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I asked the boys, about 40 of them, aged from 16-18 if they'd ever watched Media, and they all laughed.

'Shall I take that as a yes?' I asked, and there were further chuckles and nodding heads all round.

You see, as the school nurse, I'd been asked to talk to the senior boys about 'sex and all that sort of stuff.' With such vague guidelines, I chose to talk about an area that has been coming an ever increasing concern.

'Do you like it?' I asked, and no one said outright they liked it.

'Do you think it's healthy or harmful?' They all said it's harmless, because the participants were consenting adults. So I asked them what's their favorite type of Media, and the answers were varied, although hot young blondes, and horny teens topped the list of favorites.

'Was that 'horny teen' legal?' I asked, and the laughter died away. They'd never thought of that before, they'd also never thought of sex-slavery, but now wasn't the right time to talk about that, as I felt they would stop listening if I started lecturing.

Although Ivan, one of the Russian lads raised his hand in protest. 'But sir, I only watch **** Media.' The room erupted, and the merits of **** Media were briefly discussed. I decided to get personal.

I asked them to raise their if they wanted to get married and have kids one day, and they all raised their hands.

'So what age is it okay for your son to watch Media?' They paused, giving it serious thought, before generally deciding that around 14yrs old is good.

'And what age is it okay for your daughter to watch Media?' I was greeted with silence.

No one wanted their daughter to ever watch Media, because deep inside of them, they know Media is not good, and they know it is degrading to women, regardless of consent.

We talked about other things, from relationship to STD's, but only briefly, because there's only so much you can teach them in one-off, one hour session.

But I wasn't there to lecture them, but hopefully to get them to think.

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This poster cannot be for real. :sarcastic:

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New account, three new threads about controversial topics in one day, and indignant replies to comments... I smell fresh-baked troll.

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Because Media usage is totally healthy, and never involves abuse or sex trafficking, and totally doesn't damage the ability of people to form meaningful relationships, right?

ETA: I saw this just a few days ago: Lost innocence: Why girls are having rough sex at 12 | Australian Women's Weekly

And before anyone starts up with "that's not peer-reviewed!" duh, I know that. But it is an article that shows concerns from professionals who deal with children.

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I'm trying to show some of the difficulties that are facing teenagers these days, but I'm obviously not doing a good of showing it.

Perhaps I should explain a bit better some of the huge problems we face in school due to Media. It is my belief that it is the biggest danger facing children today. And while I avoid doing it, I almost feel we need to start teaching kids about morals.

Do you know that last time we had a talk on relationships, with the 4th formers (14yr olds) I confiscated a phone of two boys who were giggling, and they were about to watch Media involving a goat.They thought it was harmless, they weren't even shocked.

Have you ever noticed a sudden change in a 10yr old girl, that no one picked up on, and when you bring it to the attention of teachers/parents, discover that on her phone, she'd stumbled across Media, and in two weeks of this, it had affected her. She's in counseling right now, and the parents are feeling so guilty because they thought the phone protected.

Do you know that those protections parents put in on online are useless, and kids effortlessly bypass them, 'hide my ass' is only one site of many they use to get around Media filters.

Your comments is insulting. I've worked with children for the last ten years, and I'm disgusted at you.

How would you handle a sex-ed talk, when the Russians believe gay people should be shot, while the Saudis want to hang them. I'm sure in your politically correct, non-judgmental world you'd somehow manage to get through to them, good luck.

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I'm trying to show some of the difficulties that are facing teenagers these days, but I'm obviously not doing a good of showing it.

Perhaps I should explain a bit better some of the huge problems we face in school due to Media. It is my belief that it is the biggest danger facing children today. And while I avoid doing it, I almost feel we need to start teaching kids about morals.

Do you know that last time we had a talk on relationships, with the 4th formers (14yr olds) I confiscated a phone of two boys who were giggling, and they were about to watch Media involving a goat.They thought it was harmless, they weren't even shocked.

Have you ever noticed a sudden change in a 10yr old girl, that no one picked up on, and when you bring it to the attention of teachers/parents, discover that on her phone, she'd stumbled across Media, and in two weeks of this, it had affected her. She's in counseling right now, and the parents are feeling so guilty because they thought the phone protected.

Do you know that those protections parents put in on online are useless, and kids effortlessly bypass them, 'hide my ass' is only one site of many they use to get around Media filters.

Your comments is insulting. I've worked with children for the last ten years, and I'm disgusted at you.

How would you handle a sex-ed talk, when the Russians believe gay people should be shot, while the Saudis want to hang them. I'm sure in your politically correct, non-judgmental world you'd somehow manage to get through to them, good luck.

Did you just copy this from the other thread?

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Yes I did, because I felt it important, and gives some perspective, because on this site, it appears that sharing snippets of your experiences, to get people to think, is pointless, as they jump on you and accuse

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Your job as a school nurse is not to teach kids morals. Parents have the right to teach their children whatever they would like to as far as their family stance on sex and sexuality. Which in a perfect world, would be non-judgemental.

However, any sex ed talk at school should be after the content of your education is reviewed by parents, and permission slip is signed that they are consenting to you teaching their kids sex ed. In America, this is what happens at any number of schools. It is important to note that in my experience, kids that are in large groups of same aged peers are going to jump on the train, laugh, giggle and carry on and look for shock value, as for most it gets the teacher off of a very personal subject.

With all that being said, some kids will look at whatever they can on video websites, from sex to burping contents and find them equally hysterical. Kids can also read "romantic" novels that involve vampires and werewolves and lots of sexual tension. Parents can choose to deal with each situation as they see fit to, as every kid who watches Media or reads Media is not immoral. And shaming them into thinking they are is not right.

Again, as I mentioned in another thread on a controversial subject, if one is at the point in their career that there is a real burnout factor, that what was dealt with in a professional manner with parent input is now a source of jaded contempt, now would be the time to take a look at how you can perhaps talk with someone who can assist one in putting this all in perspective.

Best wishes.

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So when did ya'all ladies start looking at Media, if you did? I was probably 13 or 14. This was the late 90s. Mostly pics with a few verrrrry slowly downloaded files.

My husband and I watched Media together in the early years of our relationship. This was back in the early aughts when going to an actual store for your Media was still acceptable. Not everyone had broadband!

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Yeah probably early teens.

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I'm trying to understand what Media has to do with a sex ed conversation. Your job was to go in and talk about protection from pregnancy and protection from STDs. Instead, you went in and talked to teenage boys about Media.

I think at some point every child, especially boys get curious. They just do. I am totally bracing myself and hope my son never does? Yeah right. At nine he's gradually becoming aware of sexuality. But access to it is everywhere. And I don't think it's up to you to judge anyone who watches it. I have never met a man who hasn't watched at least one in their lifetime. I would also have mentioned that maybe it brings unreal expectations to a relationship, but you got into sexual trafficking and the double standard of boys and girls with them? Are you a teacher or a nurse?

Frankly, as a parent, I would be irritated with you. I talk to my child, we have had great talks from drugs, to alcohol, to smoking. It's been very abstract on sex, but maybe in the next year.

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Oh, now I see from your other posts. I don't even believe you are a school nurse here in America. We have our own culture here, the way we do things. They are not going to be the same around the world.

You seem maybe a little obsessed with sex and decency in our culture. Remember not everything Hollywood puts out is true, and you need to get a grip. Stop trying to incite trouble here.

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