After a LONG (8 month) search for a job, I finally have an offer.
To make a long story short:
June 4th, my condo burns down, I lost everything.
Insurance issues arise with the condo association, my choice:fight them in court or declare bankruptcy. I could not afford to fight them and was forced into chapter 7.
Turning lemons into lemonade, I thought to myself, well..atleast now I dont have ties to this horrible economy in Michigan..and I could relocate to get my dream job as a new grad, in NICU. (even if i decide to get the 1-2 years exp and come back)
Now with the offer in my hands..im terrifed. My boyfriend is NOT HAPPY with moving, but wants to be with me His misery makes it a lot harder. My parents are pretty supportive, but I am an only child and i will miss them alot. I will be leaving everything to start a new career in a new place, and on nights which i have never done.I have never really been this much "on my own". I want to take the opportunity but im scared right now...
any words of encouragement, has anyone done it? Thanks all, in advance. :heartbeat
A support system is definitely needed. Internet helps a whole whole lot as someone already pointed out. if u have someone to come back home to, to share ur day with, an added bonus.
If you love your job, there's the icing on the cake!If you don't and move so many miles to it...then that's problem waiting to happen.God Bless
Specializes in Case mgmt., rehab, (CRRN), LTC & psych.
I moved out of state for the first time back in 2005. I was 24 years old at the time, single, no boyfriend or children, and no extended family with me.
I am also an only child, but I think the move was harder on my parents than it was on me because they had never been more than a short drive away from me. I was happy to leave for several reasons. First of all, my family was not inclined to travel, so I had never really been anywhere before. Also, my mom and dad were overly protective, hovering, and I was dying to disappear from their intrusive radars.
Now my parents and I live over 1,400 miles apart, and they constantly ask me when I'll move back to California, even though it has been 4 years since I left. I might return someday, but not anytime soon due to the economic problems in California.
Loneliness was not much of an issue for me since I'm an introvert who never had an active social life or many friends to begin with.
You will, in the end, be a much stronger person for having made your own way in the world. My advice is to not expect too much too soon. Early in my husband's career, we moved frequently. We eventually decided that it took on average one year to feel that the new place was "home."
And don't take too much refuge in the internet. Get out, socialize, explore your surroundings.
Trust me I know how you feel, I just posted a similar thread called Job dilemma,there is a hospital in my neighboring state that is interested in hiring me but I would have to commute like 76 miles one way. I went ahead and googled the distance and according to the search it would take me approximately like 1.38 minutes to get there,but I know it is all BS cause in reality it will take me like 3 h to drive up there since I used to have at least 33 miles drive to my clinical rotation sites when I was back in nursing school and it took me like 1.5 to get there so how is it that 77 miles which is like double of what I would be driving would only take 1.38 hour..yeah right!!! But anyway I have a sick animal at home so moving overthere is not an option unless I can work like 3 12 rent a small room for 3 days and go back home the other 3,take my pet with me and moved there or hire a dog sitter.....it is tough to make such an important decisions but I'm sure you will be fine!!GD!!! Let us know what have you decided!! All the best to you!!
Try really, really hard to form some friendships OUTSIDE of work. It's very easy when you're in a new place to have your whole social structure develop from your job. While there's nothing wrong with having friends that you work with, it's a healthier situation (at least it was for me) when your social life and your professional life are not intertwined and interdependent.
Just my 45-year-old opinion....
I agree with this wholeheartedly. I am friendly with people I work with, but my true friends have nothing to do with either one of my jobs. Makes it so much easier that way.....
i did it and, while it certainly was not easy, i survived and was glad i did it. it was pre-internet, and i went to a nearby big city and bought a sunday chicago tribune (i was headed to chicago) and looked at apt. rental ads near where i would be working. i called and rented one and wired them the deposit and first month's rent. it was right after i graduated from college and 3 weeks after my dad unexpectedly died, but my mom insisted i go as scheduled. i went a week before i was due to begin working, and got my apartment set up, got unpacked, became familiar with my neighborhood, bought 2 months worth of el tokens, 4 rolls of quarters for laundry, stocked my kitchen and fridge, located a library, joined a ywca and made a couple friends. suddenly, i wasn't quite as lonely. all of a sudden, i felt all grown up!my phone (no cell phones yet) took a week to be connected:eek:but i survived.
I am single, and lived at home with my parents until I was 28. When I was 29, I took a job in another state that was a 10hr drive away. Moving out of home and out of state and to a new job was overwhelming, but it was one of the best times of my life and I met lifelong friends there and thrived in the new environment.
A couple of years ago, I moved from Australia to Pittsburgh for my job. It is definitely hard to be away from family (and that's a lot further than your trip!!!), and it was somewhat lonely to start with. Luckily, I had a couple of good friends here and also found an awesome roommate to move in with. I am not a fan of living with strangers, but I figured increasing my social circle couldn't hurt.. as it turned out we became very good friends.
You are starting with both an advantage and a disadvantage, moving with the boyfriend. Advantage because you have company and support. Disadvantage because it's easy to rely on that and not make the effort to meet new friends outside of the relationship.
Give it a try. You regret the things you didn't do more than the things you did do. If you hate it, go home again. You might find it the best thing you've ever done. I know for my career, I couldn't have had even almost the experiences I've had without moving.
I recently moved from Michigan to Georgia. I basically left the day before the interview, lolled around for 2 weeks until orientation, and then started working. I lived in a hotel for 2 months while I figured out where I wanted to live and bought a house. My wife and 3 children stayed in Michigan. The day I signed the papers they arrived at the new house with all our stuff. It was financially tricky but not really that bad and worth it!
I cant express how helpful all the advice here on allnurses is, and thank you to everyone for posting!!!
I took the job in West Virginia at West Virginia University Hospital (6 1/2 hours from home). On Nov 30th, I start in the NICU and I am very excited (and nervous!!)
I'm hunting for apartments which is pretty hard because Morgantown is a college town and housing is hard to find and expensive!! But im crossing my fingers and planning to possibly make a trip down on Monday to see things in person!
If I didnt take this opportunity to work in NICU (at a University hospital with Magnet status none the less!) I would have regretted it, and resented my boyfriend for influencing me to stay....Im off to start this adventure! I just hope it goes ok
What about taking a temp assignment or working for temp agency vs a move.
Maybe a 13 week contract will be enough time to find a perm gig and most agencies can set you up with back to back assignments. I use to be a Division Manager for one and we offered health insurance and kept the good nurses with work with little to no gaps between.
I moved for a job once. They laid me off 1 year after I sold my house!
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A support system is definitely needed. Internet helps a whole whole lot as someone already pointed out. if u have someone to come back home to, to share ur day with, an added bonus.
If you love your job, there's the icing on the cake!If you don't and move so many miles to it...then that's problem waiting to happen.God Bless