My dad died yesterday

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My dad was diagnosed with NASH three years ago, and one of the things NASH makes you more prone to is liver cancer. Back in April he was diagnosed with stage 2 liver cancer. He spent all Summer getting tested/prepped for a transplant and a couple weeks ago, developed complications with kidney involvement. Developed Hepatorenal Syndrome. My stepmother called me last Wednesday to tell me he was no longer a candidate for transplant and they were discharging him home with palliative care and hospice. He got discharged on Thanksgiving Day. I flew down to VA with my 12 year old son and 10 year old daughter to be with him, say our goodbyes, etc. Those four days were the worst, but also most special days. I am trying to be grateful that we had time to say goodbye. We put up a tree for him that the kids decorated, we told stories, we cried A LOT, he gave us each a special gift. Leaving was the hardest thing to do, but I wanted to remember him that way and also wanted my kids to remember him that way. We left Monday night and he fell into a deep sleep shortly after we left and passed away yesterday peacefully with his wife of 30 years by his side.

Losing a parent really sucks, at any age. I am most sad that my two kids will not have their amazing grandpa watch them grow up. I am 44 and this is my first experience with a very close loved one passing away. There is nothing to describe it.

Just needed to share with my virtual nursing station. I am at work as the funeral isn't until next week and a lot of the arrangements were already made before he passed away. I need to be around my sweet little K-2 kiddos to help get me through my day, so staying home under the covers was not an option for me.

Thanks for listening

Specializes in LPN 8yrs RN BSN 1yr ICU Nurse Magnet Hos.

I am sorry for your loss! Stay strong!

Specializes in IMC, school nursing.

So, so sorry. Cherish the goodbyes and be thankful you had them. My wife and I have lost both parents. You are right, the loss is most profound on your children. You will find yourself jealous of peers with grandparents. Unfortunately this is the price of love. Praying for a vast loving safety net for you.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine how hard that must have been for you and your family. It takes a lot of courage to be able to be present for a loved one as they are passing away and it sounds like you guys gave him a beautiful last couple of days. I teared up reading your post. Hugs to you and your family.

Specializes in School Nurse. Having conversations with littles..

MHD-I am so so sorry for your loss. I have lost many very close family members. A few things I have learned and want to pass along -- Cling tightly to your happy memories. I am so thrilled to know you got to make those last great memories, hold on to them tightly. Allow yourself to grieve, but don't let grief keep you from enjoying the many, many blessings that you get to enjoy everyday. Life is too short not to take time to stop and smell the roses along the way. Hugggs to you to help you and your family through the holidays and in the future as you learn what the new "normal" is.

Specializes in RETIRED Cath Lab/Cardiology/Radiology.

Very sorry for your loss, smiling through the tears that you had some good time with him before he passed.

Do what you need for you, and for your family.

Hugs.

I am sorry for your loss and the difficulty that you are having right now. Sometimes it is good to work, but make sure that you take a little time at some point to grieve and continue to share the experiences with your children. You made his last days here on earth very meaningful and joyful by you and your children spending them with him. My prayers are with you.

I'm so very sorry for your loss.

I'm so sorry for your loss. Hope you can feel all the love we're sending you!

I'm so sorry for your loss. This is a difficult time. Thank you for sharing. I'm happy that you were able to collect memories for you and your family. Something that has helped me is Revelation 21:3,4. May your arrangements go well.

Sorry for your loss doesn't cut it, but sometimes that is all we can say. Thank you for turning to us. We are here for you.

Oh, I am so sorry for your loss. Sending you an e - hug.

I am so sorry for your loss. I know it isn't easy now, but I guarentee you he is in a better place now with no pain and no worries. You need to be stronger, for him..

Remember, you are loved and have faith.

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