I asked the boys, about 40 of them, aged from 16-18 if they'd ever watched Media, and they all laughed.
'Shall I take that as a yes?' I asked, and there were further chuckles and nodding heads all round.
You see, as the school nurse, I'd been asked to talk to the senior boys about 'sex and all that sort of stuff.' With such vague guidelines, I chose to talk about an area that has been coming an ever increasing concern.
'Do you like it?' I asked, and no one said outright they liked it.
'Do you think it's healthy or harmful?' They all said it's harmless, because the participants were consenting adults. So I asked them what's their favorite type of Media, and the answers were varied, although hot young blondes, and horny teens topped the list of favorites.
'Was that 'horny teen' legal?' I asked, and the laughter died away. They'd never thought of that before, they'd also never thought of sex-slavery, but now wasn't the right time to talk about that, as I felt they would stop listening if I started lecturing.
Although Ivan, one of the Russian lads raised his hand in protest. 'But sir, I only watch **** Media.' The room erupted, and the merits of **** Media were briefly discussed. I decided to get personal.
I asked them to raise their if they wanted to get married and have kids one day, and they all raised their hands.
'So what age is it okay for your son to watch Media?' They paused, giving it serious thought, before generally deciding that around 14yrs old is good.
'And what age is it okay for your daughter to watch Media?' I was greeted with silence.
No one wanted their daughter to ever watch Media, because deep inside of them, they know Media is not good, and they know it is degrading to women, regardless of consent.
We talked about other things, from relationship to STD's, but only briefly, because there's only so much you can teach them in one-off, one hour session.
But I wasn't there to lecture them, but hopefully to get them to think.
I'm interested in the studies you claim to know about that claim that abstinence ONLY sex ed reduces teen pregnancy. Could you post some links?
PS you need to stop accusing me of straw man arguments. It's clear you don't know what that means. I am not creating false enemies and then attacking them.
I believe teaching at home about "safe Media" is good practice.
I've never heard of "safe Media".
I got this great book a couple of years ago called "The Ultimate Guys' Body Book; Not So Stupid Questions About Your Body" that was written for fathers to read with their sons. I'll have to admit that I'm the go-to person for this kind of information though and it is kind of sad that some parents won't talk to their kids or having an on-going conversation with them about life in general.
I read some chapters with my son but he read the entire book himself. We talk about things from the book from time to time.
Some of the chapter headings:
I'm changing! What's happening to my body?
Why are my feet so big?
I've got BO - what's a guy to do?
I'm overweight - how much is too much?
My acne is scary! What's wrong with my face?
What if my friends try alcohol?
My testicles itch and look strange, is that normal?
Why do doctors check my testicles?
How do I know if my member is the right size?
Why do I get an erection when I don't want to?
What is a wet dream?
Why is it hard for my dad to talk to me about sex?
What's wrong with looking at Mediaography?
ETC.
It is written from a Christian point of view of course so it might not work for some folks.
"Safe" Media being actual adults, lack of violence or bestiality, reputable manufacturer. It bugs me when women and men are painted as victims of Media. Many people who work at legit manufacturers of Media actually enjoy their jobs.
PS you need to stop accusing me of straw man arguments. It's clear you don't know what that means. I am not creating false enemies and then attacking them.
You are clueless, you are attacking me for no reason, and attributing nastiness where clearly you red are the nasty one. Feel free to hit ignore.
Sex ed only (stressing the word only) has proven to be a disaster and it's largely attributed to the sky high teen pregnancy rates in many parts of the country.
"Safe" Media being actual adults, lack of violence or bestiality, reputable manufacturer. It bugs me when women and men are painted as victims of Media. Many people who work at legit manufacturers of Media actually enjoy their jobs.
Personally, I think Media actors/actresses and the things they do on film are so unrealistic that it harms the sexual relationship between couples. I don't think that is "safe".
Women in general have such feelings of inferiority regarding their bodies - I'd always be wondering if my husband was reacting to how much he loves me and my body or if he was thinking about the Media actress while he was supposedly making love to me.
Making love . . . I guess I'm old fashioned. It is supposed to be fun and meaningful and can be a quick tryst while the kids are asleep or a lazy weekend together. But if he's thinking of Media to get excited, I would not feel loved.
That's not safe. In my opinion. Maybe I'm too romantic.
Red Kryptonite
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Maybe next time you could leave out the wheelbarrowful of nastiness when you ask.