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I asked the boys, about 40 of them, aged from 16-18 if they'd ever watched Media, and they all laughed.

'Shall I take that as a yes?' I asked, and there were further chuckles and nodding heads all round.

You see, as the school nurse, I'd been asked to talk to the senior boys about 'sex and all that sort of stuff.' With such vague guidelines, I chose to talk about an area that has been coming an ever increasing concern.

'Do you like it?' I asked, and no one said outright they liked it.

'Do you think it's healthy or harmful?' They all said it's harmless, because the participants were consenting adults. So I asked them what's their favorite type of Media, and the answers were varied, although hot young blondes, and horny teens topped the list of favorites.

'Was that 'horny teen' legal?' I asked, and the laughter died away. They'd never thought of that before, they'd also never thought of sex-slavery, but now wasn't the right time to talk about that, as I felt they would stop listening if I started lecturing.

Although Ivan, one of the Russian lads raised his hand in protest. 'But sir, I only watch **** Media.' The room erupted, and the merits of **** Media were briefly discussed. I decided to get personal.

I asked them to raise their if they wanted to get married and have kids one day, and they all raised their hands.

'So what age is it okay for your son to watch Media?' They paused, giving it serious thought, before generally deciding that around 14yrs old is good.

'And what age is it okay for your daughter to watch Media?' I was greeted with silence.

No one wanted their daughter to ever watch Media, because deep inside of them, they know Media is not good, and they know it is degrading to women, regardless of consent.

We talked about other things, from relationship to STD's, but only briefly, because there's only so much you can teach them in one-off, one hour session.

But I wasn't there to lecture them, but hopefully to get them to think.

Specializes in critical care.
so.... No tipping the pizza guy with sexual favors?

Only if there's a copy machine nearby to sit on.

Helloooo.

This topic is about teens, not your adult sex life or what your husband likes, that could be another thread if anyone wants to start it but really pretty irrelevant to 14 yr old boys who in general don't discern well between special effects and normal expectations or legit Media and exploitive Media.

You're researching of Media views in younger population. I don't think that you're a nurse in US. LOL..Nice try. Next time, play smarter and we will be a lot nicer.

Specializes in M/S, LTC, Corrections, PDN & drug rehab.
Helloooo.

This topic is about teens, not your adult sex life or what your husband likes, that could be another thread if anyone wants to start it but really pretty irrelevant to 14 yr old boys who in general don't discern well between special effects and normal expectations or legit Media and exploitive Media.

But weren't those husbands teens once?

It is important to talk to our children about Media & the affects it can have.

I vote for OrganizedChaos to start a "how to keep your husband/wife happy thread :D

Specializes in M/S, LTC, Corrections, PDN & drug rehab.
I vote for OrganizedChaos to start a "how to keep your husband/wife happy thread :D

LMAO! I don't think it would last long on AN. :p

OC, your husband's anecdotal evidence can't be relevant because he didn't grow up in these current times social media is expanding like wildfire, anymore than my SO's experience, who might say I'd give you a run for your money keeping your man happy in the bedroom dept :cool:It's irrelevant.

Specializes in M/S, LTC, Corrections, PDN & drug rehab.
OC, your husband's anecdotal evidence can't be relevant because he didn't grow up in these current times social media is expanding like wildfire, anymore than my SO's experience, who might say I'd give you a run for your money keeping your man happy in the bedroom dept :cool:sans Media. It's irrelevant.

He still had access to Media. He is only 30, so he graduated high school in 2002, he had access to computers/internet & he had no sex education. Of course every husband would say about their wife (& they better), if not I'd say give him the boot!

Again, it all comes down to education. Education is so important! We must educate our children about sex & Media. Realistic expectation about sex & body image is so important for girls & for boys too.

Dial up access at 14? Cell phone? Lap top? He didn't have the crazy access OP's group has right now. How is his experience at all relevant to youth's current widespread access to Internet Media?

You can't even compare the experience of a teen who had a flip phone with that of a kid with a smart phone.

Specializes in M/S, LTC, Corrections, PDN & drug rehab.
Dial up access at 14? Cell phone? Lap top? He didn't have the crazy access OP's group has right now. How is his experience at all relevant to youth's current widespread access to Internet Media?

You can't even compare the experience of a teen who had a flip phone with that of a kid with a smart phone.

He had access to internet & didn't die or develop an addiction. Considering he has an addictive personality, it is very surprising. He did a lot of drugs from when he was a teenager until his late 20s.

Why do you refuse to stay on topic? OP isn't about men and their sex lives who were 14 in 1999.

Specializes in M/S, LTC, Corrections, PDN & drug rehab.
Why do you refuse to stay on topic? OP isn't about men and their sex lives who were 14 in 1999.

I am on topic. If my husband who has an addictive personality didn't lock himself in his room & look at Media all day, Media isn't *that* bad. Yes, I know, Media is available 24/7/365. But it has been for awhile since the internet has started. *That* is my point. Yes, now we have smart phones, tablets & laptops. But 24/7 access to Media is nothing new.

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