Ranting!...

mtdnk · Sep 4, 2011

I think it was a put on to get everyone to respond. BS for sure! Have a nice day!!

OneOfTheGoodGuys · Sep 4, 2011

Hey brother. This makes us look bad. As one male nurse to another (brotherbear-I'm assuming you're a guy) don't be vindictive. Do you really need eye contact to validate your profession? I know I don't. maybe that person has something going on in their life that affects their ability to be personable. But then again, maybe they really do think they are god. No matter what, the question is......

Does it really matter?

I don't really care if people think that they are better than me. I know what I'm capable of and I don't have to prove anything. In this same situation, I would ask myself "Do I want the extra money or don't I? Do I want to work this shift or not?" My decision would have nothing to do with whether I felt slighted by the person asking me to work.

Another piece of advice...

Think more about your patients. Sports are awesome, don't get me wrong. My fantasy football league is looking strong and my college team is looking promising. But that takes a back seat to my patients. I definitely want to win my league this year but I want my patients to have quality care above that. You are a nurse brother. This is what you signed up for when you went to nursing school. In the words of L'il Wayne, "I don't go around fire expecting not to sweat." So when the fire gets too hot, smile and sweat. Cause this is your career now. You can either rally against it by making vindictive moves against management or you can embrace it and be a better nurse than anyone would ever expect you to be. The choice is yours. Good luck brother.

wooh, BSN, RN · Sep 4, 2011

I work with a couple people like this. They will rant and rave all day that someone didn't say good morning to them. And all I can think is, "Really?" Just goes to show, if someone really wants to be offended,they'll find a reason.

kristykat, BSN, RN · Sep 4, 2011

Wow...talk about being passive aggressive...

determined2doit · Sep 4, 2011

"This is the second time I have shared this video in like, 2 days. But I REALLY think you would benefit from it OP"

Thanks for posting this link. It really was great and please keep up the positive work!

Brotherbear, sometimes it can be tough for all of us, but here's a thought that has helped me in tough times: It is better to understand, than to be understood. Take care!

cecilsgirl · Sep 4, 2011

Was it Mom or Dad,... who use to say??, or the bible..."Do unto others as you would have them do unto you" sorry if this isn't quoted word for word) and someone said once,"Two wrongs don't make a right" but then again,.. I have been there when I have greeted someone, and they just ignore you, ... ouch!

Katie5 · Sep 4, 2011

Assumptions..assumptions.

Esme12, ASN, BSN, RN · Sep 4, 2011

Hey brother. This makes us look bad. As one male nurse to another (brotherbear-I'm assuming you're a guy) don't be vindictive. Do you really need eye contact to validate your profession? I know I don't. maybe that person has something going on in their life that affects their ability to be personable. But then again, maybe they really do think they are god. No matter what, the question is......
Does it really matter?
I don't really care if people think that they are better than me. I know what I'm capable of and I don't have to prove anything. In this same situation, I would ask myself "Do I want the extra money or don't I? Do I want to work this shift or not?" My decision would have nothing to do with whether I felt slighted by the person asking me to work.
Another piece of advice...
Think more about your patients. Sports are awesome, don't get me wrong. My fantasy football league is looking strong and my college team is looking promising. But that takes a back seat to my patients. I definitely want to win my league this year but I want my patients to have quality care above that. You are a nurse brother. This is what you signed up for when you went to nursing school. In the words of L'il Wayne, "I don't go around fire expecting not to sweat." So when the fire gets too hot, smile and sweat. Cause this is your career now. You can either rally against it by making vindictive moves against management or you can embrace it and be a better nurse than anyone would ever expect you to be. The choice is yours. Good luck brother.

Although, I think this may be a hit and run for arguments sake and seeing the OP hasn't returned but just in case it's real I think he needs to hear what's being said.

ONe of the good guys.......That was very well put......well said! :yeah:

OP......I know that sometimes I maybe staring straight out ahead, or appear to at least, and never see who walks by the door. I just zone out for a moment and go to my happy place...:). It doesn't mean I'm being a Bioch or that I don't like you.....I just twitted to the twilight zone for a moment after a long day. You didn't hurt her by not comming into work you hurt your peers and the patients.

It must get very hard to carry that heavy chip on your shoulder....Peace

Ruby Vee, BSN · Sep 4, 2011

ok, so i just started at this long term care facility not too long ago. just yesterday i was passing by the staffing coordinator (who thinks shes god) obviously since she got put their by hr....walked past her and said hi, with eye contact and she did not even acknowledge me! what lack of ethics! yet she comes to me two hours later and asks "heh can you work the evening shift tommorrow".....i pretended like i could not even hear her and continued charting.
after her second try when she came closer to me i told her probably (not) and that i would think about it and would call her once i got home... at home i took my sweet time relaxing, watched my damn sports highlights and called her back and told her a big fat no. could have paid $$$ to feel the sobby expression in her voice. vengeance is glorious!

lack of ethics to not return a greeting? really? could it be that she had something on her mind besides you? i can see how you'd miss this, being so unprofessional and all, but your time in that facility is probably numbered.

pixie120 · Sep 4, 2011

I don't understand the OP reaction either. Someone doesn't hear me pretty much every shift when I day hi or bye (they are busy or whatever). No big deal, nothing to seeth about. Seems silly to me.

Yeah, I have always wondered about those folks that feel the need to have a great big reaction from me, when they dain to say hello to me, or goodbye, as if we are never to meet again? Must I STOP taking care a resident/patient/ important task/phone call/ to ACKNOWLEDGE YOU? MUST I do this daily, even hourly? WHY? Can I smile and nod, and then move on to the next task?????????????? There is a tone to some that when they say hello, the tone implies I must give them a great big greeting back...not familiar with this custom in my culture, umhhhhhm work culture, nurse culture, American culture in general. I see it a LOT with folks I deem "unmet need difficult".

netglow, ASN, RN · Sep 4, 2011

I am a good person so if I hear you I will at least look in your direction and give a quick smile/smirk/eyeroll to let you know I see you and hello but I am busy. However if I am really looking at something important and very stressed I probably will also block you out as another poster said she does. I can block out a house falling around me if it's that important that I concentrate. At those times, you don't exist.

Pepper The Cat, BSN, RN · Sep 4, 2011

Just remember this next time you need extra shifts/money - and all those available shifts go to other people.