My dad died yesterday

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My dad was diagnosed with NASH three years ago, and one of the things NASH makes you more prone to is liver cancer. Back in April he was diagnosed with stage 2 liver cancer. He spent all Summer getting tested/prepped for a transplant and a couple weeks ago, developed complications with kidney involvement. Developed Hepatorenal Syndrome. My stepmother called me last Wednesday to tell me he was no longer a candidate for transplant and they were discharging him home with palliative care and hospice. He got discharged on Thanksgiving Day. I flew down to VA with my 12 year old son and 10 year old daughter to be with him, say our goodbyes, etc. Those four days were the worst, but also most special days. I am trying to be grateful that we had time to say goodbye. We put up a tree for him that the kids decorated, we told stories, we cried A LOT, he gave us each a special gift. Leaving was the hardest thing to do, but I wanted to remember him that way and also wanted my kids to remember him that way. We left Monday night and he fell into a deep sleep shortly after we left and passed away yesterday peacefully with his wife of 30 years by his side.

Losing a parent really sucks, at any age. I am most sad that my two kids will not have their amazing grandpa watch them grow up. I am 44 and this is my first experience with a very close loved one passing away. There is nothing to describe it.

Just needed to share with my virtual nursing station. I am at work as the funeral isn't until next week and a lot of the arrangements were already made before he passed away. I need to be around my sweet little K-2 kiddos to help get me through my day, so staying home under the covers was not an option for me.

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I'm so sorry for your loss ((hugs)). It will hit you at the weirdest times (at least it does for me). I lost my dad very suddenly in 8/16. My mom went out for lunch with her friends and came home and he was on the floor. My kids were 10 and they remember Grandpa's sense of humor and support in so many ways. The worst for me is when I see/hear something and I think "oh I have to text him this" and I know I can't. A year plus later its gotten easier, but you have wonderful memories to help bring peace and comfort. I don't think you ever really get "over" it, you just keep moving forward. Much love.

I am so sorry for your loss (((HUGS)))

Specializes in LTC, Rehab.

My condolences. I lost my oldest brother when I was your age, so I totally understand.

Specializes in School nursing.

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I'm glad you got to spend time with him last week. He sounds like he was an amazing guy.

What a beautiful gift you and your children received in getting to spend that time with him.

Specializes in Hospice, corrections, psychiatry, rehab, LTC.

I lost my mother 33 years ago to breast cancer with mets to the esophagus. My mother was a career RN, one of the most clinically accomplished and caring nurses I ever knew. I spoke to her on the phone the day before she passed away. My sister told me that she had almost died the night before, but she was hanging on because the next day was my father's birthday. I asked her if she wanted me to come right away, and she told me "no". I believe that she knew that all that she had left to give me was sparing me the end. People had come and gone all day, friends and former coworkers. My sister and her then-boyfriend had been in the room pretty much all day. My father said that my sister and boyfriend went down to the cafeteria to get something to drink. He said "She waited until it was just me and her. She squeezed my hand, and she was gone."

My mother left this life on my father's birthday, in the hospital where she had been an ICU nurse and then a house supervisor for many years. One nurse who had worked with her for a long time told my father, "You have brought her home."

She has always been my role model for my nursing practice. If I have been fortunate, I am half the nurse that she was.

My condolences so sorry for your loss praying for you and your family

Sorry for your loss, it's never easy to lose a love one I pray that the Lord comfort you and your family in the days to come and keep in the for front of your memory all the good times you shared. His grandchildren will always remember what a wonderful grandpa they had. My condolences.

Specializes in Peds, School Nurse, clinical instructor.

I am very sorry for your loss. Prayers for you and your family.

Big hugs! I am so sorry for your loss. My father passed suddenly 2.5 years ago and it is such a difficult time.

Find peace in your memories of him.

Specializes in School Nurse, Pediatrics, Surgical.

I am so sorry. Your family will be in my prayers! Take care with yourself!

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Wishing you peace

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