Thank you Ruby for bringing attention to this. To everyone who has shared their stories, you are very brave and I am happy you were able to get out. To those of you who have gone through this or are still, please know you are wonderful and do not deserve it.
I will not completely share my story because it would be too long to fit in to a post. We all have spoken about DV between partners, and some have touched briefly on child abuse. Often physical abuse is accompanied by verbal and mental abuse.
My abuse started at the age of 2 when I was sexually abused by my aunt's boyfriend for 2 years until I was 4. When I was 7 my father remarried and my stepmother abused me physically, verbally, and mentally. Her daughters would also do those things, plus one would sexually abuse me. After the divorce my father started physically abusing me. He sat on me one night and started strangling me because I wanted to go to the hospital to be with my dying grandfather. I went through many verbally and emotionally abusive relationships with men.
The biological father of my twins used to lock the 3 of us into the bedroom when he would leave for work and take my cell phone. I took the abuse so he didn't hurt them, but one day it wasn't enough. One boy was crying and he had enough and walked over and held a pillow over my son. After I stopped him he held a loaded gun to my head and threatened to kill me. It took me a few days to get my affairs in order and that was the last time I saw him, and the last time anyone laid a hand on me.
I am now married to man who isn't always NICE because he too came from a bad family, but he is by no means abusive. He loves my boys as though he are his own and would give his life for them. We are lucky.