"Not a Good Fit"

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Specializes in primary care, pediatrics, OB/GYN, NICU.

Hi All,

I haven't been on the forum for awhile.

2 weeks ago I had my yearly evaluation and I felt like I was ambushed.

When I walked in the room to meet with my supervisor, I was surprised to see the clinic director and office manager in the room as well. The first thing out of their mouth was " We don't think this job is a good fit for you. It's just not working for us." I was floored. I asked them what wasn't working and they could not give me any specifics other than I "didn't ask enough questions." ??? That blew my mind - I thought if they had any complaints it would be that I asked too many!

I have been working at this clinic for two years, never called in sick, worked every weekend and every holiday.

I thought things were going well. I liked my schedule and the staff and the patients. I never got any complaints. I brought in a ton of patients to the clinic. They said they would give me 30 days to try and see if they could make things work. I took a deep breath and said - "I have been here two years and never had a poor evaluation, as far as 'fit' I think 2 years is enough time to see if someone fits or not and I don't think 30 days would make any difference". I gave my 2 week notice on the spot. As soon as I told them I would be leaving they said "oh, we are so sorry it didn't work out...the patients are going to be so sad, they just love you and we have never had any complaints about you, you're productivity is great, you come in early and leave late, your charting is always complete, blah, blah, blah. I'm not sure what the problem is.

I've never had anything like this happen before. I can't believe this has happened. I feel like such a failure - I don't understand what I did wrong. My self esteem is in the crapper. I feel like I just can't even look for another job because I must not be a good enough FNP. Yes, I am definitely having a hard time with this.

Has this ever happened to you? Any advice please?

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Yes, it has happened to me. I chalk it up to being part of the nursing work culture because I never experienced it in the workplace before. Every place I have been before valued good employees. Personality conflicts were dealt with in a forthright manner. It never takes anyone two years to decide they do not like someone. You need to get it together and look for another job, any job at this point, depending upon your area. Best wishes.

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it's the economy,.........they need to cut the budget, and you were junior so, by by.

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Specializes in Nephrology, Cardiology, ER, ICU.

Is there one of these people who might give you constructive feedback?

I would enlist their help.

If that's not possible, then I would take a few days to think thru things yourself, realize that this isn't a reflection on you as a person.

I do think they did this in a very cruddy, unprofessional manner.

What kind of reference will they give you?

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They had an alternative agenda. You need to ask for an exit interview and make sure you are marked as "hireable" should anyone call for references. Were they in the process of being bought out by a medical group? Was there a specific case that went bad?

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Specializes in allergy and asthma, urgent care.

I'm really sorry this happened to you. I think it's incredibly unprofessional for them to spring this on you like this. Annual reviews should never contain surprises-if they had a problem with you it should have been addressed at the time it occurred, and not "saved up" until review time. I agree with carachel-I think they have another agenda. Maybe it's budget issues, maybe they want a friend in the position. I would definitely ask for an exit interview and find out how they plan to handle any requests for references. Then take a deep breath and get back out there. You'll find something better.

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Specializes in Emergency, MCCU, Surgical/ENT, Hep Trans.

RUN...don't look back. If you are as good as you say you are...they'll notice in the billing dept and you might get a call back or at least an exit interview with, "now, don't be too hasty..."

But, as others mentioned, I think the writing was on the wall, and your instinct served you well to do just what you did by giving notice. It is unfair and unfortunate that it comes down to the dollar (or ???). Your patients will miss you, but hopefully you have a competitor nearby in your city and can welcome them back to you with open arms. Make sure you don't have a "no compete" clause. Damn, this stinks. :uhoh21:

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I'm sorry this happened to you. I think this is a difficult time financially for many practices, ? was surprised to notice many empty spaces in the doctor's practices this week while the mid-levels are packed, people are worried about coming budget cuts, hmmmm...?

I would definitely have a friend call and ask for a reference to hear first hand what they will say since you know they are not completely trensparant in their dealings with you?

consider tail coverage?....

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Specializes in Nursing Professional Development.

I agree with the others.

What is written on the official evaluation form? Is there anything positive? If so, you can use those positive comments to help you get the next job. Are there negative comments on that eval form? If so, then you may be able to learn from that negative feedback.

Is there someone there who can/will give you a positive reference for you next job? That's something you need to focus on immediately. If you want to land on your feet, you need to use this next 2 weeks to get what you need and set the stage for getting your next job. You did them a favor by resigning -- saving them the trouble (and expense) of either firing you or laying you off. They may return the favor by allowing you to leave in a way that allows you to get another job elsewhere.

Mobilize your resources in this crisis and focus on landing on your feet. You can take time to wallow in self doubt and pity later.

Something similar happened to me years ago. It took a long time to recover ... but I found a new job quickly and that job lasted 5 and 1/2 years, when I left of my own choice to go get my PhD. That job gave me a decent place to work and a paycheck while I re-grouped and recovered, both professionally and personally.

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Also agree with what has been said. So sorry this happened to you. Rejection hurts, even when it's not personal, but - your new position may be even better than the one you left. Look at it as an opportunity to go in a new direction. You can do it!

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I am sorry but "the economy" is not an excuse for people to be rude to others. This is happenning to everyone at all levels and in all professions. It feels like a jungle right now where everyone is dismissing the others feelings. I understand that you have to be laid off but just do it in a professional and nice manner. I mean everyone knows the economy is bad. Businesses don't even want to pay unemployment... I am so sorry this happened to you. No one deserves to be treated like this. Do not think in any way or manner that you are at fault. Make sure that your references are clean and that somebody reliable will give you a good one. Ask them for a letter of recommendation. Take a few days and get back in the game. At the end of the day you made the right decision 'cause I would not want to work with people like that.

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I wonder if patients were preferring you over the MDs, so they felt they had to get rid of you so they could maximize their own dollars.

Sorry this happened. Take care.

Oldiebutgoodie

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