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I asked the boys, about 40 of them, aged from 16-18 if they'd ever watched Media, and they all laughed.

'Shall I take that as a yes?' I asked, and there were further chuckles and nodding heads all round.

You see, as the school nurse, I'd been asked to talk to the senior boys about 'sex and all that sort of stuff.' With such vague guidelines, I chose to talk about an area that has been coming an ever increasing concern.

'Do you like it?' I asked, and no one said outright they liked it.

'Do you think it's healthy or harmful?' They all said it's harmless, because the participants were consenting adults. So I asked them what's their favorite type of Media, and the answers were varied, although hot young blondes, and horny teens topped the list of favorites.

'Was that 'horny teen' legal?' I asked, and the laughter died away. They'd never thought of that before, they'd also never thought of sex-slavery, but now wasn't the right time to talk about that, as I felt they would stop listening if I started lecturing.

Although Ivan, one of the Russian lads raised his hand in protest. 'But sir, I only watch **** Media.' The room erupted, and the merits of **** Media were briefly discussed. I decided to get personal.

I asked them to raise their if they wanted to get married and have kids one day, and they all raised their hands.

'So what age is it okay for your son to watch Media?' They paused, giving it serious thought, before generally deciding that around 14yrs old is good.

'And what age is it okay for your daughter to watch Media?' I was greeted with silence.

No one wanted their daughter to ever watch Media, because deep inside of them, they know Media is not good, and they know it is degrading to women, regardless of consent.

We talked about other things, from relationship to STD's, but only briefly, because there's only so much you can teach them in one-off, one hour session.

But I wasn't there to lecture them, but hopefully to get them to think.

Then you haven't seen me in the bedroom. ;)

Aha!

Built like a Brick House, eh? ;)

Gosh, it would be so wonderful to have no cellulite, no wrinkles, no saggy tummy after 4 kids, boobs that are perky! You are so darn lucky!!

wOOt! :up:

Studies indicate otherwise, actually. Abstinence only education does effectively teach consequences of unsafe sex practices, and therefore does reduce STI and pregnancy rates. HOWEVER, comprehensive sex education still statistically is the better method of approaching sex ed to lower teen birth rates and teen STIs.

My abstinence only sex Ed taught me that if I don't stay pure for my husband, he won't love me as much.

I'm obviously exaggerating, but the abstinence only sex I got focused on the fact that if we had premarital sex the bond with our spouses would be weak.

We even did a nifty little activity were we used duct tape to symbolize our virginity. One group stuck the tape to their arms a couple times and removed it. They then folded the tape in half (sticky side in). The other group just folded the tape in half sticky side in without sticking it to anything first. We then tried to tear the tape apart. The group that stuck the tape to their arms first pulled the tape apart easily. That group symbolized the heathens that had premarital sex. It irreparably damaged their ability to bond. The other group could not pull the tape apart. Those were the ones that waited until marriage. They touched briefly on stds but they never went into symptoms or how they are contracted. They never spoke a word on how to prevent them because OBVIOUSLY none of us would ever have premarital sex because they made us sign a card promising that we would remain virgins until marriage :sarcastic:. I can't speak for all abstinence only sex Ed, but that was my experience. I'm guessing some abstinence only sex Ed is better than others, but mine sucked, Haha

I did get a 20 minute lecture on STDs in health class though, so it's better than nothing.

Specializes in M/S, LTC, Corrections, PDN & drug rehab.
Built like a Brick House, eh? ;)

Gosh, it would be so wonderful to have no cellulite, no wrinkles, no saggy tummy after 4 kids, boobs that are perky! You are so darn lucky!!

wOOt! :up:

Hah! I'm still working off the weight after my first child because I gained 100lbs. My boobs have NEVER been perky, I always had DDs or bigger. Haha!

A natural woman beats any brick house any day in my book, honest, the problem with Media for me is that after a while those actresses look artificial and not as desirable as a natural woman.

Specializes in critical care.
I think the point with the teens and Media, besides the exploitive side of the industry fringe, is that it isn't representative of a sexual RELATIONSHIP and at that developing age, their expectations can get pretty warped.

Wait.... So when the UPS guy comes delivering a package, it's not realistic to then engage in (mumble mumble sex acts that may get me in trouble on AN)? He's going to be really disappointed.

I kid, I kid. You make a valid point, but honestly I think if good relationships have been modeled for these kids as they've grown, it'll be pretty evident that this stuff is fake as fake gets. It's also not unreasonable to have a talk about this, putting it in healthy contexts for the kid in question, if you feel it may need to be brought up. Maybe I'm idealizing all of this but I can recognize I can't control all my kids are exposed to, especially as they get older. I can deny and reject it, or I can help put it into a context that fits good relationship boundaries and healthy expectations. I'd rather help my kids make sense of it.

Personally, I think Media actors/actresses and the things they do on film are so unrealistic that it harms the sexual relationship between couples. I don't think that is "safe".

Women in general have such feelings of inferiority regarding their bodies - I'd always be wondering if my husband was reacting to how much he loves me and my body or if he was thinking about the Media actress while he was supposedly making love to me.

Making love . . . I guess I'm old fashioned. It is supposed to be fun and meaningful and can be a quick tryst while the kids are asleep or a lazy weekend together. But if he's thinking of Media to get excited, I would not feel loved.

That's not safe. In my opinion. Maybe I'm too romantic.

What a horrible sin . . . . . romance. :facepalm:

I think that as long as those watching Media realize that the relationships in Media are not at all what real romantic and sexual relationships are like, it won't harm a couple's relationship. That's why it's important to educate on what a real healthy relationship looks like.

My boyfriend watches Media. It doesn't bother me one bit. However, I am confident in my body and I KNOW that he loves me and my body. I never quite understood why some women don't like their significant others watching Media. As long as it doesn't interfere with their sexual relationship I don't see the problem.

But it to each their own I suppose.

Wait.... So when the UPS guy comes delivering a package, it's not realistic to then engage in (mumble mumble sex acts that may get me in trouble on AN)? He's going to be really disappointed.

so.... No tipping the pizza guy with sexual favors?

Specializes in M/S, LTC, Corrections, PDN & drug rehab.
so.... No tipping the pizza guy with sexual favors?

Or what about helping the pool boy cool off?

Pulling the popcorn..... Carry on.... LOL :D

Specializes in M/S, LTC, Corrections, PDN & drug rehab.
Pulling the popcorn..... Carry on.... LOL :D

You know they make website for that. But I think the popcorn might get in the way. :p

You know they make website for that. But I think the popcorn might get in the way. :p

LOL!!!!!! :D sex ed was never this much fun in my days hahahaha

The only time I had issues with my husband and Media was when I was pregnant and over emotional.

He works in another state, we see each other every 2 weeks AT BEST.

I would much rather he watch that and handle himself than look for relief elsewhere.

Just my feelings.

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