. They need to separate their professional school lives with their romance lives.

I believe in love. I believe whom we choose to love sometimes isn't up to us.

Katnip, RN · Sep 16, 2003

I think it's inappropriate. I have friends who teach college classes, and wouldn't dream of encouraging any kind of personal relationship with a student.

This may sound harsh, but they've told me pretty much what Gomer said. A lot of instructors take advatage of students, and go through them like water each semester. They profess true love, and when a new, more interesting student comes along, it's bye, bye.

I think most deans would frown on this kind of relationship.

fergus51 · Sep 16, 2003

Youth is full of blind passion and stupidity... If it is a real love, it can wait until school is done. Otherwise you know who would end up paying the highest price for it: the student...

SnowieRN · Sep 16, 2003

Well I will have to say that it depends on the situation. :eek:

If they were dating before that, its not really fair. Im dating a guy right now that teaches a class that I will (more than likely) have later on in school. If that happens what am I supposed to do? I cant not take the class, and it would be pre-mature to end the relationship just b/c of that.

I dunno.. I think it matters on both people. If I got into a class, and had that teacher, and then mid-semester he asked me out.. Id have to say no, favouritism?

Jacki · Sep 16, 2003

If you have got to ask then you already know that its not ok...

bedpan · Sep 16, 2003

Wow! You actually have time for a relationship while you are in nursing school?!?!?

I'm impressed!

CougRN · Sep 17, 2003

Snowie, I think your situation is unique. In your case I wouldn't see that being a problem. But otherwise I think most schools do not allow this to take place. There should be something in the professors contract that states this is inappropriate. If I was in the class I would worry about the student getting special treatment. Plus what a strain on a relationship to be graded by your sig-other.

fergus51 · Sep 17, 2003

Snowie, I knew a girl in your situation. He taught 2 classes we had to take. One she took by correspondence, the other she took with him, but the TA graded her papers, not her boyfriend.