I asked the boys, about 40 of them, aged from 16-18 if they'd ever watched Media, and they all laughed.
'Shall I take that as a yes?' I asked, and there were further chuckles and nodding heads all round.
You see, as the school nurse, I'd been asked to talk to the senior boys about 'sex and all that sort of stuff.' With such vague guidelines, I chose to talk about an area that has been coming an ever increasing concern.
'Do you like it?' I asked, and no one said outright they liked it.
'Do you think it's healthy or harmful?' They all said it's harmless, because the participants were consenting adults. So I asked them what's their favorite type of Media, and the answers were varied, although hot young blondes, and horny teens topped the list of favorites.
'Was that 'horny teen' legal?' I asked, and the laughter died away. They'd never thought of that before, they'd also never thought of sex-slavery, but now wasn't the right time to talk about that, as I felt they would stop listening if I started lecturing.
Although Ivan, one of the Russian lads raised his hand in protest. 'But sir, I only watch **** Media.' The room erupted, and the merits of **** Media were briefly discussed. I decided to get personal.
I asked them to raise their if they wanted to get married and have kids one day, and they all raised their hands.
'So what age is it okay for your son to watch Media?' They paused, giving it serious thought, before generally deciding that around 14yrs old is good.
'And what age is it okay for your daughter to watch Media?' I was greeted with silence.
No one wanted their daughter to ever watch Media, because deep inside of them, they know Media is not good, and they know it is degrading to women, regardless of consent.
We talked about other things, from relationship to STD's, but only briefly, because there's only so much you can teach them in one-off, one hour session.
But I wasn't there to lecture them, but hopefully to get them to think.
Personally, I think Media actors/actresses and the things they do on film are so unrealistic that it harms the sexual relationship between couples. I don't think that is "safe".
Women in general have such feelings of inferiority regarding their bodies - I'd always be wondering if my husband was reacting to how much he loves me and my body or if he was thinking about the Media actress while he was supposedly making love to me.
Making love . . . I guess I'm old fashioned. It is supposed to be fun and meaningful and can be a quick tryst while the kids are asleep or a lazy weekend together. But if he's thinking of Media to get excited, I would not feel loved.
That's not safe. In my opinion. Maybe I'm too romantic.
What a horrible sin . . . . . romance.
Media is definitely not for everyone, if you are thinking about whether your husband is thinking of a Media star when he's making love to you then that shows insecurity on your part (not meant to be offensive here), in that case, Media is clearly not beneficial to you or your marriage and by all means you should avoid it. We have to be careful and not fall into the trap and think everyone is like us. Some people enjoy Media with their partner and greatly enhance their sexual experiences. In that case Media is a tool that is helpful. Romance trumps the best Media in my book. My two cents.
Sex ed only (stressing the word only) has proven to be a disaster and it's largely attributed to the sky high teen pregnancy rates in many parts of the country.
Personally, I think Media actors/actresses and the things they do on film are so unrealistic that it harms the sexual relationship between couples. I don't think that is "safe".
Women in general have such feelings of inferiority regarding their bodies - I'd always be wondering if my husband was reacting to how much he loves me and my body or if he was thinking about the Media actress while he was supposedly making love to me.
Making love . . . I guess I'm old fashioned. It is supposed to be fun and meaningful and can be a quick tryst while the kids are asleep or a lazy weekend together. But if he's thinking of Media to get excited, I would not feel loved.
That's not safe. In my opinion. Maybe I'm too romantic.
Media is definitely not for everyone, if you are thinking about whether your husband is thinking of a Media star when he's making love to you then that shows insecurity on your part (not meant to be offensive here), in that case, Media is clearly not beneficial to you or your marriage and by all means you should avoid it. We have to be careful and not fall into the trap and think everyone is like us. Some people enjoy Media with their partner and greatly enhance their sexual experiences. In that case Media is a tool that is helpful. Romance trumps the best Media in my book. My two cents.
Well, I had to laugh out loud at the insecurity comment.
I think I'd be hard pressed to find any woman who wouldn't feel insecure standing next to someone built like a "brick house" and watch her husband pant over that woman. Not sure how but that song came to mind.
She's a brick house
She's mighty mighty just lettin' it all hang out
She's a brick house
The lady's stacked and that's a fact
Ain't holding nothing back
She's a brick house
Well put together everybody knows
This is how the story goes
She knows she got everything
That a woman needs to get a man
Yeah, yeah
How can she lose with the stuff she use
36-24-36, oh what a winning hand
'Cause she's a brick house
She's mighty mighty
Just lettin' it all hang out
She's a brick house
However, I want my husband to be making love to me . . . not another woman. That's not insecurity in my opinion.
Well, I had to laugh out loud at the insecurity comment.
I think I'd be hard pressed to find any woman who wouldn't feel insecure standing next to someone built like a "brick house" and watch her husband pant over that woman. Not sure how but that song came to mind.
She's a brick house
She's mighty mighty just lettin' it all hang out
She's a brick house
The lady's stacked and that's a fact
Ain't holding nothing back
She's a brick house
Well put together everybody knows
This is how the story goes
She knows she got everything
That a woman needs to get a man
Yeah, yeah
How can she lose with the stuff she use
36-24-36, oh what a winning hand
'Cause she's a brick house
She's mighty mighty
Just lettin' it all hang out
She's a brick house
However, I want my husband to be making love to me . . . not another woman. That's not insecurity in my opinion.
The good news is that music recognizes all sorts of body types.
I think the point with the teens and Media, besides the exploitive side of the industry fringe, is that it isn't representative of a sexual RELATIONSHIP and at that developing age, their expectations can get pretty warped.
You already know how you feel about the fashion marketing industry with their unrealistic thin women, throw in sex on steroids and there goes some more mind bending. Pretty hard on the self image, of both boys and girls. I don't know you can possible think that's healthy for teens.
AlphaM
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Media is definitely not for everyone, if you are thinking about whether your husband is thinking of a Media star when he's making love to you then that shows insecurity on your part (not meant to be offensive here), in that case, Media is clearly not beneficial to you or your marriage and by all means you should avoid it. We have to be careful and not fall into the trap and think everyone is like us. Some people enjoy Media with their partner and greatly enhance their sexual experiences. In that case Media is a tool that is helpful. Romance trumps the best Media in my book. My two cents.